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Lighter update
« on: March 04, 2016, 05:56:32 PM »
Ok.....

I think I have the flying squirrels in the attic, and the mice in the crawlspace situations handled.  The flyers won't be harmed, but I can't say the same for the mice. 
Poor mice. 

The clothes washer was fixed with a new drain pipe, thank God.  The Sub Z fridge requires "vacuuming, blowing, and lubrication."  It's a whole thing... I had no idea.  I'll have another circuit put in the garage for a second stove/oven.  The one in the kitchen has a grill, and 2 burners only, but I have the downdraft situation figured out.... only one way it could be solved.  I think that's all the mechanical/animal stuff right now.

The staircase looks very much like a clockwork shabby chic ship's stairway.  I think I love it. The treads are distressed oak, stained dark, with white risers painted white to match the trim, and tongue and groove on either side.  I put tongue and groove on one wall in the LR but ran it horizontally there... it's vertical in stairway.  Black Roman numerals XII installed on risers.  All that's left to do now is install handrail.... looking for industrial feel to that piece.  I'll know it when I see it. 

Youngest dd13 has second season of Ultimate Frisbee coming up.  Last month she got invisiline braces.... doing very well with it, thank goodness.  She picked up a ukulele, took a few months of lessons, and is learning songs on her own now.  She sings, and partakes in open mike nights at school.  She plays in the car, and in the house.  It's lovely.  Look up the Ukulele Anthem on Youtube.... she plays it like a pro.  Such a joy.

Oldest dd15 was struggling with school, and social anxiety. More than capable of doing the work, but  overwhelmed easily, and finding it hard to cope with difficult situations.  She'd freeze up.  She stopped piano lessons and asked for tutor and therapist, which lead to 4 specialists, including brain integration specialist. Current plan has DD flourishing.

We were lucky that her school is willing to let her do Homebound program for a  month or two.  DD will re join her class before end of year..... we're blessed. 

A good thing for me, youngest dd wants to do martial arts classes in the house.... it's been a goal for both dds.   Hopefully oldest dd will join when we stop asking her to.  Seems to be the way things go there.

I also purchased shade plants to, hostas, ferns, and assorted other bulbs for spring planting.  I don't feel like it, but I know digging in the dirt will be good for my head.  I have maybe 15 Hemlock trees.... gorgeous... in my yard that require treatment for Wooly Adelgid bug that's wiping out Hemlocks at alarming rate.

What else got done in the house.... backsplash behind stove.  It matches the white granite counter.  Simple.  I like it.  Contractor finished a wooden countertop at bar behind stove into dining room out of old barnwood I stained dark, and sealed.  Very nice. 

The front porch gets widened next week.  Right now the old carpeted interior steps are tacked on to porch walkway where I tore the end rail off.... it's not pretty, I'll tell you.  I have to take out 4 or 5 bushes to widen that area, but it will be huge improvement.  Contractor wants to put deck across front of house, but it would cover up the lovely stone work, and I'm not sure about that yet.   

I'm going to research extending the garage toward the street so I can add a fourth bedroom and bath in that space. I can install a third bathroom without improving the septic tank, but adding the fourth permitted bedroom requires adding another septic drain line.  Will see.

That leaves bath renovations, and outdoor shower deck..... decision to screen in back porch or turn into four season room.

That's my update.

I have a grounded sleeping pad, supplements in place, and amalgam filling removal

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Re: Lighter update
« Reply #1 on: March 05, 2016, 12:31:29 AM »
So lovely to read your news, Lighter, and what a busy bee you have been.  There's a lovely feeling to working hard on something that is yours, your own, your place.  Somewhere beautiful for you and your girls.  A lovely read to start the day, thank you :) x

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« Reply #2 on: March 05, 2016, 07:25:49 AM »
Oh my...
I had no idea you were into a reno project. Sounds like you've been merging what works for you & the girls with what the house wants to be. That's always a fun, rewarding thing to spend time on. It's the kind of thing that gives back.

You'll have to tell me more about what a brain integration specialist does. First I never knew there was such a thing; and secondly I think my brain could use some help "integrating" itself. Things work better than they once did, but all the hinges are stiff and squeeky, and lord it's a loud noise and quite the production to get things flowing again. LOL.

All in all, that sounds like a contented update. Makes me smile.
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« Reply #3 on: March 05, 2016, 10:33:45 AM »
I'm interested in hearing more about the brain integration specialist too.  My 15 year old struggles with similar issues.  Homework is excruciatingly difficult - not the material itself but the ability to sit and execute.

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« Reply #4 on: March 05, 2016, 01:15:22 PM »
ADD?
Oh sounds like my brain...

