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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #15 on: November 30, 2016, 07:08:25 PM »
Have her email me. Maybe I can convert her to the dark side.   :P

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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #16 on: December 03, 2016, 06:48:01 PM »
Have her email me. Maybe I can convert her to the dark side.   :P

Hi Mud,

If you knew Micaela, you would know that "conversion" would be highly unlikely :wink:  Dialogue, however, is another story!  Here is her response to your post:

"1.  I would love to hear how you do not agree that Trump and/or the people he has appointed to speak for him are not racist, misogynistic, and xenophobic.  I found it odd that you were more offended by seemingly name calling and less so by the words and actions that inspire those titles.  Normalizing these behaviors and dismissing them is certainly open for debate.  They are not name-calling.  They are summations of behavior.

2.  Before Hitler was a Hitler, he was Adolf, a man and a politician.  It is only in hindsight that he becomes a mythic villain.  Being a Fascist is not just a word to throw around about someone being unfair, but a political structure and dogma.  Many leaders have openly run as Fascists.  It just has not been a popular platform in the United States.  Likening the actions of someone who riles the economically depressed into blaming factions of Others for their problems is pretty straight forward whether it be Jews or Muslims or Gypsies or Mexicans or LGBTQ members (always a target).  Did Hitler come out of the gate talking about interring and murdering millions of people?  Absolutely not.  It's an issue of learning from past mistakes.  Interestingly enough, you were the first one to bring Hitler and Fascism into the conversation.  I actually never mentioned either.  I don't know if you are familiar with Godwin's Law, but it's actually a pretty funny application of it in this scenario. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godwin's_law

3.  Obviously my opening line using the word "pussy" engaged you into a thoughtful response, as I believe yours was one.  Also, I think perhaps you might be missing the offensive quality of the "grab her by the pussy" comment--it wasn't the use of the word “pussy” but the use of the word “grab.”  If Bill Clinton's sexual assault offends you as much as you say it does (I am assuming you are a “he” and not a "pussy owner") than you should be equally as outraged by and not dismissive of Trump's sentiment.  I do not defend Hillary Clinton's actions of smear, but I would rather that than the actual person who commits the assault.  Also, Hillary was never my first choice as a Bernie supporter, but I do believe that she is/was more competent and prepared for the job and more receptive to the policies I hope to be furthered by the Progressive wing of the Democratic Party. 

4.  I also agree that not everyone voted for Trump based on hatred and bigotry.  I do believe they did have to turn a blind eye and a deaf ear to it though and normalize it.  If I were to be lumped in with the KKK by other similar groups, I would question what I was doing to be perceived as such.  Everyone has blindness to his or her own biases and bigotries, and everyone is a little bit racist.  All one can do is to try to evolve and grow and learn and listen.  Also, who are the people that you refer to as trying to shut up the KKK that this other group of Trump voters were so adamant about taking down?  If Trump's behavior thus far with his detractors has been any indication, he seems much more akin to this silencing of opposition than any other candidate before him. 

There are two ways to listen to a pop song--listening to the tune and listening to the lyrics.  People that either believed in Trump's coded messages of hate or were appalled by them were listening to his literal lyrics.  Those that liked a lot of the attitude and general messages of the campaign were listening to Trump's tune and legitimately didn't realize they were humming along to a song about hate.

5.  The glorification of the impoverished White Southerner working three time jobs and the vilification of the Ivy League-Non Profit student is a little pat.  I truly know plenty of people who fall into both of those categories as well as plenty of people who fall into shades of grey of those categories as well as plenty of people who fall into neither.  Pitting one against the other is not exactly productive, and in fact exactly the thing that distracts from the real issues of poverty and social iniquity in this country.  Perhaps the non-profit that this Ivy League educated student is going to work for is the Southern Poverty Law Center?  I would have to assume that you are not a POC but self-identified as White, as I truly have never heard any POC claim that white privilege is not real.  But still, I would love to hear your thoughts on why it either doesn't exist or should not be protested by people who perhaps have the privilege of the time, energy, and national freedom to protest.  As one of my friends once told me, "one of my white liberal friends watched me try to get a cab one night and after many failed attempts, was actually shocked to find out that what I had been telling him for years as a black man was true.”  Also, remember that due to the concept of intersectionality, people can be privileged in one way and not in others.  Class and race are two different things, although sometimes tied together. 

6.  The mockery of the term “safe space” seems to demonstrate that you have never needed one (again perhaps this is a great time to revisit white privilege and gender and sexual identity). 

