I hope my mom follows through on this, BUT there's a few problems.
I think I told some of you that my parents have me in some financial traps. I spent 20 min.yesterday arguing with the Sprint lady to take my phone off of the family plan and make my own account. She said she can't do this, without my step-dad's PERMISSION. My step-dad called me and refused. He said "Why do you want to spend 50 dollars on your own cell phone, when it's only an extra 10 on the family plan?" My friend said I could just get another cell phone though.
After my mom said on the phone, "Then, don't talk to me anymore, but I will continue paying some of your loans." NO! My mom is evil and manipulative. She will continue to pay for my loans, but use it against me. I just sent in some paperwork to transfer the loans to my house and not hers. If I'm going to go no contact, I have to completely cut off ALL financial ties with them. NM will use this against me one day. She will tell everyone, "I'm helping her so much, and she's so ungrateful!"
As for my car, my step-dad just sent in the paperwork to get my name on it. I want to be able to trade in this freaking car and get my own. It sucks, because they're the primary titleholder, which leaves me feeling helpless. I can't do anything without their signed permission. When my mom bought this car as "a gift for me," I knew she had some tricks up her sleeve (She was using this gift of hers to keep me dependent and helpless). If I had my old car (which was in my name), escaping from her would have been so much easier.
I told my step-dad that I want my OWN stuff, so mom won't use this to control me. He said "No, she won't control you." Bullshit. It makes me mad that I'm the only one who gets NPD.
Any advice? I'm getting very anxious about money. I make $2,000 a month after taxes. $775 is rent, and the rest goes to other bills.
I thought about getting a second job, but all of my co-workers think that it's not going to be easy. My primary job is already ranked high on the stress scale, but the money isn't enough.
I'm so desperate to get away from my evil parents. After this weekend's visit, I just won't be able to spend time with these people anymore.
I'm even looking into the sex industry. Having a history of sexual abuse, I guess I'm able to "numb" myself in these situations and it doesn't look too intimidating. A lot of abused people use the sex industry to escape from their families. It's fast cash anyway in this economy.