Hey,
Yes very typical (addict behavior) let say (substance was never used again). You can't pick up that drug for you will abuse...you recover and heal in spirit, mind and body. You must face and heal your wounds. A very painful journey but with healing...spirit, mind, body. You have support and you must realize that you have not been the only one effected. Everyone you are involved with (plus yourself) is wounded.
So if you are a parent, a child, a family member, a friend, especially raised in a household of (addict) if you can see the drug of choice, pills, drinks, food, work, whatever it is...not so much (easier) but more clearly seen.......the drug of choice, the fix, the whats keeps them in denial, what keeps them from whatever they are trying to keep themselves from....and puts everyone, everything, 2nd.....oblivious to anyone's needs...I IMPO don't think that there is any difference of the way a family....functions with an addict....everything looks pretty much alright on the outside...and inside everything is very much different. Even a parent who is co- will do the clean up, keep seceret, try to make every thing work....and keep it looking as normal as they can (and the roles) the function is not different then in a household with (narcissism). Just another choice of drug....the emotional drug addict.
But ....all are wounded.
Now the difference is....people can recover, heal, body, mind, spirit. Can the narcissist? Do they have choice? Is this drug so powerfull and so addictive that to date they can't make that choice? When given...Choose? As you would in a substance intervention what do they choose? Some make the choice for T but they don't stay long enough.....and they use and abuse the drug of choice......which is probably the hardest for me to wrap my mind around. It's people and emotions. I was the drug.
I was the fix. I was the supply. Negative or Positive....I was the drug.
So you don't let them use you. There is always someone else they will use. You can put an arms distance between you and them.
You can have boundaries of steel. You can even enjoy them for just enjoyable moments but they do not discriminate and will use any drug potential they see.....ones you cannot protect.....ones that have no idea what they are seeking out........ones that don't know they are a drug.....(people are not drugs) What? Supply like what? How do I enable a drug addict when they don't do drugs?..........Because we are the drug...source of supply.
I didn't give supply and when it was needed.....no one around to get from......people not being able or even knowing what she was going to take from them.....(which was) not give a damn about putting anyone in danger and only caring about what she wanted...which was....her rules.....the worlds do not apply to her.........she targeted my D who is compassionate....but educated on this behavior........she was a source of supply for they see compassion as a weakness....and she saw my D as (not a minor) with a mind of her own, could do what she wants, but never seen........that she is aware and educated....to know what she was dealing with but young to feel uncomfortable to deal with (my friend) and how to do it......SO I DID.
I severed the friendship.
She can't be around me, mine or ours. She will not discriminate and any (human is potential).
She is to date a forever addict....even if she never uses a substance again.
She will continue to Use and Abuse.......People......positive or negative.....it's a fix.
Love
Deb