Also, if you feel that Trump is standing up to the Democrats in a way that the Republicans haven't before, I'm confused as to how you understand the House Republican majority?  Or any previous Republican presidency?  But truly, Trump barely ran as a Republican, considering that a number of high-ranking officials would not support him, in addition to the entire Bush family.  So Trump ran as some new offshoot of the Republican Party, which brings me back to the question of who Trump is surrounding himself with--the people who voted in a sort of nihilistic sense of anything but Hillary, the outwardly racist, and honestly a lot of people who were duped by his posturing as a successful businessman.  Having witnessed first hand the strikes by Trump's casino employees (a good stand in for the Alabama man working three jobs to support his kids), and the additional labor lawsuits he has faced, I cannot say that Trump is looking out for the working American.  His Treasury Secretary nomination is a man who worked for Goldman, and is the son of a Goldman exec, who went on to found his own hedge fund that was sued for improperly foreclosing on people.  Trump is a businessman who has successfully rebooted his brand after at least 6 bankruptcies, but that does not bode well for America as a brand."


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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #17 on: December 04, 2016, 12:57:22 PM »
Thanks Richard.
1. My point is the actions that spawn those epithets do not rise to the level of what they describe.
Moreover the person making such serious charges is obligated to prove them, not demand someone disprove them.
What action in Trump's personal history indicates he is a racist.  The closest I am aware of was his complaint about Judge Curiel but that was based on the judge's membership in a lawyers group apparently affiliated with the fairly radical pro illegal immigration group La Raza. If that is the standard for racism then I suspect almost every person of every race qualifies (I do indeed find the claim by some on the left that minorities can't be racist to be so absurd that I find those holding it incapable of reasonable discussion)
If the claim stems from his desire to enforce immigration laws, is it actually the position of those on the left that having secure borders and attempting to prevent the illegal crossing of those borders and attempting to weed out criminals and terrorists from those we do allow in constitutes racism?
If it is I hope you are prepared to be at odds with most of the country including the large majority of immigrants who followed the law to emigrate here.
None of those rise to the level of racism as it has historically been understood. So what is this claim based on? And the preceding arguments apply to the charge of xenophobia as well.  Indeed Trump has said those non criminal illegals deported would be free to then apply for legal entry and even citizenship.  Hardly the policy of a racist xenophobe.
 Misogyny as I understand it refers to those who are hostile to and perhaps even hate women.  Trump's problem in this area seems to, on the contrary, be that he is entirely too fond of them.
His locker room rhetoric belies a man who has hired and trusted many women at some of the highest levels in his corporations.
2. Hitler wrote Mein Kampf in the early 20s and in it made it rather clear he hated and would have no problem exterminating no small number of  Jews.  Moreover he began it in prison after his failed Beer Hall Putsch to topple the German government. To imply Trump or his voters are embarked on that same road after he and they won an election fair and square is a type of McCarthyism that one ups McCarthy.
Who are these many fascist "leaders" who ran as fascists?  Mussolini, the man who invented fascism was a man of the socialist left. He eventually combined a bastardsized  socialism with nationalism to create fascism. In any event he didn't attain power legitimately. He and his fascists staged an intimidating insurrection and compelled the legitimate government to capitulate.
And it's always interesting when Hitler is described as a fascist.  The origin of the term Nazi is of course the National Socialist Party. The ascribing by the left to free market, politically liberal parties in the West  some kind of kinship with progressive men of the left like Mussolini and Hitler is one of the great political gymnastic maneuvers in history.
I never said you brought Hitler up. I was discussing the outlandish criticisms of Trump and his supporters one of which is he and they are rather like Hitler. Your implication Trump may very well be an incipient Hitler would seem to indicate I was not exactly too far from your views.
As to Mr Godwin the only thing funny is him beclowning himself by actually and recently endorsing the resort to Hitler regarding discussing Trump.
3. Tump was not describing an assault.  The context of the discussion was that there are women who will throw themselves at celebrities and allow actions as the ones he described . Regardless of how crudely he put it does anyone seriously dispute what he said.
Moreover there is simply no comparison between his crude words and the actual innumerable actions by Hillary's husband, a man she was quite willing to talk about placing in charge of the economy.  A former president is not just some house husband who can be dismissed as irrelevant when his spouse is running for the presidency.
4. That's pretty funny. If someone makes a false accusation against me I should examine myself to see what's wrong with me.That sentiment is particularly offensive in light of where this discussion is taking place;  a board full o people subject to interminable character assassination and slanders.
The Communist  PARTY USA endorsed Hillary Clinton as did many rap stars who regularly speak the most vile sentiments imaginable toward women and in some cases Jews and white people and brag about killing cops and judges. Indeed, our gracious First Lady allowed that she was shocked and scandalized by Trump's words and yet she and her husband have hosed with great fanfare guys who brag about raping "ho's" and pose on album covers with dead judge's under their feet and guns in their hands.
Do you believe you, Hillary and Michelle should all sit down and do some honest soul searching about what kind of intolerant, misogynistic and murderous thoughts and policies you support that would lead such people to support your candidate?
5. This one nearly deserves an LOL. Who is pitting one group against another but those who claim whites enjoy a privilege that oppresses minorities and gives whites an unfair advantage that government must resolve by taking from the privileged and giving to the oppressed? It's rather difficult to conjure a more precise example of pitting one group against another.
6. Earth to the left; there are no safe spaces.  The world and life are hard, difficult places in which bad things happen all the time to everyone. There are any number of white women on this board whose lives were turned upside down by their own white mothers.
 Anyone is entitled to carve out whatever "safe space" they can for themselves or their group. What they're not entitled is demand someone else be compelled to provide them one, especially if the demand entails they not have to hear some opinion they don't like.

