Harder the life, sweeter the song

[CB123]

I saw this quote as part of the trailer for the movie Crazy Heart.

It kinda burned into my brain.  I wonder how many of you all believe this is true.

It jolted me with the simple truth of it.  Well, to me.  I think that I believe it is true.

CB

[Ami]

Dear CB
 I think that it could be true if you can transmute the pain to maturity. If not, then it is just pain and can undo you.          Ami

[Gabben]

Perhaps it could be that where there is more strife there is more depth, or more meaning to life. Adversity creates character?

[CB123]

Maybe maturity=singing your song?

Just thinkin'.

CB

[teartracks]

Hi CB,

How would one know unless they've experienced both?  Going from there, I guess the  question would be, Who has NOT experienced both?  Then being the way I am I'd start breaking even that into increments trying to figure out just what part of the hard times could have possibly made it sweeter and what part of the good times made it sweeter and why.  I think I'd probably guilt trip me if I admited that the less hard times were sweeter. 

If by sweeter, you mean that we grow more in strength, dept and character - then, I'd definitely sign on to the hard times being sweeter.  But dang, I like it when the sailing is smooth and I can say, I don't want any character builder circumstances on the scene right now.  I want to enjoy the calm for a while.

tt

 

[bearwithme]

If by sweeter, you mean that we grow more in strength, dept and character - then, I'd definitely sign on to the hard times being sweeter.  But dang, I like it when the sailing is smooth and I can say, I don't want any character builder circumstances on the scene right now.  I want to enjoy the calm for a while.

tt

Nice point tt!  Let me sail away on that calm sea for as long as I am allowed to!!

I tend to believe in this quote to a degree.  I think that is why so many famous poets were more brooding and pain stricken than most and they were able to release that energy through their art.  Like artists in general, they put in their art all their deepest emotion and the more intense the emotion=good art!! Yes? No? 

We all have a much more sweeter song to sing than the N. 

Our song is not selfish like theirs, it is praiseworthy and bona fide.

Bear.


 

[Ami]

You know, CB, I see my song and it is so unlike how I have become. My song is light and I have become so heavy.My song is free and I am so burdened down by fears.
 Sometimes ,I see glimpses of my true song, though.
 It is a beautiful thought you had!        Ami

[Portia]

Mmmm I'm mostly with TT. And I automatically think: what if your life is so short and brutal that you don't have the chance to sing. Life for some is just hard and that's it. I guess I'm not a great one for these type of phrases because they hurt my logic. It could be used by some to say: accept your hard life, it'll make you a better person. Haha! Stuff that. On the other hand, if i think I have a hard life and my song is sweeter (than yours), I'm bragging about it, or being some kind of martyr. On the whole, I can't see me sticking this phrase up as some kind of affirmation. As if I'd ever do that, brag brag...  

[bearwithme]

Awwwwww CB.  You tell the truth about it and it evolves into beauty by itself...(um this is what I got from what you wrote). 

(((((((((hugs for you)))))))))))))))))00

BTW, what happened 3 years ago to make your song so sad?  Not trying to pry here so if you are exhausted to tell it all over again, no worries.  I appreciate the lives we lead on this board and can only imagine the beautiful song that would come out of us if we all put our minds to it. As Portia said, "It hurts our logic."

All the best to you and your children....

Bear

[Gabben]

CB,

I was very touched by what you wrote. This is a beautiful thread. As I was reading through your words, what sounds like an experience of transformation of something very dark and painful, something that you allowed yourself to go through rather than around or not at all, I heard myself repeating the Psalm about singing a new song.

The pains I am in are the same old song that has been singing in my heart since my mom abandoned me as a child, the song of loss, terror, blackness, confusion etc. This thread is giving me hope that one day I may be singing new new song of sweetness rather than this old bitter song that seems to stubbornly keep playing in my heart, but at different volumes levels as I work through rather than not at all.
Thanks,
Lise

[JudyK]

 We are all survivors, and that, alone should make the "song sweeter."
 I have a saying on a card posted next to my phone. It says, "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you do with what happens to you." As God is my witness, I try to adhere to that saying. My NM takes EVERY negative thing, in her life, no matter how small, and makes it 90% of her life.
  I have dark days, and sometimes welcome them, but ultimately, the sweeter song prevails.

[Ami]

You know, today a person I don't know very well told me she loved me. I had been telling her how nervous I was about a party I was having. IOW, I was being real, not the perfect person I thought I had to be so I wouldn't get hurt .
 Being real is so much easier and when s/one touches you, it is the real you,  they touch.
 I am able to be so much more real,lately.
 I think it is cuz I am strong enough to handle more rejection.
 I guess N's can't handle any rejection. That is why they are so false.
 I am having a new life cuz I can be more real.
 When I have my guitar lessons, I panic when I don't get it right away. He says, "It's OK you don't have to be perfect"
 It feels good not to have to be  perfect and people seem to like my non perfect self.
 It feels good.          Ami    

[Hopalong]

I'll sing about you, CB!

I think you have been through so very much (including not just loss, but injustice...which makes loss so much harder to bear) that it makes sense that you're still grieving and healing and have bruises on your heart.

Your phenomenal mind, attitude of gratitude...these are why you're still afloat. And your capacity for happiness.

You aren't immune to the weightiness of it all, why should you be? How could it not still roll over you now and then.

I am amazed you're not bitter. I believe I would be.

But I know that's not who you are. You are layered and brave and I hope your self-respect is a solid rock you stand on.

You have inspired me over and over to continue to recognize that good things lie ahead.

love
Hops

[teartracks]

CB,

The melody of your sweet song resounds in what you write!

tt