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sKePTiKal:

--- Quote --- Things that others can take for granted about life and family and relation is Mystery to me.
--- End quote ---

Me too Starlight.

That can be a real depressing and self-condemning thought for me tho'. So I try to follow that up with:

"at least I'm thinking, reading, trying to learn..."  -- because people who take things for granted usually don't think about those things much. In fact, they probably weren't all that consciously aware of their opinions and habits as they developed them -- they just learned by osmosis... like kids learn their native language. Unexamined - they're going to have as much "negative stuff" in those areas they take for granted... as we might have questions, lack of experience, and yearning for the nirvana that we THINK those experiences are.

Couple years ago, I ran across a "recipe" for well-being - it was the conclusion of some studies by social psychologists, I believe. They were saying everyone NEEDS - Autonomy (boundaries & sense of whole self), Self-Efficacy (belief in one's own competence), and Connection (relationships and feelings of caring; being cared about). Those are the three "main ingredients"... and everything else is the spices & extra cheese or whatever we use to "customize" that well-being. It's like ground beef, onions and garlic... that could be the basics for Italian, Mexican, Cajun, or even 50's midwest potluck dinner casseroles...

hmmm. is it too late to eat breakfast?

Meh:
It's okay guys. Sometimes I just express and my questions are not always literal questions just my expression of where I am at.

Hugs (((HOPS and Phoenix))) You guys really are generous with your kindness. Thanks for listening. 

Meh:
Hi Hops, How are ya doin?

Hopalong:
Vewwy wewwy weawy.

D left her little poor starved kitty with me and I'm allergic but he's been through hell and back (the "friend" she left him with for 2 months, with permission, etc. -- literally starved the cat). So he's weak and lonesome and I'm coming home every night to feed and scoop, clean up, and then cuddle with him because I can't bear not to. He's eating more but it was such a shock. Former portly cat looked like he'd been liberated from a Nazi camp. And...I'm allergic to cats, so I am uncomfortable. But I'll deal. I love him too, and it's a way of loving my D.

BTW, my D was SWEET to me while here this time. One brief spat over leaving a kitchen mess, then a few hours later she brought me a lovely hot meal she'd made, and we started talking about the cat.

She's off back to NC for some of her mental health appts., and I am so very glad she's doing this. Was painful to pick up a copy of her hospital receipt from the trash and see "HOMELESS" as her official classification. But she's starting to do more active things and I still have hope. She'll be back in a week.

Nodding off...more later

xo
Hops

sKePTiKal:
Hon, it sounds like you need someone to come feed, clean and snuggle YOU!
Hope you get some rest.

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