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lighter:
I'm sure you'll figure out the best way to handle the therapy questions for yourself, Hops.
Your insights might lead you anywhere with regard to therapy and your needs.
I explain my understanding and experience and you explain yours. It's all good.
Lighter; )
Hopalong:
Yup, all good.
Thanks for the support, Lighter.
hugs
Hops
lighter:
: )
sKePTiKal:
HUH. That description leads me to wonder IF, perhaps - you keep talking to disguise the fear in your body and IF perhaps, the fear is because you can't know the reason for her prolonged silences. Giving away one's feeling of fear is almost at a level of threat to inner children - the more invisible one is, the "safer" one perceives one is.
I hope that kinda makes sense. Maybe it doesn't apply in your situation. I know I had a big struggle to feel comfortable in my own skin (regardless of what was going on in my environment) because I didn't really trust myself to keep myself safe. I faked it a lot for my job; and once I saw that it opened up the possibility of seeing that I could apply it in other situations. AND, FYI, that's still a work in progress. There are a lot more situations now, that I can navigate more comfortably... but I still let my intuition remove me from some place/people that don't "feel right".
All speculation in your situation, of course. Wash it out of your hair, if it doesn't apply.
Hopalong:
That's an interesting suggestion, Amber. Thanks.
I definitely do feel some anxiety about her pace. Laborious searches for words.
Sometimes it's because I don't have a lot of faith that she'll say anything insightful.
Sometimes because I worry that I've got a lot pent up and the time will expire.
But yup, anxiety = fear. I'll sit with it next time and try to share what's happening in the moment with her. Kindly. I've mentioned "pace" only a couple times and she's replied, I know, my processing speed is slow.
I'm also anxious about what it'd be like to leave her. The regular appts with her have eased the struggle of dealing with winter isolation, which I dread but can't change yet for me.
hugs
Hops
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