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Lucky

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Relational therapy
« on: October 28, 2009, 09:45:50 AM »
Relational therapy
Does it often work?
My sister told me today that she has had enough of how her relationship with her husband goes. So now they are going to have relational therapy. I am very worried because they have two children and it would be really sad if they would divorce. Is there much of a chance for them getting a good enough relationship with the help of therapy?
My sister also suffered a lot from our mother’s behaviour so that might be damaging their relationship but of course I can’t be sure.

BonesMS

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Re: Relational therapy
« Reply #1 on: October 28, 2009, 09:59:25 AM »
It depends on how motivated everyone is regarding working on issues and solutions.

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Lucky

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Re: Relational therapy
« Reply #2 on: October 28, 2009, 10:12:51 AM »
I am not certain what caused things starting to go badly but my sister says they hardly talk anymore and her husband is always doing things and they hardly spend any time together. Her husband told her that it has to do with them being so busy with the kids. but the thing is that a few years ago my brother in law told me that there had been a few times that he felt like packing his bags. I did not know what to say when he told me this and we could not go into it because there were other people nearby. After he told me that I have only told my husband what my brother in law said to me.
 

Sealynx

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Re: Relational therapy
« Reply #3 on: October 28, 2009, 11:30:21 AM »
Lucky,
A good therapist should be able to help the couple see their needs clearly and help each side to hear the other and explore solutions to their problems. Their job is not to control people only to reveal what is going on and help them formulate a plan that leads to a healthier relationship. Whether that relationship continues to be marriage depends on many things.

Sometimes people change or give up too much in a relationship. The marriage may or may not continue, but an amicable divorce with two supportive parents now happier alone than they were together can in my book be much better than two unhappy people giving children a very poor idea of what love and married life entail. Children know when mom or dad is not "okay." If they are raised to see marriage as a sad place of unhappy compromises, they may accept too much compromise in their own relational lives. I don't think seeking good professional help is ever a bad thing.

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Re: Relational therapy
« Reply #4 on: October 28, 2009, 08:18:43 PM »
(((Lucky))))
  I am sorry everyone is going through this. It sounds very hard. Sending heartfelt  wishes for a good outcome!                xxoo  Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

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Re: Relational therapy
« Reply #5 on: October 28, 2009, 09:49:33 PM »
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I have only told my husband what my brother in law said to me.

Good for you, Lucky. It is a tribute to who you are that you held that confidence close.

It's so sad when marriages disintegrate.

I almost think we except too much of people...to be "wedded bliss" for a lifetime.

Only a short while ago, historically speaking...no one expected such bliss.

love,

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Lucky

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Re: Relational therapy
« Reply #6 on: October 29, 2009, 04:22:45 AM »
(((Lucky))))
  I am sorry everyone is going through this. It sounds very hard. Sending heartfelt  wishes for a good outcome!                xxoo  Ami

Thank you Ami, my sister and her husband met about 24 years ago. My parents were against their relationship, I never really understood why. My sister does not want to share what is happening now with our parents.