Author Topic: Stages of Grief - Anger?  (Read 1006 times)

Overcomer

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 2666
Stages of Grief - Anger?
« on: April 01, 2010, 11:30:53 PM »
As you know, my dad died in September.  Right in the midst of my chemotherapy.  Now my cancer has returned and I am experiencing a lot of anger.  I cannot decide if it is from my dad or me.  I think it is me.
 
We have talked often of having rich n parents and thinking if we can just get to the point where they die, then the payoff will be worth all the crap we have endured all our life.  Now I have cancer and I will probably die before my mom.  She talked of giving me just enough to make it each month........said something about since I am going to die I should get some of my inheritance before I do.....

My anger comes from knowing that until the day I die, I will be dependent upon her.  She won't give me a lump sum that I can do with what I want, no she will give me just enough to pay my monthly expenses.  Period.

I asked her to ask her accountant what the best approach would be.  The thought of every other week sending her a reminder email or a reminder phone call...."mom, I was wondering when I could expect that check?"  And something like, "do you really need that much?  It seems like a lot.........."  Or down the road having her say,
"Why am I giving you this money, you seem to be living not dying" or something like that....

I am just so angry.  Life is so not fair!!!
Kelly

"The Best Way Out is Through........and try laughing at yourself"

Ales2

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 691
Re: Stages of Grief - Anger?
« Reply #1 on: April 02, 2010, 02:18:32 AM »
(((((((((((((Kelly))))))))))))


My heart goes out to you during this tough time. Your anger is more than justified and you are so right about life not being fair. Your Nm sounds awful (just like mine - who did a similar thing when I lost my job and then my health insurance a few months ago) and you deserved much better in your life. I hope you know that you are a wonderful, precious gift.... All the best to you.

Ami

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 7820
Re: Stages of Grief - Anger?
« Reply #2 on: April 02, 2010, 09:35:34 AM »
Oh Kelly. I am STILL stuck in this marriage after ALLLLLLL this time.                                            Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
   Carl Jung