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« Reply #60 on: March 22, 2005, 08:13:51 AM »
Hey I love this! I’ve always wanted to have these conversations but you know, we’re not allowed to discuss religion over here. Tut tut no, it might encourage debate for goodness sake. :roll:  Please can I join? About the wager, please interrogate my thinking which is:

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We have a choice of believing in God or not.
Agreed. (editing in later, the more I think about this.....so-) I just read this as an either/or statement, black or white and I don't see it like that. I don't believe in God in the way that I've read about God in some books so far. Does that mean that I disbelieve? Not necessarily. I'm still open to having my mind changed. I just haven't found anything to change it into belief as yet. I'm more sort of in the 'suspended belief' group, if there is one. Is there one? Do I have to have a label?

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If we believe and are wrong we have lived by the Golden rule and end up eaten by the worms. We've lost nothing.
Agreed... sort of (we have lost our disbelief and that to me is no small thing to lose). But I don’t see the Golden Rule – do as you would be done by? – being used much. If it was used, there wouldn’t be any religious hatred or wars. Or an eye for an eye stuff. Suicide bombers? Well I guess that is ‘do as you would be done by’ in a sense. :(  

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If we believe and are correct, then we attain heaven eternally. We've gained everything.
Agreed.

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However, if we disbelieve and are correct we live as we please and end up eaten by the worms. We've gained nothing.
I have a big problem with the phrase ‘we live as we please’. That implies that left to own devices, we are not going to live in a ‘good’ way. It implies that we are naturally wicked and that we need to follow a Golden Rule in order to be ‘good’. I don’t agree with original sin, I think it’s a wicked concept in itself. To be bad from birth! :x  This line implies that if we disbelieve, we are incapable of living by the Golden Rule by our own thoughts! The two things – disbelief and living a ‘good’ life - are not incompatible.

I also disagree with "we've gained nothing". That's basically saying that life without an after-life is worthless! I think life is worth something. It's worth living whether there is another life after death or not. And all religions cloak that idea, that LIFE TODAY is worth living for it's own sake. :D  

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If we disbelieve and are incorrect we earn an eternity in torment seperated from God by our own choice. We've lost everything.
I don’t agree with motivation by fear. I prefer motivation by encouragement. Anyway, I don’t fear death or ‘hell’: I’ve already lived there! :lol:  But seriously, if I live a ‘good’ life but because I don’t believe in a God (which God is the ‘correct’ choice by the way?) – I go to hell??? What kind of manipulative trip is that? Sorry this line just makes me plain angry. I totally reject the idea of hell for disbelievers. It's very N-ish 'my way or the highway'.  Idea: do other animals believe? If not, do they go to hell?

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His point of logic being, what is gained by disbelief?
The power to think our own thoughts, to question everything. If I give up my disbelief, I give up my ability to make up my own mind. I value that independence and freedom far too much. I don’t say that everyone should follow me, I just resist any attempt to have another human’s views forced upon me. I think it might be because of my childhood… :?

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Is it 'rational' to not believe?
Well. ‘Belief’ in itself is not ‘rational’ because it’s not based on something you can say you ‘know’ for sure. That’s why it’s belief and not ‘truth’. So yes, it probably IS rational not to believe. This isn't just words, I do think like this. :oops:  

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But it is worth considering from a strictly rational point of view, I think.
I don’t think I can be entirely rational (at all). I can’t be objective because I see everything from my own perspective, history, experiences and my place in time. So I haven’t been rational, I’ve just said what I think and it’s what I think today, it might change tomorrow. I like change! :D Thanks for the brain workout. I missed this earlier, was reading threads in reverse order.

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« Reply #61 on: March 22, 2005, 09:16:00 AM »
OK, I'm going to sound like I have no will of my own here :roll: , but I don't care. Portia, I agree with every single word you said! I've recently realized that when I agree with someone here, I don't say it, b/c I think they already put their point across so well. Then I realized that that is pretty stupid. We all like support, right? Correct me if I'm wrong. Anyway, I do have a will of my own, but it happens to agree with P here! :) I'm just sorry I didn't get to say it first! :D  But my mind is not that well organized at the moment (I blame the hormones, always nice to have an excuse).
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« Reply #62 on: March 22, 2005, 09:40:52 AM »
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We all like support, right?

Well not so much support as in defining opposing camps (I really don’t like groups do I?) but yes, I like validation that my thinking is ‘allowed’ (there’s that problem again, being ‘allowed’ to be myself and think my own thoughts). So thank you for the feeling I just got, which was hey, I’m not mad and I’m not necessarily bad either, for expressing what I think. :D  

That doesn’t mean I think anyone is mad or bad: I quite like all the differences now and I love yakking about them and having my thoughts stretched. I hope it helps too to signal where I’m pushing my own buttons – having a control-freak one-man-cult stepdad means I can get inappropriately angry about some things. That’s my problem.

