Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/at-work-lindsey-novak/know-the-word-abuse-in-the-workplace-before-using-it.html

In reading that first letter......let me get this straight....the manager is "abusive" because she DARED to say "NO"? 

That was an odd one, Bonesie, the manager appeared to me to be going out of her way to make sure her employee was well enough to work.  That's a good thing, not bad, I'm not sure what the employee was complaining about here.  Most people complain about being bullied to go back to work before they're well enough, not the other way around!

I agree.  In her line of work, if she dropped an elderly patient because her back went out again, it would be BAD for both of them!

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/long-in-the-tooth-behind-the-wheel.html

I've been cutting WAY back on my own driving due to my vision changes and other health issues.  I recognize that, as a Senior Citizen, my reflexes and my sight are NOT what they used to be when I first started driving in my 20's.  And yet, I STILL get strange looks when I attempt to explain why I need alternate transportation to get from Point A to Point B and the bus just does NOT go there.  (Plus, cabs are expensive for those of us on fixed incomes.) Inevitably, some moron will comment:  "But....you're not that old!  You can drive yourself there!"  They just don't get it!!!

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130824

[Hopalong]

And when they don't get it...you don't have to justify it for their benefit...

Calm, serene Bones, just stating what she needs.
People can understand or not...
but our Bones knows what she knows.

xxoo
Hops

[BonesMS]

And when they don't get it...you don't have to justify it for their benefit...

Calm, serene Bones, just stating what she needs.
People can understand or not...
but our Bones knows what she knows.

xxoo
Hops

Thanks, Hops!

[BonesMS]

I was busy cooking at a Pool Party this afternoon and wound up having to shout.  The only other committee member that showed up to assist also insisted on being a Pain-in-the ASS and a pill about EVERYTHING!  No matter what was going RIGHT, he just had to pick it apart and be NEGATIVE, NEGATIVE, NEGATIVE!!!!     He also attempted to compromise the food safety because he "NEVER gets sick, therefore it shouldn't hurt anyone else!"  I told him to back off and leave it alone!  I also wanted to tell him to "PISS OFF" but there were children around so I had to watch my language!

Sheesh!!!!

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130825

"Abby" doesn't get it about the controlling mother who is attempting to order her daughter and son-in-law to have children because SHE wants a grandchild and is using the family farm to attempt to FORCE the issue.

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/too-many-joints-in-joint-ownership.html

The advice columnists just don't get it about addiction.  When one attempts to talk to a drunk, while their drinking, the only thing you wind up talking to is the alcohol, not the person!  Then you toss in pot PLUS Vicodin and one has one HELL of a mess to contend with!

[BonesMS]

This article REALLY upsets me:

http://www.addictinginfo.org/2013/08/25/south-carolina-restaurant-denies-service-to-african-americans-on-orders-of-threatened-white-customer-video/

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/troubling-facebook-post-warrants-followup.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130826

The character that the first letter writer describes sounds like a "playa" who is probably already married and lying about it.  If he's not married, then he's got several women "on the string".  Can we say:  "Chain-chain-chain!  Chain of fools"  or  "Mister Big Stuff"?

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/08/help_my_husband_doesn_t_want_me_to_expose_his_affair_but_i_think_i_should.html

[BonesMS]

Bones, I am SO happy your dental work is going to be covered!

I am joyfully imagining a big Bones GRIN.

xxoo
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

I'll be meeting with the new dentist next Monday.  I hope to get this resolved soon as it's uncomfortable to eat.

Took me until now to be able to verbalize anything.

I went to see the new dentist and the appointment did NOT go well at all.  She wanted to rip out my implant because she really did not know what to do with it.  She also wanted to rip out other teeth, including those with root canals, because they have become worn down, etc.  She thought everything was infected.  TRUST ME, if that many teeth were infected simultaneously, I WOULD BE THE FIRST TO KNOW!  (She's so young, she looks like she just recently graduated from dental school.)  Right before that, the peridontist told me that my gums were fine and she didn't see any sign of infection anywhere!  I told her, (the  dentist), that she was NOT going to rip out my implant, resulting in my jawbone being ripped and torn to shreds, then having to wait ANOTHER TWO YEARS for my jawbone to heal because of my osteopenia before anything else can be done.  I've had enough of THAT!  Besides, the implant is at the stage where all it needs is to have the top put on it!  After everything I went through, plus the expense, waiting for the implant to be ready for completion, I'm NOT having it ripped out by some kid who doesn't know how to work with implants nor work with people over a certain age!

Now I have to go back to my dental insurance to see if they can find someone who can work with my situation.  I sent the insurance people an e-mail because my landline phone is not working.....again! 

I'm PISSED OFF!!!!!   

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/sex-hater-seeks-help.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130827