How bad does the following email sound

[Ales2]

How bad does the following email sound? Let me know, thanks.

I left a message to cancel my thursday appointment. Sorry.  After I left last week, I thought you should know that I am not blaming you or holding you/therapy responsible for my lack of progress. I'm just not in a place where I feel like working on myself any further is going to result in changing my future. 

Thanks for all your help.

[seastorm]

The email sounds fine. It is not bad to stop therapy for awhile. It is your choice.

Sea storm

[lighter]

It looked fine to me too.

You don't have to convince your T or make excuses, in any case.

It's your choice, as SS related.

Mo2

[Ales2]

Thanks for the input. I thought the last sentence sounded very self defeating, but maybe not. I'm not taking a break - I am outright quitting therapy. Its been a huge waste of my time and money, with nothing to show for it. T keeps trying to give me free sessions, but I've had enough.....

[BonesMS]

Unfortunately, if the therapist is no longer helpful in any regard, then it's time to move on and terminate the therapist.  Been there!

Bones

[Twoapenny]

Ales, your email sounds very nice and if I was a T I would be very grateful to be treated in such a nice way.

I have been in therapy for ten years now, on and off.  There are times when it has been a real life line to me and times when I have felt that I will thump the next person that even begins to talk about feelings, emotions or making progress.  There are times when I have so much to say that it spills out of me like water, and other times where I just want to feel the sun on my face and not think about anything at all.  Every person is different and needs different things at different times - and a good therapist will understand that and will never take any decision you make about the amount or type of therapy you need personally.

Good for you for taking time out if you don't feel it's helping now.

[Ales2]

thanks. i'm more despondent about the whole thing - this really was my last chance with therapy. if he can't help me than basically no one can. he called me this morning about my phone message and said he had not been online and read the email. typical.  a year and a half wasted. sad.

[Ales2]

lesson learned i guess. published expert in Nism and still could not help me at all. go figure. 

[Sealynx]

Sounds fine Ales

[Gaining Strength]

Ales - your wrote "all lost" but I am wondering if all is lost.  I'm wondering if you gained anything even if you did not reach the intended goal.  I am also wondering if your therapist, an expert in Nism, IS the only person who can help you.

I'll say this and then be quiet - I don't think a year and a half is enough to get at and undo the wreck or devastation done by an N.

I encourage you not to despair but retreat and regroup and then keep your eyes open should an alternative come your way.

[Ales2]

thanks everybody for the input. i agree that maybe a year and a half is not enough to turn around 42 years of hell....(last month it was false accusations if you were following my posts).   i'll give that some thought and reflection. thanks!

[Nonameanymore]

Hi Ales,

Who is an 'expert in Nism'?
If you think about it, shouldn't it be like addiction counselors/therapists who were x-addicts themselves? What was his experience with Nism? This is what I would ask the next one around.

I remember when I was living in London in 2007 with the smoking ban that they brought us a support counselor who hadnt's smoked a single cigarette in her life that was totally inappropriate as they were supposed to be all of them x-smokers.

Just a thought I had when reading your post.

P xxx

[Ales2]

P - thats a great question about expert in Nism. He wrote a book on it and I could tell by reading the book he would understand a great deal of my problems with Nism.  thanks for your concern and input. its much appreciated.