Another thing Sleepy, yes, it’s probably good for you to state your agreement because this is a topic that can have us burrowing away out of any imagined harm’s way. I’ve done that, seen something I agree with but been too darn chicken to stand up and say so!  :oops: I’m still chicken about some things. How many posts now? You’d think I should be ‘better’ and pack my bags! But there’s no competition in learning I guess, each at our own pace and in our own way. Discovering how to say things here – like that above – is helpful. Finding the right voice. So thanks, I guess I wasn’t too confrontational (I’m still worried about ‘upsetting my mother’ when I say what I think). Hey! :idea:  I still think saying what I think is automatically confrontational! Sheeeeeesh. I’ll think about that for a while…..

Hormones. Have you had any strange cravings yet? Marmite and fig sandwiches? Actually that sounds quite nice...

Sorry Phillip, Mudpup, Mum, Gwyn, wayyyyy off topic and I mentioned that brown gooey stuff again! :roll:

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« Reply #63 on: March 22, 2005, 09:41:51 AM »
Hi all:

This is an interesting discussion and I can't resist. :D

I have what you might call, Portia, an irrational belief in God.  I have always believed in God, for as long as I can remember.  It wasn't something that was "forced" on me, nor can I prove that my belief is right or not.  But to me, it's a rational belief because it is something that comes from deep inside myself, something I just feel like is knowledge, kind of like my belief that people are basically good.  I can't prove it, but I do believe it and for me, it's real and I see examples of it all the time.

On the other hand, I think religions are run by humans which means that they can have human error (or even people with really bad intent involved).  I was educated a catholic but I disagree with plenty in the catholic religion (so I'm not a very strong catholic--it might be said).   Still.....I believe in the basics that most religions teach.

If you ask me, all Gods are the same.  That is...whoever the Natives, Amish, Muslims, etc call God....is the same One, imo.  Just like we have apples here, which are called pomes, in France (and that...is the extent of my french language expertise! heehee).  I believe God/Jeasus appeared all over the world, not just in the places depicted in the bible.  It is interesting, for example, that the Inhuit describe a person, very similar to Jesus, having visited them.

Ofcourse, many religions are based on the Bible, which is full of much information.  Sometimes, I think of it as a history book, that people took the trouble to document certain events, for later generations.  Why bother?  I guess it could be argued that it was done to gain a following/worshipping/new religious sect of some sort?  But there are so many authors in it that I find it hard to believe that they would all cooperate so well with eachother and put such a collection of stuff together....hoping to get some.....famous notoriety.  Therefore, it does seem to me to have some holiness about it.

I believe that there was a person by the name of Jesus who lived, performed miracles, gave lessons in moral behaviour, and died because He had developed a great following of people, which threatened the religious leaders of the day, that He rose from the dead, that he appeared to people after that, and that He is the son of God.  I can't see why all of that would be documented, in so much detail, by different people, with such similarity, if it were not true.  It seems rational for me to believe at least some of what is written, especially the stuff that is collaborated by different authors, over and over.

I like reading the bible, which is my choice, because it seems to be littered with wisdom and really makes me think about so much.  So for me, it is the opposite of what you say Portia, it challenges me to think for myself...to read and think...to decide....to believe....not to believe....or to question.....to consider....to read again, another day.....ponder more etc.

The golden rule is simply what we are instructed to try to achieve.  It is what would make the world a much better place, if more people practiced it.  It does not imply that we are bad but rather, that we have the option of doing good and it encourages us to do so.

I think the idea is mainly......how we live.  If you don't believe in God, I don't think you are going to hell and I don't think that's the message that is trying to be portrayed (it might be some people's interpretation of all that....but it isn't my interpretation of it).  My belief is that if you live good and try to do good and try to share what's good, you are doing what God hopes you will do, by choice.  Even if you don't believe in Him, you will be rewarded.  The thing is.....you have the knowledge.  You know what is good and what is right and what is wrong and what is not nice...to do and if you choose wrong, most often, without regard for others, without repenting, then your rewards to come will reflect that behaviour.  I do believe God is merciful and that Jesus tried to teach us the value of mercy.

Ofcourse, there is no proof of this and it is irrational to blindly believe stuff .  In my case, the belief came first and the information to back up the belief, was discovered later, in the bible.   I do think some people are born with faith, as a gift, just as some are born musicians, some with the talent for leading, some with extreme beauty, etc.  It's how we use what we are given that makes the difference.

Then.....there are people on earth who have never heard of the bible or God or any such information/ideas/beliefs.  They too will be judged, as I believe we all will be, according to our works.  It's not worshipping or going to church or proclaiming loyalty to God or religion that will be counted first.....it is how we behave.....how we treat others......how we choose to live....that will carry the weight.