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« Reply #5 on: March 06, 2016, 07:07:29 PM »
http://www.learningimprovementcenter.com/ is a link to get some information about brain integration.

DD5 is on board, and has confidence in program.  We'll complete treatment next week.

CurrentTherapist very helpful, and reporting amazing results in her opinion with dd15.

One of our missions is to get dd caught up at school, and that seems to be going very well.

Another mission is to keep her hooked into her social network while she's homeschooling.  This weekend was a huge success with two of her bff's.  We parked downtown, had a terrific dinner, walked the 15 minutes to our reservation for one of those themed escape room experiences.... SO much fun.  We failed, but honestly we were short a flashlight, and there were too many people in our room since part of our group showed up on the wrong day and no one caught it.

Oh well... we're going back!  DD15 was a superstar puzzle solving math genius of the group.  It was a wonderful confidence builder for her.  She took over leadership at one point, and solved the puzzle some of the adults failed to figure out for way too long.  Everyone was giddy with enjoyment, and there was a cool steam punk bar with sofa section to sit and replay everyone's POV.  If anyone decides to try it.... remember to bring reading glasses. You don't want to be blind AND stumbling around in the dark unable to read the clues.  

We played card games at home afterwards.  The next morning we prepared a beautiful brunch and enjoyed hot tea in our girl-y mix and match tea cups... the entire morning felt magical.  More card games, some gluten free baking, and now it's just me and my girls again.  TOTAL win if I hadn't had to walk funny all night to compensate for a wounded toe.  I ripped a nail out before we left yesterday, and had a gash that just would not stop bleeding.  Even so, I would have hopped on one leg only to make sure everything went the way it did.

Everyone agreed we're going to have regular sleepovers.  I think one of dd's buddies expected the house to look like it did before we renovated.  It was lovely to see her face light up as she went from room to room, amazed, and happy to find everything clean, bright, and new.  No dusty old carpet, just clean wood floors with a clean pug puppy to roll around with.  All the laughter, and fellowship..... it felt like we're on the right path.

I'm grateful, and will give updates as the brain integration treatment progresses: )

I have my younger dd going in for evaluation tomorrow bc she has trouble with spelling.  The T got into this work bc her child didn't spell well, and she said she can 100% help.  

::crossing fingers::

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« Reply #6 on: March 06, 2016, 10:27:11 PM »



Lighter, it just came to me how appropriate your name 'lighter' is.  Your words, your deeds, your projects, your compassion, exude light and lift spirits. 

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« Reply #7 on: March 07, 2016, 08:20:57 AM »
Thanks for the link... I'll check it out and maybe dig deeper. That sounds like a fabulous weekend. I think I'm just a little jealous at all the girly giggly fun... but then, I really don't do well in groups and have my "solitude" steel doors pretty much frozen in place these days. My choice; so I dare not complain.   8)
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« Reply #8 on: March 07, 2016, 11:00:00 PM »
Amber:

I'm reading BREAKING THE LEARNING BARRIER Eradicating ADD, ADHD and Dyslexia by Susan McCrossin, A.P.

She's the Neuroscientist who developed the Crossinonlogy Brain Integration Technique (BIT) 1988.

Today we had youngest dd's evaluation done.  So interesting to have someone tell you what your child did in school to get past learning difficulties.... and be RIGHT!

She explained what parts of the brain are hooked in properly, which parts are switched, and what has to happen to make things run smoothly again. NOT the way she said it, but the way I understood it.   She said dd would eventually be dx'd with dyslexia, though it's more like ADD, but is actually neither...... it's the brain, and we can fix the pathways. 

The conversation made me very sad for the kids out there not getting services, getting dx's that aren't correct, and getting crushed under the weight of teachers and parents telling them they aren't trying hard enough when they just can't make the connections no matter what they do.

DD has lots of vision stuff going on as well. 

I have both kiddos scheduled in for treatment plans.  Getting it done as quickly as possible.

I'm hopeful.

Thanks tt for the kind words.  I feel like my girls and I are heading in a good direction.

Amber..... I spend a lot of time on my own.  I think that's what makes these moments of group activity easy happy experiences.  Too much sends me into solitary stints that last a while.
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« Reply #9 on: March 08, 2016, 12:37:17 AM »
http://www.learningimprovementcenter.com/ is a link to get some information about brain integration.

DD5 is on board, and has confidence in program.  We'll complete treatment next week.

CurrentTherapist very helpful, and reporting amazing results in her opinion with dd15.

One of our missions is to get dd caught up at school, and that seems to be going very well.

