dates!!!!!!! yikes!!!!!!

[lighter]

It sounds like you're becoming more comfortable in your skin, Lup.

Finding peace with being alone.... instead of being lonely.

I think that's the best place to find new friends.

A place of want..... instead of need.

Don't lower your expectations....

keep doing what makes you happy.

The rest,

will come.

Lighter

[Lupita]

Yes Lighter, I feel more comfortable in my skin. What is happening with me? I do not know. It has a little to do with everything.

Detachment, Wayne Dyer, this board, ten session with a therapist, books, and and intense desire to change.

The first symptome that I was changing was mt feet.

I have very ugly feet. And I hated them. Since I came to live on the beach, you have to go bare foot to the beach and to swim and to the pool, etc, and I noticed that althoug I cannot model in TV a product for feet, there is nothing wrong with my feet, they are just too fat, but they take me everywhere and they are healthy, so I started to just do not care to cover my feet.

That was the first syptom that I was getting better. More comfortable about me. Incredible.

One of my dates mistreated me verbally. I did not start looking for what I did wrong. I just was happy when he left and I knew that he was a waco, and was happy he left. I knew I did not do anything wrong and that was his problem and another firnd told me that he was very happy that that waco psyco just left and did not to anything to me.

That was something else that let me to believe that I am getting better.

I know I am not a bad daughter. My mom is a bad mother and she does not love me. I am not bad. I know that now.

A lot of growinmg and imporvement.

Thank you Lighter for your kind response.

[lighter]

((((Lupita))))

You sound good.

All that pain leads to better places.... and you seem to have found one. 

There will be ups and downs.... just know the ups will come again and keep going.

Lighter

[Lupita]

Thnk you Lighter for your insightful thoughts.

Well, I had my walking club coming to my apartment on the beach soe we have a fibe mile walk on the beach.

For the first time I felt comfortable and I was pleasing people just for the peasure of pleasing not for the neediness of being aproved. But for the dilightful experience of having people an enjoy company.

Also, I walk bare foot with everybody and nobody gave any look to my feet.

Yes, Light, I am feeling more comfortable in my skin.

God bless this board.

Lupita

[Hopalong]

Cute feet.

Very cute feet.

(((((Lupita's pudgy toes...))))

Hops

[Lupita]

I have a date right now. He is coming to swim and we are going to the pool. Hmmm, I am getting paraboid. He mnight want to get insurance and kill me or maybe just needs a place to live.
Dont know why I feel that way.

[lighter]

Oh dear, Lupita:

Let us know how it went and please remember.....

your boundaries will be your best defense against future bad situations and relationships.

If you figure out healthy boundaries, put them in place and honor them.....

you'll refuse to let someone cross the first small line.

Remember..... don't make excuses, not the first one, for bad behavior.

Don't become confused by bad behavior, esp if someone's trying to blame you for something awful they did.

KNOW that it's crossing a boundarie and that's a deal breaker.

Walk away and you'll have room in your life to say YES to something worthy.

Lighter