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Hopalong

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Hops update
« on: January 16, 2008, 03:23:01 PM »
Hi all,
Mom had a stroke 3 nights ago sitting in the LR with my brother. She's lost the use of her right arm, maybe leg too, and he's still here. Meanwhile he ordered me to put his name on her accounts. I said No. And I said, don't bully me, those days are over. Since then, he's been nice. No idea how long he's staying, but perhaps once she's settled in a rehab facility he'll take off.

Long story shorter, I've got a pretty full plate right now so won't post much or if I do, it might not make much sense.

I'd like to wander in and out of a few threads anyway, just may not be able to keep up with things in a focused way. Asking your tolerance in advance if I say something witless.

love,
Hops
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2008, 03:41:21 PM »
God bless you, (((Hops.)))

You do have a full plate, remember to take care of you.

Don't let your guard down around your brother.  Just bc he seems to have backed off, doesn't mean he has.  He may just be regrouping..... being blindsided won't help you feel any better.

How much rehab does it look like your mother is in for?


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Re: Hops update
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2008, 03:47:31 PM »
No clue on her prognosis, length of survival, extent of damage...

Will keep you posted.

xxoo,
Hops
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2008, 03:49:45 PM »
(((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))))

Take care of YOU too.

My sympathies re the stroke---- let us know how Mom has responded (or not)?

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Re: Hops update
« Reply #4 on: January 16, 2008, 04:26:27 PM »
Dear ((((( Hops )))))

Sincerely sorry to hear about your Mom.

Do try to take care of you.

If he is neither use nor ornament,
then he may as well go home.

Love to you,

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Re: Hops update
« Reply #5 on: January 16, 2008, 04:30:25 PM »
(((((((Hops)))))))

Take care.
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #6 on: January 16, 2008, 04:56:10 PM »
sorry to hear that, I know it is especially hard for compassionate people to see suffering.

I would certainly give brother the opportunity to participate fully in your mother's care- at which point he will probably disappear.
Tell him that whilst you don't require his administrative assistance there will be plenty of care tasks he can help with.

If he is neither use nor ornament,
then he may as well go home.

exactly.

Take good care of yourself

Love
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #7 on: January 16, 2008, 05:47:55 PM »
Dear Hops,

I presume your Mom is being taken care of by professional carers at the moment.  YOU NEED TO REST AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.  You have had years of caring, please, please take this opportunity to rest.  As for your brother, well I would vote for NC unless he has something useful and practical to say.  Where has he been for the past years when you could have done with some real support........ toughen up those boundaries sweetie.

xxxxxxxxxxx and massive hugs,

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Re: Hops update
« Reply #8 on: January 16, 2008, 06:00:31 PM »
(((((((Hops))))))))  Thank you for giving us the news. Is she hospitalized? I do hope you're able to get some sleep at night and allow yourself to rest at other times, too. You are in my prayers, sweetheart.

Love,
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #9 on: January 16, 2008, 10:02:36 PM »
Oh Hops...I'm so sorry about your mom.  This is hard.

Please know that I am thinking of you.  I feel rather witless myself, and I don't have NEAR your excuse.  Sleep deprivation, worry, and plain ol' aggravation is more than enough to induce witlessness.

Love Leah's pithy little statement.  I'm trying to think of where to mount it where it will do the most good.

Or maybe make it a lead sentence in a dark novel:

He, being neither use nor ornament,
decided he may as well go home.

Love
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #10 on: January 16, 2008, 11:11:53 PM »
Thanks, guys...yes CH, she's in the hospital. Lovely community hosp. where she receives excellent care. It's afterward, when she's stuck for a looooooooooooong time in a rehab facility for PT, and it all sinks in, that I worry most for her. Her tests looked good, no big brain damage, so hopefully she will regain a lot. But...she's 97. As her doc said, "She's not going to like this."

As to bro, he's been cooking and doing some helpful things. Tomorrow he leaves for a few days' business, and ever since the blowup, he's been very cooperative.

I still don't enjoy his presence and loathe hiding stuff and parking files at a friend's.

But there it is.

thank you for the loving support and sweet messages of comfort and perspective.
I really am going to focus on my health and wellbeing.

(Got a medical result today that I have osteopenia...the precursor to osteoporosis. So it's high time I got serious about exercise again. I hope it's reversible, haven't had time to do my Googling...)

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Hops
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #11 on: January 17, 2008, 06:30:25 AM »
Sorry to hear that, (((Hops.)))

Better to catch it before it's at the next stage.

I hope weight bearing excercises and leafy greens are enough to turn it into success.

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Re: Hops update
« Reply #12 on: January 17, 2008, 08:35:22 AM »
Dear Hops,

Thanks for the further update. Focusing on the fact that she's getting excellent care is the best place to be, I guess...
oh, I have really slid into pragmatic mode today and so I will stop. ((((((((Hops)))))))) I only trust that it is all absolutely for the best. 

Oh, and Paul Harvey says Citrical (sp?) is good stuff...


Love to you,
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Re: Hops update
« Reply #13 on: January 18, 2008, 06:36:44 AM »
((((Hops))))

   Just want to let you know I'm glad that you're mom is getting good care, and will be thinking about you.

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Re: Hops update
« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2008, 01:19:56 PM »
Oh (((((((((Hops)))))))).  So sorry to hear of your mom's stroke.   I will keep you and your family in my thougths and prayers.  Glad she's getting good care. 

Very proud of you for standing your ground with your brother too!  Good for you!  Let him be as "helpful" as can be.  So he should be!  For a change!

Take care of you Hops.

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