Author Topic: Text written by a (self proclaimed?) narcissist  (Read 1573 times)


Nonameanymore

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Re: Text written by a (self proclaimed?) narcissist
« Reply #1 on: January 22, 2010, 08:52:54 AM »
very interesting Lucky,
I also found this there:

I Frankly..this one aint so bad..obviously it has it's extremes, but I don't think anyone should be getting on a downer just because someone decides they don't fit the mold!
Take a look out the window...there's something wrong with everyone!! Watch oprah..watch J.Springer...check out your neighbours..theyr'e all faulty, just like us! So what's the big deal?
Forget this...There's no way im gonna get a downer on myslef for being messed up in a different way to everyone else...Im cool with it..it aint hurting anyone..and it works well for me.
Everyone just chill and be happy with your own brand of insanity..it's way cooler than some of the other choices, and you won't end up a snivelling victim!

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Re: Text written by a (self proclaimed?) narcissist
« Reply #2 on: January 22, 2010, 09:24:51 AM »
But narcissists are very good at PLAYING the victim. And MAKING victims.
It is interesting though to get an impression of how they think and function.

Nonameanymore

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Re: Text written by a (self proclaimed?) narcissist
« Reply #3 on: January 22, 2010, 09:40:23 AM »
the bit I actually wanted to highlight is when he writes

Im cool with it..it aint hurting anyone..and it works well for me

which is a totally N point of view
who has the certainty but an N that their actions are not hurtful???

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Re: Text written by a (self proclaimed?) narcissist
« Reply #4 on: January 22, 2010, 09:50:32 AM »
They really seem to think that they are not hurting others. A person without feelings can't judge an other persons hurt because they don't know what being hurt means. But there was a time in their lives that they did have feelings but these were lost because of being hurt as (small) children.

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Re: Text written by a (self proclaimed?) narcissist
« Reply #5 on: January 22, 2010, 10:59:27 AM »
 I think this person is probably a lonely adolescent or young adult coming to terms with the effects of being raised by Narcissists. But I don't think she is an N. I think what is most interesting about that rant is the sheer magnitude of it, much more likely the work of young person. And the lack of feeling she describes is not necessarily Narcissism. She is self diagnosing here using internet sources.

She never mentions a therapist. Since she refers to herself as the child of two Narcissists it is just as likely this individual doesn't have ready access to her real feelings or doesn't know what her wants and needs are. Feeling like there is a glass wall between you and what others feel can be a stage of coming to terms with the effects of N parenting. If she is young, she may, like many of us, have attracted lots of Ns' whose behaviors and perceptions of her she has mistaken for normal. She's may also have faced a good bit of rejection from peers due to the N behaviors she learned. She may have decided this is the real person she is.

She also describes, obsessive behaviors and being in survival mode. This shows a level of self-awareness that most N's don't have. As we have discussed here, many of our N's aren't that aware of survival needs and frequently run themselves and their businesses into the ground. People in "survival mode" often shut down their feelings. I think this person's main problems  could be depression and too many N's in her current life. I think she is beating up on herself, as only children of N can, by repeatedly calling herself a monster. Being a monster is better than being nothing at all. At least monsters can hang with monsters. I think of many of us have gone through a stage where we felt so different or bad and were labeled so unfeeling by our parents and other N's in our life that we might have seen ourselves as she does and if young enough written this long defense and plea for help.

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Re: Text written by a (self proclaimed?) narcissist
« Reply #6 on: January 22, 2010, 03:42:22 PM »
Narcissists are con artists in a sense.... especially to themselves.  It's a world not based in reality...... Either join the narcissist or go nuts around them.  A N must try to con or brainwash people into thier lonely world, and will do almost anything to reel people into this chaotic non-reality based world.  This is why you'll sometimes see a narcissist act normal and even admit shortcomings..... They can't do it long enough to grow or heal themselves....  My NM beats herself up all the time, hoping someone will soothe her.  It's all a serious game of attention getting, now that is reality.

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