Kelly, your situation sounds very trying. Hang in there gal.
From the Misery Loves Company Department, I feel your pain regarding your husband. Boy, can I relate. The endless whining about working on the house. Often seems to be one of the kids. Hardly the men we dreamed of. But reading your comments makes me feel better, just knowing that I'm not the only one. I guess we already know it, given the divorce rate. But still we think that the wonderful man played by Harrison Ford (fill in somebody more appealing, as needed) is out there, somewhere, if only. I've got a good one for you. The lines in that movie, where you love the man played by Mr. Handsome, they were written by a woman. Only a woman could write a man's lines that well.
As for the house, I am a realtor in an area with lots of inventory (northern VA). Here's the deal. You have to be the best one at that price, and if a better one is even close in price, then a buyer can still afford that one and it will go first. Remember, as a baby boomer you had the rest of us boomers to compete against for everything you wanted. The Gen X'ers are a smaller cohort, buying homes from a larger cohort. They can have what they want. It's just the demographics.
You are getting good advice to make you home more competitive. You need to get off the market. When inventory continues to build up, prices continue to go down. The people who can and/or must drop their prices and get sold ASAP do it. Just be happy you didn't buy so recently and at such a high price that you would be underwater (owe $$$ at closing). I have talked to people who own two homes and are underwater on both (and one over $100K). Around here, the prices that we saw in 2005 were way above what they should have been, driven up by speculator (a.k.a. "investor) volume. The real estate bubble burst exactly five years after the dot com bubble burst. I'm sure that many people made $$$ in both (the people who got in early), and even more people managed to get hurt in both (the people who came late to the party).
Make your house look great. Have your realtor show you everything else that might be a competitor. See everything that goes into an under contract status. Watch for the closed prices (don't get faked out by list prices) and net out the seller subsidies (a direct reduction of the contract price). Make sure that your home's hardcopy materials have a ton of great photos. When there's lots of inventory, by the end of the day, the homes can be a mishmash in buyers' minds. "Was that the one with the orange bedroom?" "No, that was the one with the musty basement." Your home's brochure has to be fabulous. I know. Mine are like a magazine, with page after page of photo collages, including outdoor details interspersed, and bullet-points of home features. When the other homes are forgotten, my listings are still beautiful and sunny and the plants look so alive... You just want to go live there. My last listing went under contract in 31 days.
Always keep in mind that you would go for the most home for the least money too. Be the most for the least, with great Internet presence to get the buyers there (buyers tell realtors what they want to see, and the Net is key), and great take-away materials to keep your home first in their minds, and you'll be sold.
Hope this helps.
