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CB123

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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #15 on: July 29, 2013, 08:22:32 PM »
How are you, Peace?  Thinking of you today and wishing I could package up some "peace" to give you.  I agree with everyone who has written in the last couple of days.  You don't have to put a happy face on, or try to be upbeat.  We will listen and care for you even if you arent upbeat.  Although sometimes watching something really funny helps me even when I feel terrible.  If I were there, we would watch some stupid cat video on youtube.  That always makes me forget how bad I hurt--even if just for a minute.  Like an aspirin for the soul. 

Let us know how you are,

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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #16 on: August 01, 2013, 03:50:36 PM »
Peace:

I know you're exhausted, in pain, and contantly overwhelmed.

Please remember we're thinking of you, and listening when you need to reach out.

Lighter
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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #17 on: August 01, 2013, 11:57:49 PM »
Dearest FP

I just cannot believe what some people have to endure just to get through life. I include myself, yu and many others on this Forum.

I cannot believe the choices we make and I am positive now that if we cannot learn some wonderful lessons from our parents, we are on our own. There is no God watching over and protecting us-- my newly developed opinion, with my own experiences.)

I have been through similar to you, then 2 car crashes, then one after another that I cannot keep track and right now


:I do not know what to do:

I just recently realized that the choices were mine----not what _god_ set out for me, and I have basically been taking the road always travelled. Well now for a change. *I* will look after me, and not depend ion ANYONE else and travel my own road.

I know not what else to say.

Best of Luck

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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #18 on: August 03, 2013, 07:12:12 AM »
Hi Peace... how're ya doin?
Getting better, I hope.

Been thinkin' about ya!
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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #19 on: August 03, 2013, 11:46:20 PM »
I am so sorry this happened to you. No one ever deserves this kind of abuse EVER. No one. No dog, No cat, No child. And certainly not a woman. NEVER. No matter what you did or mistakenly think you did to deserve it.  You did nothing to deserve it.  I used to get beaten up by a man I loved more than myself and more than life. I could not stop loving him no matter what happened.
It has taken me decades to begin to understand it.

For some women like me we are trauma bonded with our lovers.  This means that when someone hurts us, instead of getting away as soon as possible we are HOOKED.  It is like being addicted to heroin or smack. Nothing anyone can say seems to penetrate the connection between the  man who hurts us and our hearts. On top of that is the humiliation of still wanting them 100 percent no matter what they do to us. Sometimes when the beating was really bad I was like a beaten dog and I would go with anyone who could give me even a morsel of love and it was always him.  So we spiralled into hell.
I am good at keeping up appearances and looked ok on the surface.  But this was like a death dance.

I have learned that is being trauma bonded. The reason I was trauma bonded is because as a child I had to love my parents no matter what.
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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #20 on: August 03, 2013, 11:51:33 PM »
Dear Peace,

You don't have to put on a happy face. The journey of finding people who don't require a happy face is just beginning for you. Find people it is ok to cry with.  They are rare and good.  Those tears honored by someone who cares will carry you to a new place you didn't even believe was there.

Rant, rave, cry and do it in OPERA if you want. This is a safe place. No one will say it is wrong to feel. You sound like a woman who needs the help of other women who care.

Many blessings to you.

Sea Storm
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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #21 on: August 04, 2013, 02:39:07 PM »
Hi Peace--
I don't know if you're able to be online.

We'll be here when you are able to.

And despite our urgings, nobody's going to judge you for anything.

Love and hoping to hear back from you when you can,

Hops

PS--(((((Sea Storm))))), that was amazing. Thank you.
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sKePTiKal

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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #22 on: August 11, 2013, 08:17:25 AM »
Hiya Peace...

How are you doing this week? Inquiring (caring) minds want to know!
Big hugs...

Amber
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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #23 on: August 16, 2013, 06:43:08 PM »
Peace:

Where are you now?

Are you back home?

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Re: Almost died - wish I did
« Reply #24 on: August 18, 2013, 07:39:51 AM »
(((Peace)))

I'm really sorry this has happened to you.  Rest and heal. We are here for you. Come back and talk when your ready. Your not alone.
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