Dating

[lighter]

As long as you fire a warning shot Lupita, you've given that little boy all the information he needs to protect himself. 

It's not your job to protect all of man kind and their emotions, is it?

Listen to your intuitions, you probably already know all you need to know right now about how you feel about this guy.

Remember,  when you aren't saying yes to unworthy things and people.... you'll have time for truly worthwhile things when they come along... and making out like teenagers is more fun that any other part of a relationship as far as I'm concerned.   

[Lupita]

Wether I like your opinions or not, I still thank you very much for taking the time to write me and think of me. Thank you so much. God bless you.

[Lupita]

Still, I would love to read or if somebody can tell me, what are those unwritten rules of dating. Please. Thank you, so much.

[Ami]

I would get the book "The Rules".I can't remember who wrote it. It reminded me of the wisdom that my grandmother( not the drug dealer)  told me. My grandmother taught me about life in an "old fashioned way". She taught me about respecting yourself. She taught me about having values and being a "lady"( her favorite phrase)
   I have been saved from so much trouble b/c I tried to be a lady. My grandmother would have approved of this book. That to me, is the highest recommendation.                             Ami

[Mati]

Lupita

It sounds strange to me that a guy would say that he did not know where he would be next year  if he was just a commitment phobe. The only reason I can think of why a guy would say that right at the start, is that he has been involved with someone and it is not quite over with. And he is basically honest by telling you that he may not be available long term but at the moment he does not know.

Best to ask him why he said what he did I think instead of wondering.

If he was just looking for sex I think that he would have made it obvious.

[lighter]

Just go dance, Lupita.

This is your time and you've earned moments of pleasure and joy and adventure.

Know you're worthy and worry about whether you're having a good time, whether you like a man, whether you think you'd be happy on another date with this person.

And dance, lol....

[Lupita]

Thank you everybody for your answers and advises.  Thank you CB for the suggestions. God bless you. I will read the book an tell you if I liked it. Thank you. He is on a trip. I will be thinking and meditating about that. I feel kind of distant right now. I do not know if when I see him and he starts with his charming he will enchant me again. But if it was at this right moment, I would not go out with him. Yesterday, I could have gone to dance practice at the dance school, and dance with him. Instead, I went to the beach with my fitness club to play dodge ball and do a beach walk. Felt great.

[lighter]

::sigh::

Lupita.... I really think you're gonna be ok if you can just remember to prioritize yourself over everything else in your life. 

Even if you don't really feel like it.... remember that day at the beach...... and do it: )