Sometimes I think this is hell.  Sometimes I wonder if there is such a thing as reincarnation and the people who don't get it right the first time, keep being sent back here to practice some more.  Makes me wonder how many times it will take me?  :oops:

This really struck me Portia:

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The power to think our own thoughts, to question everything. If I give up my disbelief, I give up my ability to make up my own mind.


If you give up your disbelief, you are making a free choice and making up your own mind.  I think it's good to think our own thoughts and to question.  That's why we have a brain.  Have you ever read the Bible?
I gain great comfort in knowing that so many people bothered to write it for us.  It is an interesting book, to say the least.

Well.....that's the way I see it, anyway.

GFN

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« Reply #64 on: March 22, 2005, 10:11:02 AM »
Hey thanks GFN. I’m going to take my time reading your post which I like a lot. And that’s a really interesting idea, the innate faith idea, that you have the ability to believe within you always. I like that. Must go soon (and really need to ponder your words at length). But thanks for now. :D

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« Reply #65 on: March 22, 2005, 10:14:19 AM »
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If we believe and are correct, then we attain heaven eternally. We've gained everything.


The other pregnant lady wants to join in :)

That statement, and all that it implies, is at the base of my problem with taking christianity literally. I just feel sure, in that weird way that we are born sure of things and will never doubt them, that there is no hell.  I am just sure  that god (whatever it/she is) would not have such a thing. So I am sure she would not punish people for not believing in her in the exact right way.

(Now I know it may sound N of me to declare this from the mountaintops-- I'm really not. It's just that, for me, in some sort of really core way, that's what I feel).

And I really agreed with what Phillip said awhile back about holding religion accountable for what it has wrought.  Even if I decide to go to church (which I  do sometimes) I want to be super-honest with myself about what jerks many christians have been in the past and are being now, and that if that particular religion is "the way" then the way that it is the way must not be obvious to everyone!  Because there sure is a lot of screwing it up.


So I have decided no one religion is the only way because of two things:  1.  we cannot possibly know the answers completely because we are just people, full of divinity (I agree with Phillip there, too) but also full of a bunch of other stuff, and 2.  whenever there is any talk of exaltation or gods or ultimate power, N's get involved and screw it up.  It's just too attractive to them!  They can't help it.  Look at some of the lovely Popes we have had in the past (and rabbis, and buddhist leaders, and etc.-- there are N's everywhere).

Note how I brought it all back to topic  :D

Oh, and someone mentioned the bible.   It's a great read.  But I have trouble getting past all of the extreme N in a lot of the characters. I mean, Paul?  Can we talk? [please don't be mad, mudpup!  I promise I know enough about Paul to make this judgment, and I promise to respect anyone else's counterjudgment, too!]

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« Reply #66 on: March 22, 2005, 10:25:19 AM »
I've spent some time driving myself nuts with trying to "figure out" "God".  I read a really good quote that helped me and goes something like this:  

"If my Higher Power were small enough for me to understand, it wouldn't be big enough to do me much good."
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« Reply #67 on: March 22, 2005, 10:35:28 AM »
It's all okay, it's all very interesting...we are all so much the same...
These past few posts are wonderful. You guys (gals) are awesome. Everyone musing on core beliefs...I just love it. You are all so well spoken and I will only add a few bits, which many have stated in other much more eloquent ways.  

There are as many paths as there are souls.  Being human means to be confused.  Thinking of how to do this "human thing", while remembering our intrinsic love/god (I believe these terms to be the
same) is a spiritual path....whatever form it takes.  Whatever.
When we see ourselves as seperate from god/love, this plurality leads to sufffering.

I am remembering lines from a beautiful song by KDLang:
"I worship this tenacity and the beautiful struggle we're in...love will not elude us, love is simple."
Can't agree with her more.  At it's core,  at our core, it's really quite simple...we are love.  But the complexities sure make life interesting!!

Greetings to all the pregnant women here....your children are truly blessed...I hope you know that!!!

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« Reply #68 on: March 22, 2005, 10:38:30 AM »
Gwyn; love the quote...just love it.  Saw a bumper sticker: "God is too great to fit into any one religion."  and my other favorite (the one I struggle with daily): "Let go. Attachment equals suffering."

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« Reply #69 on: March 22, 2005, 10:44:04 AM »
John Wesley: Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as ever you can.
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« Reply #70 on: March 22, 2005, 11:35:28 AM »
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"If my Higher Power were small enough for me to understand, it wouldn't be big enough to do me much good."



I love this!  And it takes all of the N out of it.

Which, by the way, is one of the things I love about these boards.  When people have religious beliefs they wear them lightly, without imposing them on others and without taking on the mantle of god.  I really appreciate the honesty of this board about these issues.

