For my after christmas present to myself, I went to one of those personalized stores and bought a pretty gemstone bracelet that could be engraved. The heart charm says "Breaking Free Brings Great Rewards". Its a reminder to myself of many things I am consciously making an effort to leave behind from 2009 and there will be great rewards coming for my efforts.
Yes, in short, its all about no more NM drama for me. Literally, I have one small financial matter to clear up with her then its NC from then on. And, ironically, my brother is NC with her and has been since November because of her meddling in his marriage, which might lead to divorce.... so,ironically, we might both be NC, for different reasons and we can't even agree on her problems! But NC nonetheless!!