Ami,
This topic really brought up some old mild pains for me around my last two Ts, the NT and then my therapist that had left after the NT went to her to try to get her on her side and try to get her to "throw me away" as unfixable too so that she could validate her position as well as team up in affirming herself.
The sad news is that my new T, the one that replaced the NT, did as well eventually "throw me away." At first she tried to remain true to her professional ethics and to give me the benefit of the doubt after her conversation with the NT, but she too had N desires as well as she was just not a strong enough person for me. Her heart is a caring heart, but I have grown so much that now I can see that her heart, practice and service is geared more towards her hidden selfish agendas more that it was sincere in helping others get close to God and heal.
Therapists are just people, some very wounded, that get a license to help wounded people. They are human and can make mistakes, that I grant and forgive. For the patient, who is capable of intense self examination and a deep desire to grow in love and understanding of God, it can be hard to find a T that will consistently encourage this, even in our distress times, who will stay strong; they are only human and go through their own life crisis. It is sad though when I found myself making excuses for them, empathizing for them and analyzing them, understanding them better than they understood themselves.
If you grow past your therapist then you need to just move on and get a new one, but that can be hard to do. Today, I just accepted what I did gained from the dysfunctional T's in my life and what help they did offer me, it is there. As well as I stay grateful that was given the gift of insight and strength to withstand being "thrown away by T's" who simply could not face themselves and throwing me away was an easy out for them.
Being such a person of integrity I would normally say well if they are rejecting me then there really must be something about myself that they are mirroring that I need to look at. I would think to myself that God works through people, our mirrors, to help us see and know ourselves. How many times I have done this, painfully faced what was being mirrored, took it in, honestly turned to face me and heal, yucky and humbly, but I just could not stand to not live in truth, even if that truth was a painful truth about myself.
The two T's in my life that threw me away, the NT and the regular T, did hurt and damage, more or less, but the wisdom and experience of unraveling such a mess of what is my stuff and what was their stuff was worth the price of pain, I'll take the wisdom of life trials and pains over comfort and worldly acceptance anyday.
Lise