Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

What a brilliant notion!

That is a wonderful perspective, Bones.

So awed by you for having this kind of wisdom, the ability to see a gift within the problem.

You wise woman. That's grace.

love
Hops

Thanks, Hops!

On a subconscious level, I was painfully aware that I was different from others, mentally, physically and emotionally.  NWomb-Donor HATED having a defective child because it made her look bad.  I think that is another reason why she tried to manipulate ways to have me thrown out of her house while she kept the money the government was giving her for my support.  I'm glad that God gave me the gift of being an Aspie.  It helped me to recognize that NWomb-Donor was such an evil B, even though I didn't have the words for it at the time!

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've also come to the painful conclusion that bf just might be an N.

During the past six months, I've landed in the emergency room, twice.  The first time, I was dealing with an asthmatic attack as a result of bronchitis.  BF dropped me off at the ER, told me to call him when I was done, AND LEFT!  The second time was a couple of weeks ago when I suddenly began vomiting uncontrollably and had NO idea what was wrong!  When I began showing symptoms of dehydration, I contacted my doctor while bf was with me.  When I relayed the message from the doctor that she was recommending another trip to the ER, bf blurts:  "I don't have time for this!" and WALKED OUT!  I had to get to the ER alone.  Now he is wondering WHY I'M UPSET AT HIM!

Bones

[seasons]

Sorry (Bones), does sound like classic N behavior. Painful to hear your bf maybe an N also!
  Is this new? Or repeated abuse and neglect of someone who is suppose to love you?

seasons ox

[BonesMS]

Sorry (Bones), does sound like classic N behavior. Painful to hear your bf maybe an N also!
  Is this new? Or repeated abuse and neglect of someone who is suppose to love you?

seasons ox

There's been passive-aggressive behaviors for quite a while.  When trips to the Emergency Room became a recent part of the equation, then this behavior became more blatant.  He attempted to insist that I didn't need the Emergency Room while my doctor was telling me that I needed to go.  My trust level in him dropped to zero.

Bones

[Ami]

I am really sorry you are going through this ((((Bones)))).Life seems so trying sometimes with one pain on top of another until we really don't know if we can go on.
   Love to you Bonesie,    Ami

[BonesMS]

I am really sorry you are going through this ((((Bones)))).Life seems so trying sometimes with one pain on top of another until we really don't know if we can go on.
   Love to you Bonesie,    Ami

Thanks, Ami.

I wish the pain would stop.

Bones

[Ami]

 Dear Bones
  I hear your anguish. I am sending thoughts of peace to you.       Love  Ami

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones
  I hear your anguish. I am sending thoughts of peace to you.       Love  Ami

Thanks, again, Ami.

Bones

[seasons]

 

My trust level in him dropped to zero.

Hi Bones,

I've been searching on-line for support on dumping my oldest N. During my searches I found many stories of victims of N's being abused when they got sick.
This sounds more common than I thought.

Then I remembered about 2 years ago I was sick for three months or so (nothing serious, just painful during it's duration). My N said to me, "When you are feeling better I will come and visit and you can make me my favorite potato soup."  LOL........craziness!!

Thinking of you, seasons ox

[BonesMS]

 

My trust level in him dropped to zero.

Hi Bones,

I've been searching on-line for support on dumping my oldest N. During my searches I found many stories of victims of N's being abused when they got sick.
This sounds more common than I thought.

Then I remembered about 2 years ago I was sick for three months or so (nothing serious, just painful during it's duration). My N said to me, "When you are feeling better I will come and visit and you can make me my favorite potato soup."  LOL........craziness!!

Thinking of you, seasons ox

Thanks, Seasons.

These N's are really a piece of work!

Bones

[Ami]

N's would be OUTRAGEOUSLY funny if it wasn't so sad.        Love  Ami

[BonesMS]

N's would be OUTRAGEOUSLY funny if it wasn't so sad.        Love  Ami

So true!  Especially those that seem to end up on court shows dissing the judges!!!!!!

Bones

[BonesMS]

And then there's the outrageous, if not sad/funny "gifts" we get from N's, such as used leftovers.

Mother's Day is coming up next week.  All the ads and commercials are bringing up painful memories.

Bones

[Ami]

I was thinking of gifts today, too, Bones. My M would give me nice things and then want them back. Once she gave me a piano and wanted it back-lol.
    Ami

[BonesMS]

I was thinking of gifts today, too, Bones. My M would give me nice things and then want them back. Once she gave me a piano and wanted it back-lol.
    Ami

Gee!!!  What was her "excuse"?

Bones