Does someone know of a good sexual abuse support site?

[Denise]

He sits now an crys saying he cant take it turning it round once again like hes the victim, how can people be so mentaly cruel, I CANT CARRY ON, THE PAIN IS WAY TO INTENSE

[October]

Denise, send me a PM, and we can talk offline.

You need not to post here any more, where David can read what you say.

[October]

... you are reading things into my words that I am not implying and why we are not communicating here.

Communication may well not be happening.  But it may not be my responsibility.  

Why do you give the blame to me?  Do you think I need that?  

Anyway, I don't accept it.  At most communication is 50:50.  I speak: you listen.  You speak: I listen.  We do not have to agree at the end of it.  

I, therefore, agree to differ from you, without ascribing blame.

I have deleted the posts I made in answer to your comments, because I don't think they are helpful to Denise.

[Mati]

Hi October

I felt that you were not listening to me because I was stressing that I was not being judgemental towards the suicidal and the things I was saying were not my opinions but facts reported by suicide prevention agencies but you kept disagreeing with their findings even though you had not experienced the suicide of a child yourself (or at least you were not admitting it) so really you did not have the experience so your opinions could only be conjecture. But the main issue for me was that you were talking as though I was being judgemental, but maybe you were just saying that society is that way. if so I misunderstood you and I apologise. But I apologise anyway that our conversation was upsetting to you and you are offended with me.

I do not mind anyone disagreeing with me, but when they disagree with findings without providing some evidence then there is obvously something else going on in their minds. I am sorry that this has triggered you, I do not mean to cause anyone suffering or bring out something they are not ready to face.

Denice

Don't let the ba*t*rd* grind you down. David has his own  problems and is toxic for you. You need to be with people who will give you unconditional positive regard so that you can recover from your past and you can do it.

[bunny as guest]

Denise,

David sounds very unstable. He cannot help you - he needs help himself. Please call someone professional. Have you tried to do that yet? I hope you will.

bunny

[October]

I do not mind anyone disagreeing with me, but when they disagree with findings without providing some evidence then there is obvously something else going on in their minds.

This is highly offensive.  This conversation is closed.  Any further responses in this vein will be reported.

[Mati]

I am sorry that you were offended October. Maybe i did not put it very well. I did not mean it in a judgemental way or anything like that. It was meant to be sympathetic. I was trying to say that your response showed me that you are having an issue in this area, and I am feeling sorry about that. I am having a really bad week myself and do not know what i have done to provoke this aggression from you. i have said i am sorry quite a few times but every time i speak it makes it worse and you become more offended. I don't know what else i can say to you now as you have refused the hand of friendship i have tried to offer you. I am very very uopset over this and it has brought me to tears.


Just to say thankyou to everyone for the support and advice but I think I had better stop posting on this site. Goodbye.

[bunny]

Mati,

You don't have to stop posting to the site. A conversation about suicide is going to be very fraught with emotions and triggers. People get caught up in that and it's no one's fault. Maybe there can be a general consensus from now on, where we agree to table discussion on the reasons for it, and put the topic aside for now. How does that sound?


bunny

[Portia]

Mati, I’ll repeat what bunny said: You don't have to stop posting to the site.

Denise, I hope you are still with us.

[Denise]

Portia, i am still here, its been a bad few days, with the stuff i said about David and with the withdrawals fom the tablets, i have felt very sick today and light headed, i dont know if its the withdrawal that is causing it, but i must admit i dont feel like i am bubbling inside now like am going to explode, i do think these tablets where doing more harm than good, my gp has put me on a low dosage of stelazine she said they should help me feel calmer, i took the 1st 1 a couple of hours ago so i will see how i go on these, before my next appointment to see my shrink
Yesterday i also recieved a call from the police, telling me the crown prosecution have not decided yet whether my sex abuser will be prosecuted or not, it was supposed to be tomorrow i found out the outcome of it all, because of this and the wait i think its put me in a more anxious state, but now its been postponed till july, i dont know if thats a good or bad thing, so the wait continues, so i am a little sad about this.
I do feel calmer in myself although still very tearful, could be cos am overtired, or maybe cos them tablets were making me nuts, time will tell, i am not out of the woods yet, but heres hoping things may change even just a little, so at least 1 morning i can wake with a smile on my face rather than tears in my eyes, thanks for everyones support

[Denise]

Can i also add, just incase anyone reads up on my meds, they are also used for treating people with schizophrenia, which i do not have, people that do suffer are put on a high dosage, mine is a low dosage for treatment of anxiety, thats all

[longtire]

Denise, I glad that you are still here posting.  I'm also glad that you feel different (slightly better?) and don't have the bubbling.  Keep looking for things to help you feel better when you feel better and just hang on when you feel worse.  Keep coming here for support and validation.

((((((((((Denise))))))))))

[Anonymous]

Good to hear from you Denise . I’m glad the police are keeping you informed. Are you required to do anything regarding that case? I hope not. Is anyone else talking to you about what’s happening there? The Citizen’s Advice Bureaux or even the Samaritans might be able to give you general information about what happens in these cases. Knowing that might help you?

Hope you can get some good sleep and keep posting when you feel like it. Best wishes portia

[Anonymous]

Portia, last summer i had to give a statement to the police, with all the graphic details included, it was very traumatizing as some things you remember and some you dont, questions like how mant times did it happen, was he dressed, undressed, what position was he or myself in, most i could only answer as i didnt remember, i was only 3/5, it also triggered a lot of flashbacks, things i had never even thought about before, 1 was me being abused i was on the top bunk of bunk beds, and yet the place i remember the main abuse taking place, i know we didnt have bunks, it wasnt till i rang my sister, and she said we did at a previous address, thats how i know i was at least 3 when the abuse started, it took two days to do the statement, it wasnt a nice experience, and now a year later i await the results

[Denise]

Thanks longtire for thinking of me  
As for cab or samaritans, i dont really want to talk to people about it as such, most will say awwwwwwwwwww, or he should be locked away for life, or maybe convince me he will be prosecuted, i know its a difficult one, 2 prove, historical abuse always is, although my records clearly state i was abused it doesnt say he is the abuser, so i need to prepare my mind mentally for whatever the outcome will be, and i think talking to people would probably end up convincing me he will be prosecuted, if you understand what i mean, cos my heads a bit fuzzy, i cant explain properly