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Hopalong:
Whoo.

Boundaries on fleek!
(I am positive that as a geriatric, I am using that term correctly....not.)

Great stuff, Lighter.

Hops

sKePTiKal:
I'm quickly getting to the same place Lighter.
Yesterday, just was the last straw for me.

Nothing, however, is going to happen until I reassemble myself and reweld all the seams that blew apart.

I know that's cryptic; but the drama just isn't worth repeating - it's THAT stupid and unnecessary. Which is one of the things that poured gasoline on my anger.

lighter:
Psssst, Amber.

Are you doing OK?

I don't want to give away your position if you're in escape and evasion mode.

Let us know when you can.

Lighter

sKePTiKal:
I'm OK; still VERRY angry.

There's not much I can do if she wants to let some guy use her; take advantage of her. But when I'm supposed to do the same simply because I asked her to stay until she had other plans... it's just not happening and now SHE is part of the problem that is making me angry. And honestly, "lockdown" being lifted wouldn't make a damn bit of difference unless she can/does go back to work.

Fortunately, we can be angry and yell at each other - sleep on it - and go on the next day. But this time, I'm not forgetting/forgiving what she is making me suffer - because she won't admit it to herself. Irresistible force and immovable object time.

And it's just not worth going through the he said/she said/I said crap. I know she KNOWS what I have an issue with. And our boundary is where "my house" ends... and her relationship is supposed to be. She makes grand statements about taking care of everyone... but doesn't hear me when I point out, I don't see her taking care of me. I'll handle my upset; but the source of the issue REMAINS until she deals with it. This 38 yr old boy-child can't/won't/doesn't know how to take care of himself, much less others and I'll be damned if I'm going to train him for her. I really think it's not what he wants anyway.

Hopalong:
I'm so sorry, ((((((((Amber))))))))))).

It's like being hostage to your own love.
You love your child, but you can still be hostage.

You love your mountain.
You loved your family-compound dreams.

You didn't anticipate it all turning into a trap.

Hold on. The faster she/they are out of your house, the better.

And speaking of which, with walls and a roof, they can move into
the Hut before it's finished. If you're at wits' end, you can decide that.

I hope.

Big hugs and comfort,
Hops

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