Gossip

[Izzy_*now*]

I think Izzy is dissing Lighter. Who else could it be?

Not in the least Ami
Izzy

[Hopalong]

Hi Izz,
Have you ever considered asking anyone not to PM you? Sometimes it helps to set that boundary. Or, you can use the Block Sender feature if you feel you'd rather not be approached privately.

It has helped me to set that boundary a few times...

love
Hops

[Izzy_*now*]

This would appear to be a Bcc error, or an intentional 'slip'.

What have we here? gossip, accusation with no proof anywhere to back up that suspicion

[Ami]

I am SO sorry. That was meant for s/one else and my own PRIVATE conversation. I am really, really sorry Izzy. Please forgive me . I ,honestly, did not send it on purpose. Gosh, please give me grace.    Ami

[Hopalong]

Ahh. Well then, Block Sender would protect you from that too.

((((((Izzy)))))))

love
Hops

[Ami]

Maybe community  has nobility and allows mistakes, Hops.           Ami

[Hopalong]

Healthy ones do!

Good for you for owning up.

xo
Hops

[Ami]

Thank you.
 I made a mistake and I do try to apologize, to the best of my ability , when I do. I am very flawed and I am sure that I do not apologize, as much as I should. I am trying to build my character, but it is a slow process.  Ami

[Leah]

Yes, Ami

Healthy community does allow for mistakes,

and apologies are warmly welcomed and received.

Love,

Leah

[Izzy_*now*]

I am SO sorry. That was meant for s/one else and my own PRIVATE conversation. I am really, really sorry Izzy. Please forgive me . I ,honestly, did not send it on purpose. Gosh, please give me grace.    Ami

For whom was it meant, Ami? How many people are in on your gossiping about me. I would like the truth.
I can understand a computer error. I would just like the recipient list.


--or as can happen on this board, I might have to suspect those who rush to your defence!
Izzy

[Leah]

Hi Izzy,

Rest assured, I have NOT written to Ami about you Izzy.

So therefore, please refrain from including me in your list of suspects.

I have merely written posting no.8 above, in of support of Hops' posting that in a healthy community we can fall into error and make mistakes.

All can error, myself included.

Ami is solely responsible for her own thoughts, words, and actions.   And she did apologize and openly admit to being "flawed" which I feel is commendable.

Personally, for me, a sincere apology is all sufficient.

Sincerely yours, with respect,

Love, Leah


Edit in:   I have just checked my inbox and I have NOT received a PM from Ami  about you Izzy.

The last PM received into my Inbox is a friendly encouraging PM from another board member, to whom I have not yet replied.

[lighter]

I'm confused, Leah.

How is an apology, for accidentally SENDING gossip ABOUT Izzy, TO Izzy....  constructive?

It seems that an apology for gossiping in the first place, would be more appropriate, IMO.

Of course, the most important factor with an apology, is not repeating that which we're apologizing about.

You agree?

Lighter

[Izzy_*now*]

I agree, lighter

and thank you for for your post.

and Leah, you are not on my list of suspects.

--re lighter's post I have to sit on this until I understand why this gossip is happening in the first place.

Izzy

[lighter]

Got it.


Lighter

[Leah]

Lighter  -  I agree, that when a person apologizes with genuine remorse then they ought to make an every effort not to repeat the same mistake.   (likewise, as in personal repentance)
                      
                         Grace and mercy extended affords the person to learn from their mistakes, and also, hopefully, realize the consequence and effect on other people, generally speaking.


              
Izzy  - Thank you, and I failed to extend to you my heartfelt understanding that viewing such a message must have been upsetting and hurtful for you.


Ami - I do think that you have been so hurt by what has transpired from December onwards, and that you may be feeling captive in awaiting an apology.  

                   I too have walked in those shoes in my life journey experience.  Invalidation leaves a person stranded in the drifting sand.


Love to ALL,

Leah