Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones
 I am sorry you are not feeling well. My heart goes out to you, dear. I wish all is well. You have certainly  been through enough sorrow for 10 people's lifetimes with an NM like you had.                     Ami

Thanks, Ami.

I'm still awaiting the results of my nuclear stress test.  Not knowing is making me nervous.  When I was in the cardiology office, I had to fill out a questionnaire regarding my family medical history.  Both parents had a history of heart problems and this is one genetic "gift" I could do without.

Bones

[Ami]

I am thinking of you, Bones. It sounds really scary to be waiting for test results. My heart goes out to you,friend. I will be awaiting good news.     Ami

[BonesMS]

I am thinking of you, Bones. It sounds really scary to be waiting for test results. My heart goes out to you,friend. I will be awaiting good news.     Ami

Thanks, Ami.

To top it off, I get a phone call from NDoofus last night asking me about my health and test results.  I was too tired to fuss much....just did not have the energy.  Then she tells me that her youngest sister has been diagnosed with esophogeal cancer that may have mestastisized to her liver.  This sister is younger than I am.  I can empathize for her sister as I have had family members who died of cancer and I've seen how much pain they are in.  Hopefully, facing her sister's mortality will be a wakeup call for NDoofus.  NDoofus also informed me that she apologized to her other sister for violating her boundaries and that her sister accepted her apology.  (I have to say, that is progress.)  She stated that she is frightened for both her sister and me because of what each of us are facing.  For now, I'm just focusing on resting as much as possible and trying to eat nutritious meals.  BF is bringing me yogurt, milke, juice and cereal.  Basically, I'm just trying to deal with this one day at a time.

Bones

[Ami]

Dear Bones
 It sounds really, really hard. I am sorry you are going through this!                  Ami

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones
 It sounds really, really hard. I am sorry you are going through this!                  Ami

Thanks, Ami.

NDoofus "dropped by" to bring me a salad.  BF intercepted her in the hallway to prevent her aggravating me.  (He understands how she can get on my nerves.)

Bones

[Ami]

Dear Bones,
 N Doofus is so much like my M, clueless. Hope you get the test results,soon.                              Ami

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones,
 N Doofus is so much like my M, clueless. Hope you get the test results,soon.                              Ami

Thanks, Ami.

I'm doing a sleep study tonight but don't know how quickly the results will be available.  I'll have two more tests after that and will be consulting with my primary physician next week.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I am thinking of you, Bones. It sounds really scary to be waiting for test results. My heart goes out to you,friend. I will be awaiting good news.     Ami

Thanks, Ami.

To top it off, I get a phone call from NDoofus last night asking me about my health and test results.  I was too tired to fuss much....just did not have the energy.  Then she tells me that her youngest sister has been diagnosed with esophogeal cancer that may have mestastisized to her liver.  This sister is younger than I am.  I can empathize for her sister as I have had family members who died of cancer and I've seen how much pain they are in.  Hopefully, facing her sister's mortality will be a wakeup call for NDoofus.  NDoofus also informed me that she apologized to her other sister for violating her boundaries and that her sister accepted her apology.  (I have to say, that is progress.)  She stated that she is frightened for both her sister and me because of what each of us are facing.  For now, I'm just focusing on resting as much as possible and trying to eat nutritious meals.  BF is bringing me yogurt, milke, juice and cereal.  Basically, I'm just trying to deal with this one day at a time.

Bones

P.S. 

At one point during her communications with me, she asked me to drive her sister to her chemotherapy appointments that are way over into another county.  I told her that I cannot do it due to my own health issues.  She just blathered on about how their family was willing to pay me.  I finally had to raise my voice and state, unequivocally, that my health prevents me from driving long distances and that would put BOTH of us at risk!  She finally backed off.  (I HATE HAVING TO EXPLAIN THE OBVIOUS!)  URGH!   

Bones

[Ami]

Dear Bones
 N Doofus is so much like my M.Once my M was supposed to meet s/one at the subway station at a certain time to go in to Boston. She never showed up and the person went to the event without her.
 Later ,my M showed up and had no idea why the person  and was angry . My M thought the person was an angry jerk.
 It is hopeless,Bone.
 I am thinking of you, Bones.           Ami

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones
 N Doofus is so much like my M.Once my M was supposed to meet s/one at the subway station at a certain time to go in to Boston. She never showed up and the person went to the event without her.
 Later ,my M showed up and had no idea why the person  and was angry . My M thought the person was an angry jerk.
 It is hopeless,Bone.
 I am thinking of you, Bones.           Ami

Thanks, Ami!

BTW, I think I saw a clone of my Nmother on TV while I was watching Judge David Young.  The plaintiff just oozed all kinds of NASTY venom toward her daughter and granddaughter while she was clearly playing favorites with her son and grandson.  She even attempted to justify calling a 10-year-old girl all kinds of obscene names, including a derogatory racist name because the child is part Hispanic.  Needless to say, Judge David WENT OFF ON THE PLAINTIFF BIG TIME!!!!  Before she admitted to this, the judge asked his bailiff to escort the 10-year-old girl and 5-year-old boy from the courtroom.  While clearly snubbing the 10-year-old girl, she wanted to say something else to the 5-year-old boy and the judge bluntly told her, "No, you may NOT!"  When the judge made an observation about the 10-year-old being frightened, the plaintiff sneered and stated:  "Crocodile tears!"  That made Judge David angry, then he blew his stack when she attempted to justify her calling a young child obscene names.  I was SO GLAD when the judge dismissed the plaintiff's case!  (I found it interesting that the one of the defendants, the plaintiff's own daughter, had not called her mother, "Mom", for several years because of her obvious nastiness.)

Bones

[cats paw]

Bones,

  My best friend has been having a lot of cardiovascular problems, and the docs seem to think that her sleep apnea is causing a lot of it.  I hope they find out soon what's up so you can get to feeling better.

cats paw 

[Hopalong]

Bones,
I'm so sorry to hear you've not been well.

Sending hopes for not-dire results and a very successful rejuvenation program.

I know you can do it!

love,
Hops

[BonesMS]

Bones,

  My best friend has been having a lot of cardiovascular problems, and the docs seem to think that her sleep apnea is causing a lot of it.  I hope they find out soon what's up so you can get to feeling better.

cats paw 

Thanks, Cats Paw!

I'm seeing my primary care physician tomorrow afternoon.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Bones,
I'm so sorry to hear you've not been well.

Sending hopes for not-dire results and a very successful rejuvenation program.

I know you can do it!

love,
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

I'm hoping to hear some good news.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Not all of the test results have come in so we don't have a "big picture" yet.  I'll be seeing the cardiologist on Tuesday morning.

Bones