Letter to Dr G

[wiltay]

Dr. Grossman, YOU are being manipulated and don't even know it. That is my first guess.  That or you're just part of the sorry mess on this board. Or perhaps you are simply very naive.  You allowed Lighter to abuse Ami for a long long time and you also allowed a very shameless piling on in the Janet thread, actually a gang beating.   Lighter was always the aggressor, someone with zero good will towards Ami despite the pretense otherwise and this was very clear to anyone who liked and appreciated Ami. She does not come across well sometimes, but she is genuine and genuinely loving and Lighter only pretends to be.  Ami has only very recently gone on the offensive and the moment she did you completely undermined her and took the side of her enemies. This is why I stepped in.  I predicted you would do what you have done by blocking me.  I think you are either a coward unable to face the evil in others (and by extension, yourself) or you are just a phony.  Perhaps you are both.  I am posting this to the board.  Try to find the courage not to block it.

Bill Taylor
Seattle

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi Bill,

You are free to criticize my decisions on the board and make of them as you will as long as you don’t cross the line into abuse.  However, you are not free to violate board rules.  This is the second time you have referred to lighter in a post.  I explicitly told you it was not permitted because of the non-contact rule.  If it happens again, you will be banned.

Richard

[Ami]

Dr G
 Why  could Lighter refer to me many,many times in posts and the No Contact rule did not apply to her. I  do not  understand what the no contact  rule is. I thought that s/one could not GO on another person's thread. I did not know it meant you could not mention the name of the other person or refer to them. Lighter refers to me over and over and I don't see that she has any reprimands. I do not understand.
 On the Victim Mentality thread, there is an excellent example.   Ami

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi Ami,

In the Victim Mentality thread you posted to lighter and about her.  No contact means no contact—direct or indirect.  Please abide by the rule.  I will expect lighter to do the same.

This thread will be locked at the end of the evening (EST).

Richard

[Ami]

Dr G,
 There are  instances when others mentioned me and they were not reprimanded ,such as Finding Peace,in Changing's thread to you, who had a NC rule then. I think that it would be fair to rescind the reprimands against Bill b/c I do not think the NC rule was clear and many, many people violated  it without  any reprimands.   Ami

[wiltay]

     Richard, you are hiding  behind a rule of your own making in a very self-serving way.  The most appropriate adjective I can think of is "chicken-sh*t.' Now you can ban me for implying a bad word-lol! But it's to be expected--you are the Wizard of Oz on this board.   Now you say I cannot directly name the person behind 95% of all the trouble on this board, someone who's evil towards Ami you have always been blind to and have allowed almost free rein to perpetrate her relentless persecution of Ami.  You are very selective in your perception of abuse.  It's clear now where you stand, where you have always stood. 

   Someone recently discovered how childishly easy it was to create false identities on this board and pose as different people. This person DID it and you were none the wiser. You were informed of this and swore the person who told you to secrecy, not to let that get out.  She kept her word, and then you betrayed her. You came on o the board with the voice of all-knowing authority and declared with complete certainty that this person could NOT be the other people in question.  That was patently false.  It is VERY possible, and you know it, or should know it.  The last bit of respect I had for you has gone down the drain and that's a fair amount. 

   I do not claim to know THE truth about anything.  I only know MY truth and I must stand behind it until I am proven wrong. My truth senses a very bad smell on this board and some of it is coming from you.  If telling my truth equals abuse, then I plead guilty. 

Hi Bill,

You are free to criticize my decisions on the board and make of them as you will as long as you don’t cross the line into abuse.  However, you are not free to violate board rules.  This is the second time you have referred to lighter in a post.  I explicitly told you it was not permitted because of the non-contact rule.  If it happens again, you will be banned.

Richard

[Ami]

There are many, many times Lighter has mentioned me,by name, with no reprimand whatsoever.                Ami

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi Bill,

I warned you not to cross the line into abuse.  I consider your post to have crossed that line.  If you do it again you will be banned. 

Richard

[wiltay]

Richard, it is completely your call.  It IS abuse to violate your hospitality towards me.  That much I agree with.