performance review -- surprise! (not)

[Hopalong]

My Nboss just responded to our salary negotiations with a long email that
(hold your breath, this will amaze you):

1) enumerated and exaggerated every fault (I have some)

2) belittled, minimized and glossed over an impressive (not to him) list of accomplishments, initiatives, improvements

I marketed our company so well this year that despite the recession, he still made $4.5 million. But I'm paid about like a junior secretary. I even got us on Oprah.com. In national magazines (even editorial mention, not just advertising), on radio shows, etc, etc.

He just really got into it. Longest email I've gotten from him all year. Still get a tiny raise, but am being paid waaaay below my responsibilities and performance regardless.

I'm suffering but less than I used to. Overall, I'll be using this as more motivation to get the hell out of here into a new job.

One day it will happen and it will be SUCH a pleasure to leave.

thanks for listening,

Hops

[Sealynx]

You go girl!!

[Sealynx]

Nothing like an N in the works of an already bad corporate America!
My college just sent out emails to all faculty saying our records aren't complete. They want a RESUME. I've worked their for over 30 years. Isn't it a little late to see if I was worth hiring???

[CB123]

Bummer Hops.

That would just eat my lunch to have that happen.  Well, you have been in places like this before and you know how to be patient before you kick your way through the door.  Here's hoping that will be very soon...

CB

[Izzy_*now*]

Oh Hops

That is the unbelievableest that I've ever heard!
(((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))

love Izzy

[Hopalong]

He just loathes women, contempt drips from him (beneath the snake smile and gooey voice).

Yet he'll take me to lunch and tell me he feels so CLOSE to me. BLEAAAHH.

I loathe him, actually. Big spiritual job for me to set boundaries, keep my peace, and not hate him. I don't fear him any more, though. I've detached that much.

Thing is, you can't expect an N to necessarily fail. Business often rewards that kind of toxic power.

Oh I do want out of there.

thanks, all, Sealynx, CB, Izzy...thank you for your compassion.

xo,
Hops

[Twoapenny]

Hops, hoping that a new job comes your way really soon that guy sounds unbearable.  Can you go over his head for a raise or is he the top man?  Hope something changes for you soon!!  Two xx

[Hopalong]

Hi Tupp,

It's a small manufacturer, and he owns the place.
In fact, he thinks he owns the people.

 

Hops

[sKePTiKal]

I'll be making the requisite sacrifices to the gods of justice, that when you DO find a door opening to leave there, that the timing will be the worst it could possibly be for this slimeball... and that you feel comfortable enough to set a boundary that prohibits "helping him out" until he hires a replacement for you. You don't owe him any favors at that payrate, ya know?

[teartracks]

Hi Hops,

He just loathes woman, contempt drips from him (beneath the snake smile and gooey voice).

Oh my...is his name SLITHER?

It's hard not to be blindsided even when you know what you're dealing with. 

Your day will come, hang in there.

tt



 

[Nonameanymore]

Hi Hops,

I have witnessed people using performance reviews to get really nasty and to take out on others personal issues.
I wouldn't give too much importance.
A friend had a boss who was nasty to everyone and everyone had to go through a disciplinary every month!
Eventually everybody quit and now she is left alone to run an invisible team of staff.

P.

[Hopalong]

True enough, Perspehone.

I need to grab my career back and stop being afraid (and internalizing other's ageism and sexism).

There's hope for me!

thanks,
Hops

[gratitude28]

Hops, I hope you find someone who will appreciate you... but I think bosses (in my experience) tend to be egomaniacs and to feel threatened when they have a person who is very accomplished. It sets the bar for them, and sometimes I think they don't want to live up to that... Does that make sense? I am glad you realize your worth. Kisses, Beth

[sKePTiKal]

Beth, all too true about bosses!

I've had my share of experiences with some doozies. But since I've recently become "the boss"... I can at least speak from the "other side" now. There is absolutely no reason for bosses to fear talented people, their ideas, or input except their own insecurities and N-spots. A "healthy" company nurtures talent, rewards efforts and recognizes contributions - and treats it's employees like human beings - not some endlessly replaceable "commodity" like widgets.

It's important that when a company succeeds that everyone in the company succeeds commensurate with their contributions. And that it's not just monetary rewards or a token "award". And to my way of thinking, there's no basis for the belief that the only way to earn/keep respect is through a culture of fear. But that belief persists.

[binks]

Nothing like an N in the works of an already bad corporate America!
My college just sent out emails to all faculty saying our records aren't complete. They want a RESUME. I've worked their for over 30 years. Isn't it a little late to see if I was worth hiring???

Our school did the same a while back. It was actually a way of seeing what other qualifications we had in order to see if we could teach other specialisms/subjects. (In other words to save money on hiring new staff)