I chatted with my ex. I cant beleive her, I know now

[Anonymous]

Brian,

I'm sorry that the therapist was inadequate and wasted your time. Where did you find her. I don't think you're crazy. Did the therapist think that?

I read the entire conversation and it's very painful. Reminds me of arguments I've had! You tried, you really did. I guess it will be hard to accept this rotten situation.

bunny

[mum]

Hey, Brian.  sorry to hear that therapist didn't work out for you...
NO, you're not crazy, you are just in pain right now.  Maybe another therapist, or another try?

[Anonymous]

ok--i'm not trying to be rude or a smart alec {sp?} but i can sort of understand why the therapist could have looked at you that way. you are a little overwhelming in a one-track minded kind of way that is in an obsessive mode. but then again therapists are supposed to be used to dealing with all sort of things too.if she was wrong for you then try to find someone else.whatever you do don't give up on therapy.

you said you know the relationship is over but you told her you love her in present tense and wanted to take it farther and for her to talk on the phone with you.when she said to respect her wishes and not contact her-it seems like she said it before and you violated this, but i don't know really. your tone also sounded extremely desperate.i'm not saying any of this to be argumentative but only to tell you to ***forget about her problems*** and start to focus on ***YOU***. from your own words and behaviors it does **not** seem like you realise it is over-even if you say you do. your **behavior** is different from your words.

maybe this woman had emotional problems but it is hard to tell that from just a few lines of chat. but to be truthful with you- it is easy to see that you really do have emotional issues you need to work through right now.  that is why you should keep looking for a therapist that you like.

you need the help right now, friend.

[longtire]

I had therapy tonight, it was a waste.  She looked me like she doesnt know where to begin.  I need to know from you out there that I am not crazy.  You have been here with me.  I need to know that this woman has problems that were beyond me.  I need to know that I didnt do something so tragic to make a woman buy me porn on xmas, ruin all our holidays, I still love the fascade, why do that to me?  How can a person say that I need to give 80% and accept 20% and say that is acceptable?  I need to know that my needs are normal and not hurtful to a woman.  I only tried to make her feel loved, but she says I was looking for others.  How can that be?  I hate her for making me feel like she loved me and then dumped me.  I told her about my dad to ease up on the techical terms.  Not to stop talking about her day.here is the whole conversation

Brian, did you tell the therapist that you thought she was looking at you like she didn't know where to begin and whatever else came up for you in reaction to the therapist?  To be honest, I doubt she could learn enough about you or anyone else in one short session to KNOW where to begin.  How did you leave it with her?  Do you have another appointment with her?  Your comments make it sound like you've already quit.

[bkkabri]

She was worthless.  Longtire, I was hoping someday you would find it possible to chat on IM.  I have so many questions about dealing with this from a guys perspective.  Maybe we could chat sometime.  My IM is bkkabri100 on yahoo.