Hello OC
You Go, gal!
You are in for the fight of/for your life and you have to be all about you with a positive outlook and no negativity from anyone, anywhere.
“I will NOT do anything I do not want to do“.---and there is no need to. Time for complete assertiveness for your own good.
I am in a lesser fight and, too, have shaken the N web that surrounded me for all my years into my 60’s. When that web has been shaken and only we can call the shots for No Contact, then we can concentrate on self….something that was a long time coming.
(minor recent examples)
I have noticed for me, with this recent (6 months now) attack by a car, I am in my third level of pain. and still doing as I want to do and nothing else. The person running the show abut my life, my helpers, is consistently pulling my services, from her ideas of the time frames, not from hands on treatment of me, let alone seeing me. I am standing on my own, so to speak, and demanding she not cut the services and it’s working. I will not be bullied. (I am thinking that 6 months imust be appearing to be too long a time to be in pain.)
The daughter of a girl-friend emailed last week that she was coming to town with a couple of friends, and we could all go “out and play”. They were a no-show and I was disappointed to be let down. I let her know in an email about my disappointment in her and that I don’t like to deal with people who break promises. They arrived last night and she called, we’ll get together and neither of us angry, now that I spoke up.
The ever popular , Ken, who would tie me up in 2 hour phone calls, has been limited to less that 15 minutes, by me. He doesn’t have the courtesy to ask if it is a good time, so I tell him it is not a good time. So-and-so is coming and I need the phone to let them into the building. I say how I am and then good-bye.
Every time I assert myself, for my own good, I feel better and better so less and less negativity comes into my life, and I now refuse to be stuck in the circle dealing with all the N-istic people…about which I learned just 7 years ago.
I want to live out my old age in peace, doing what I want to do and bowing to no one. I have no attachments/responsibilities and I find being alone, not lonely, is probably the way I was born, or made soon after.
So you said it gal. Assert yourself and be for YOU. It is paramount for your survival.
Much Love and Good Health
Izzy
