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Re: G'ma passed today
« Reply #15 on: June 26, 2008, 03:50:46 PM »
Deb,

  Condolences to you and your H in your loss of G'ma.  It sounds like you and he are fortunate to have each other.

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Re: G'ma passed today
« Reply #16 on: June 26, 2008, 06:41:48 PM »
It's terrible that your familie's grief is compounded by the insensitivity and lack of warmth exhibited by your husband's remaining family members.

You'll of course go to the service, whether people make you feel welcomed or not.

You're going to support your husband and say goodbye to G'ma..... nothing else.

Those things can be accomplished without socializing with people who will, no doubt, be dealing with grief of their own.

Keep your goal in mind and forgive those who can't do any better.

Be glad you're able to teach your children and break that cycle.

(((((Deb, husband and children)))))

My prayers are with you, Lighter


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Re: G'ma passed today
« Reply #17 on: June 26, 2008, 09:33:34 PM »
I'm so sorry, Deb--and for your husband, too.  That feels so yucky.  And so hard for you to watch as it happens.

Please know that I am thinking of you this week as you and your family navigate the grief and confusion.

Love
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Re: G'ma passed today
« Reply #18 on: June 27, 2008, 12:36:30 AM »
Oh you guys, thank you all so much, good friends.....

TT,

Yes, gifts, makes perfect sense to me.. I had the experience to be with my mom in her passing.. Oh what *gifts* I have ....She lived with me and passed in my house.... we had hospice and a book they gave me called Final Gifts... what a comforting book..

I was so scared.. so, so scared.. at first and maybe would have missed things... but the Final Gifts we both recv'd....was such a comfort and we both are at peace.. and the memories... it has changed me... it has changed my thinking...

In the end.. we both had comfort and peace.........and they do not die alone (even if we can't be there) someone is there for them from where they are going....they are never, never alone... what comfort.....and that was only one of my gifts she shared.. and I listened...

My H's M has  *final gifts* he just is not aware of them yet..he will realize what they are.. he's grieving to hard right now.

Love
Deb

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Re: G'ma passed today
« Reply #19 on: June 27, 2008, 10:57:18 AM »
((((((Deb))))))  just thinking of you and your family today and hoping that you're finding comfort and peace.

And I love what you and tt shared about gifts...
my Grandma gave that gift to me shortly before she passed away and I will treasure it always.

Thank you both for reminding me.

Love,
Carolyn

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Re: G'ma passed today
« Reply #20 on: June 27, 2008, 06:51:14 PM »
(((((deb and hubby)))))

Thinking of you.

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