With the notable exceptions of Reagan and Gingrich and a few others the GOP has largely accepted playing on a field constructed by their opponents playing a game with rules drawn up by those same opponents. The result has been a vast bureaucratic state that depends on and rewards the leadership of both parties.
Whatever Trump's faults he represents a chance to at least begin to break through that growing, extra constitutional and increasingly authoritarian state. That is why the entrenched establishment of the GOP fought Trump as vigorously as the Dems: cracking that gravy train threatens both establishments equally.
As far as Trump being sued, filing bankruptcy or posturing as a successful businessman, it is impossible to be in the businesses he is and not be sued repeatedly.  Use of bankruptcy laws is perfectly legitimate and has been used by corporations of all sizes. It is especially common in boom and bust industries like construction and real estate.  The fact remains he turned a medium sized fortune into a rather large one. If he had employees striking we can safely conclude he must have created jobs to be struck. In fact he created probably hundreds of thousands of jobs over the years. How many did Hillary create prior to her run? How about Obama? 
If being sued or working for Goldman was disqualifying I assume you worked assiduously to defeat Hillary because she has been sued repeatedly and gave a multitude of speeches for many millions of dollars to Goldman. Moreover her husband's treasury secretary was the CEO of Goldman and the recipient of no small number of lawsuits.
Name someone outwardly racist that Trump is surrounding himself with. Argument by defamatory assertion is not actually argument. It's precisely what I described these gratuitous accusations to be; lazy name calling in place of thought and reasoned argument.
Finally take a look at this essay with an open mind:
http://www.independent.org/issues/article.asp?id=8932
Perhaps it will enlighten you. Perhaps not.
In any event thank you for the largely thoughtful, even if completely wrongheaded reply. :)



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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #18 on: December 06, 2016, 07:44:13 PM »
Mud my bud,
Reading your exchange with Micaela I know better than to try to be more articulate than either of you.

I doff my hat and bow to her for her clarity and willingness to engage at the granular, this-is-how-I-see-and-reason-and-why level. That's arduous and brave, especially from the "losing" side.

And for you I also doff my hat and send a bow. You have hung in here through tragedy and loss and often, if not nearly always, as one of the few men to trust and open up in this space. You made the large effort, just as Micaela has done, to explain your point of view. "Splaining" is often done with very genuine intention and taking offense is pointless, I think. I'd proclaim that mansplaining, womansplaining, librulsplaining, whitesplaining and blacksplaining are only similar in condescension.

We are very different. We see the world and live in our skins in such opposite ways and have had such different experiences. Hurt by different things, yearning for different things, moved and inspired by different things, too. (Though at our cores, I am positive there's way more the same than different.) They all add up, and our stories define us in temporal and cultural ways.

I have felt quite close to you at times and always value you, Mud man. (Hope you've noticed!) So just want to say from a full hopsy heart: blessings and peace to you. (And to Micaela, whom I don't know...the same!)

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Hops
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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #19 on: December 07, 2016, 06:25:32 PM »
Dr. G,

Wow! As a writer myself, I am in awe of Micaela’s talent. This essay is very powerful and certainly offered me some comfort with my increased anxiety in the wake of this election; increased anxiety for so many reasons, perhaps the foremost being that I am a survivor of both a narcissistic parent and a workplace sexual assault.

I have not posted much on Facebook since the election. Unlike your daughter, I retreat from confrontation. I applaud Micaela for speaking her mind, and doing so with such eloquence. Please let her know that her words have helped me with my anxiety, even if just a little bit. Words are so very powerful. As we know, an N can cause irreparable damage with their words. But words can also lift us up. Micaela has succeeded in doing the latter.

And I have to concur with the last comment under her post. She is far more than “just a waitress.”

Thank you for sharing this.

Kathy

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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #20 on: December 12, 2016, 01:03:06 AM »
Hi Doc G--
You and Micaela may enjoy the film The Brainwashing of My Dad (available on Amazon) if you haven't already.

Smart analysis.

