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Twoapenny

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For Hops :)
« on: January 07, 2011, 11:23:47 AM »
Hi Hops,

I didn't want to take Lupita's thread off on a tangent by commenting on what you wrote about giving out advice so hope it's okay to start another thread with it instead?

But just wanted to say that the advice you've given me has always been spot on!  I think it's really good to get a range of ideas on a forum like this as well.  Everyone's at a different stage of healing/learning/ thinking/feeling and so on.  So what works one time might not another time, so it really helps to get different perspectives.  It also helps me knowing that you are a mum in a difficult situation with your daughter.  You kind of see it both ways - as a parent and as a child, and you've had to deal with difficult situations from different angles - wanting/needing to do what's best for your daughter but at the same time trying to heal yourself and cope with the problems that arose from your situation with your own mum.  As a mum myself - with a young son so these sorts of thing aren't a problem for me yet - it helps me see things from different perspectives and I think that gives me a better idea of how to proceed.

So don't go too quiet on the advice giving front!  I'd really miss it if you did xxxx

Gaining Strength

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Re: For Hops :)
« Reply #1 on: January 07, 2011, 12:25:09 PM »
Oh YES - I second what Twoapenny says!
It is more valuable than you know - even when it is not directly adopted it still have great value.
Don't go quiet Hops (unless you need the retreat for your own sake :D)

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Re: For Hops :)
« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2011, 08:50:21 PM »
Aww, bless y'all.

Nah, I am probably an inveterate advice giver. Just hope to do it with sensitivity and respect.

I'm a little quieter these days because I am just overwhelmed with work and house stuff. I'm sure I'll pick up steam again!

Thanks for the loving words.

xxoo
Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

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Re: For Hops :)
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2011, 08:27:57 PM »
Praying for a day - nay a whole "period" of not being overwhelmed  - for you and for me and for all of us!!!!

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Re: For Hops :)
« Reply #4 on: January 09, 2011, 01:50:58 AM »
Thanks, GS...

I spent 10 hours today working on bills, paperwork, bank balance.
And tomorrow I'm going to spend the day on my freelance edit.

And Monday I go back to "work".   :shock:

I did have some good things today. A girlfriend who also needs a get-things-done buddy at times, came over and we too a long brisk walk in the huge park near me, ate a healthy lunch together, and settled in the LR for the afternoon. Just quiet, few talk breaks, both of us working away. It was so comforting and supportive and she said my support in getting her out for a walk meant as much to her and her support in companionably doing paperwork with me. It just felt great. A new friendship knitting and I am graced again with wonderful friends.

When she left I made a lovely little omelet and broccoli dinner with toast made from my tumeric bread.
Another one's invited me over to see a movie tomorrow night, so that's my goal--if I edit all day then I can go see the 3rd in The Girl Who... series.

I had one bad thing today. But I'll talk about that on the Mothering Again thread.

I am knitted into life and I will not unravel.
xo
Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

lighter

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Re: For Hops :)
« Reply #5 on: January 09, 2011, 09:47:45 PM »
What a wonderful post, Hops: )

I'm so glad you're connecting and enjoying fellowship.

You're worthy and deserve friendship.

Lighter