Another mission is to keep her hooked into her social network while she's homeschooling.  This weekend was a huge success with two of her bff's.  We parked downtown, had a terrific dinner, walked the 15 minutes to our reservation for one of those themed escape room experiences.... SO much fun.  We failed, but honestly we were short a flashlight, and there were too many people in our room since part of our group showed up on the wrong day and no one caught it.

Oh well... we're going back!  DD15 was a superstar puzzle solving math genius of the group.  It was a wonderful confidence builder for her.  She took over leadership at one point, and solved the puzzle some of the adults failed to figure out for way too long.  Everyone was giddy with enjoyment, and there was a cool steam punk bar with sofa section to sit and replay everyone's POV.  If anyone decides to try it.... remember to bring reading glasses. You don't want to be blind AND stumbling around in the dark unable to read the clues.  

We played card games at home afterwards.  The next morning we prepared a beautiful brunch and enjoyed hot tea in our girl-y mix and match tea cups... the entire morning felt magical.  More card games, some gluten free baking, and now it's just me and my girls again.  TOTAL win if I hadn't had to walk funny all night to compensate for a wounded toe.  I ripped a nail out before we left yesterday, and had a gash that just would not stop bleeding.  Even so, I would have hopped on one leg only to make sure everything went the way it did.

Everyone agreed we're going to have regular sleepovers.  I think one of dd's buddies expected the house to look like it did before we renovated.  It was lovely to see her face light up as she went from room to room, amazed, and happy to find everything clean, bright, and new.  No dusty old carpet, just clean wood floors with a clean pug puppy to roll around with.  All the laughter, and fellowship..... it felt like we're on the right path.

I'm grateful, and will give updates as the brain integration treatment progresses: )

I have my younger dd going in for evaluation tomorrow bc she has trouble with spelling.  The T got into this work bc her child didn't spell well, and she said she can 100% help.  

::crossing fingers::

Lighter





Oh Lighter that just sounds idyllic, and a pug puppy as well??!!  Can life get any better than that?  What a lovely description, you deserve this so very, very much xx

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« Reply #10 on: March 08, 2016, 04:34:16 PM »
Well, Tupp.... you and I are going to get more out of life, just you wait and see.

I'm ordering a book called The Japanese Art of Decluttering, and I'm thinking everyone on this board would get something from it.

It's a fairly short read, and maybe we could have a mini book club session if enough of us participate.  I have an order for Amazon going in.  How do we do that so the board gets rewards?

About the brain integration.   I think I hit the jackpot with new healthcare providers, and replacing the ones we lost when we moved.

dd15 had a great first session.  It's not taxing, and we talked through the entire thing so it was like picking a professionals brain for 4 hours, while receiving services.  Everything she had to say made sense.

YES. :)
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« Reply #11 on: March 10, 2016, 07:44:18 AM »
Lighter, you're going to KONDO? I am awed.
I have watched her on Youtube and read articles about her book, but haven't taken the leap to ordering the book yet.
I think it's a wonderful thing that so many people are inspired by her.

We (Americans, and only in general) own too much, shop too much, focus too much...on stuff.

And I'm thrilled for your Ds having dx, early intervention.
I can't under-emphasize what impact undiagnosed ADD had on my life.

Grateful for having found out at age 60, but oh the goals unaccomplished....

Thanks for sharing,
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« Reply #12 on: March 14, 2016, 04:27:23 PM »
Hi Hops:

I don't have the book yet, but i did read an article on the top 8 things in the book..... sounds completely do able.  I'm sure the book has a very detailed process, and I feel ready. Esp since whatever flu took control of my skeleton last Thurs, and made me feel like it was trying to give birth to aliens, has finally let me feel human again.  It was so weird.  Usually there's snot, misery, but this time it was aches, dry coughing and misery.  Just odd.  Glad that's over, whew.

Youngest dd had something that was not at all similar.... she had high fever, and was weak as a kitten.  She's back at school, and I'm happily doing laundry, and cleaning floors today.

OldestDD continues to do well.  She's making progress in every direction.

I'm sorry you never had help overcoming your ADD.  You're right, it would have made such a tremendous difference.  It's not fair, but you're an amazing human being, and you've put tools in place, and managed to overcome.... even if you still struggle. 

Lighter

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« Reply #13 on: March 15, 2016, 08:23:43 PM »
Oh thank you, Lighter.
What a kind thing to say.

There's still a lot of shame attached to my executive function (and "willpower") failure.

Glad you're enjoying all the transformations, and how positive your attitude is.

Again, really appreciate it.

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« Reply #14 on: March 16, 2016, 07:46:06 AM »
You know Lighter... it's such a comfort to see that you're able to find a way to assertively live a joyful life. You've earned it, of course. Still working on mine. (His birthday was monday... and I'm on a countdown to Sat's party... still much to do.)
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