Sadly,
Hops
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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #21 on: December 12, 2016, 10:32:33 AM »
Fox News is accused of using Goebbel's tactics to brainwash people and the gal consults noted centrist Noam Chomsky (centrist in this case meaning a radical revolutionary anarchist) to help explain her father's radicalism.

I was concerned for a short time that the Democrat party might throw off the shackles of the New Left that has captured it and it might return to a sensible JFK/Harry Truman center-left philosophy to put a halt to its long march to the political wilderness.
I guess my concern was misplaced. Carry on

BTW, the left consoles itself that Hillary won the popular vote but that is deceptive. A substantial majority of the population lives in uncompetitive states like CA and NY leading to millions of Rep  voters who stay home,  more so than Dems who stay home in so called red states. A better measure is the national congressional vote which when adjusted for non competitive races shows a Rep vote advantage of around 3 million votes. And the fact Reps now control about 2/3 of state governments confirms fewer and fewer people are following the increasingly leftist Dem pied piper. Now, the typical response to this is that the numbers don't matter because being "correct" is all that counts and that the people will eventually see the error of their ways and will catch up.
That's an interesting theory that I guess we'll get to test.

What's more interesting to me is how a political ideology, as opposed to a political philosophy,  is so dependent on self affirmation and confirmation bias while being nearly impervious to external criticism or even external data. If an ideology is defined  as a rigid system of thought that seeks to conform the world to its vision rather than a philosophy that seeks to adapt itself to certain unalterable aspects of the world, it's remarkable how closely ideologies match the us vs them of the networks Ns surround themselves with, even to the point of labeling those outside the network as not merely wrong or mistaken but insane and evil.
What's equally analogous is how blithely the most vile accusations are flung at those outside the network as though their insanity and evil compared to the network's probity, truths and morality is so self evident that no rational person could fail to come to the same conclusion.
Which leads to the rich irony of those reacting emotionally and most impervious to opposing views or data points looking for, and not surprisingly finding in great abundance exactly those traits in those outside the network.
The world is a very odd place.

Mud

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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #22 on: December 12, 2016, 11:52:52 AM »
I didn't think you would enjoy the film, Mud.
I thought others might.

Peace,
Hops
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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #23 on: December 12, 2016, 01:15:33 PM »
On the contrary Hops,  I enjoyed it immensely under the "never interrupt your adversary when he's making a mistake"  maxim. :)

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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #24 on: December 12, 2016, 01:48:20 PM »
Last word to you, Mud.

Not your adversary,
Hops
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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #25 on: December 12, 2016, 02:03:48 PM »
I was referring to the movie not you, Hops, but I still consider us political adversaries in that we disagree about most political issues.  An adversary is an opponent.
However we are not personal adversaries or opponents,  which is a distinction an  increasing number of people of all stripes  seem unable or unwilling to make.

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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #26 on: December 13, 2016, 01:52:36 AM »
Whoops!
I just realized what I wrote might sound like "last word" as in "I'm not speaking to you any more."

NOT, not what I meant!  :oops:

I just meant that I wanted to give you the last word on this subject (only done with that).

Sorry for being a spaz-brain!

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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #27 on: December 13, 2016, 11:57:19 AM »
Dr. G,

Wow! As a writer myself, I am in awe of Micaela’s talent. This essay is very powerful and certainly offered me some comfort with my increased anxiety in the wake of this election; increased anxiety for so many reasons, perhaps the foremost being that I am a survivor of both a narcissistic parent and a workplace sexual assault.

I have not posted much on Facebook since the election. Unlike your daughter, I retreat from confrontation. I applaud Micaela for speaking her mind, and doing so with such eloquence. Please let her know that her words have helped me with my anxiety, even if just a little bit. Words are so very powerful. As we know, an N can cause irreparable damage with their words. But words can also lift us up. Micaela has succeeded in doing the latter.

And I have to concur with the last comment under her post. She is far more than “just a waitress.”

Thank you for sharing this.

Kathy


Hi Kathy,

Thanks so much for your reply!  I will make sure that Micaela sees it. 

These are, indeed, scary times for many people, including myself.

Richard

P.S.  I see these new combination stores, e.g., bank/coffee shops in my neighborhood.  Maybe Micaela should open a restaurant/therapy office in NYC  :lol: !


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« Reply #28 on: December 13, 2016, 11:59:44 AM »
Hi Doc G--
You and Micaela may enjoy the film The Brainwashing of My Dad (available on Amazon) if you haven't already.

Smart analysis.

Sadly,
Hops

Hi Hops,

I'll take a look, and pass along your recommendation to Micaela.

Thanks,

Richard

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Re: Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
« Reply #29 on: December 14, 2016, 02:24:14 AM »
Never even occurred to me that might be what you meant,  Hops.
.That wouldn't be you.

Mud