And I think it's great that we don't all agree about everything. Gives me practice trying to be the opposite of my parents and actually listening to other people and respecting their views. It's a great thing to try out because heaven knows they didn't teach it to me...

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« Reply #71 on: March 22, 2005, 11:44:56 AM »
Greetings all.  What an exuberant flurry of posts have exploded onto this board and thread.  I have marveled at the metaphor of the movie, "The Matrix" over and over again.  When Morpheus says to Neo, "You have been born into slavery."  Think of all of the concepts that we have simply adopted, because they come with the civilization that we were born into.  Government, war, religion, god, heaven, hell, power, greed, etc.  Think on this for just a moment.  What if we were born into a world where our connection to spirit was simply assumed and children were encouraged to practice manifestation of this connection.  What if children were taught that there are absolutely no limits to their capabilities and gifts, not just empty words, but all of their surrounding stimuli developed to augment and encourage each person's personal freedom of choice and responsibility toward the benefit of the collective.  What if children were encouraged and trained to unlock their vast potentials of spiritual connectedness.  It seems to be what we are all hungry for, yet the culture that has adopted us, simply by our being here, has fallen short.  It is because we all fall victim to the tidal wave of the herd, which we are all a part of.  

I believe that people are basically altruistic, and when all the pathology is stripped away, we are one.  I have often seen the experience of life to be what I call "The Sacred Struggle"  We see people every day fight forces that might crush others, yet they plod on and make it somehow work for them.  We see people pushed to their limits in physical, mental, emotional and spiritual challenges, always with the truth hiding in their mental recesses, that they are mortal and will eventually perish.  We see each other struggling with issues that seem so insignificant to the casual observer, yet deep down inside, the struggle is as important as breath.  We see failures and successes.  Quiet victories, no fanfares.  If there is a god, he is seeing this too.  Tell me he isn't proud of us all and I will tell you that he/she is nothing but a projection of our own sense of worthlessness?  Humans are magnificent creatures, godlike in their courage, fighting for their right to be here, under neverending duress.  God is not out there, god is here.  Why are we afraid of this power?  The wolves in our midst are not.  They are running this planet by default.  They are afraid that we may figure this out.  Remember Neo flying into the sky at the end of the Matrix?  What if?.....
ALL THAT IS NOT GIVEN IS LOST

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« Reply #72 on: March 22, 2005, 01:36:38 PM »
Hi Phillip,
What if?.... I'm not willing to take that bet. The stakes are too high.

However, if you don't stop telling me I'm God,  I'll have to send a plague of locusts your way. :wink:  :shock:  :D

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« Reply #73 on: March 22, 2005, 04:05:35 PM »
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However, if you don't stop telling me I'm God, I'll have to send a plague of locusts your way


Mudpup you are so funny!  That comment gets funnier the more I read it...


Phillip, I thought your last post was really beautiful.  I am not always sure what you mean, and I'll confess to not being big on astrology and such, but I think you have tapped into a very wise way to be-- full of positivity and loving spirit, and trying to embody that spirit yourself.  

And who can argue with that?

The particulars don't matter anyway, in my humble opinion.  They are all just words anyway.

I'm going to make a little promise to myself to remember this revelation-- sometimes I get pretty attached to my own particular philosophies as if they were somehow "true" instead of a path to the truth.

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« Reply #74 on: March 22, 2005, 04:39:27 PM »
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It's not worshipping or going to church or proclaiming loyalty to God or religion that will be counted first.....it is how we behave.....how we treat others......how we choose to live....that will carry the weight.


GFN,
You always have such a lovely way of saying things.  I enjoyed your entire post, but the above statement I do believe is at the core of religion, spirituality, faith or whatever one chooses to call it.

I am a practicing Catholic Christian (a convert of about 9 years), but disagree with many of the teachings.  I don't think that makes me a bad Catholic, but just a discerning one.  It is not out of convenience that I follow some teachings, but not others.  It is because some things make sense and have a religious basis and others are man (gender neutral) projecting his power and control.

I do not believe there is only one way to Heaven and I have a sneaking suspicion that when we arrive at those pearly gates, God will be shaking his head at how many silly rules we imposed in the name of religion.

I find comfort in my beliefs and it has been a warm blanket during my darkest hours of grief and depression.  Now that the blanket is off and the days are brighter, I can be grateful and rejoice that I felt God's hand leading me through it.

Religions are only as good as the people who lead them.  People are flawed and therefore religions will have flaws as well.  I don't think it makes sense to throw the baby out with the bath water, however and the good that religion has brought to the world I believe strongly outweighs the evil.

As I read back over this, I am somewhat amused by my having written it.  For most of my life I had no religious beliefs at all and grew up in a family where religion was looked down upon.  I guess everyone has to find their own way in their own time.  This has been my way at this time.

Brigid