In my online research I've discovered that my Nh is disordered with the same personality disorders as my mother, N and OCPD.
I married my mother.
I found this list:
1. Talk all the time, but don't be very active physically, and never listen to what your child has to say.
2. Expect perfect etiquette and manners from your child from his day of birth on. Don't tolerate mistakes.
3.Be an introvert. Don't let him see you interacting in a healthy manner with other human beings.
4.Be very critical of the people around you-this includes your minister, your neighbors, your husband, and most importantly, your child.
5. Be a real snob.
6. Be sure to domineer your husband as well as your children. This is very important.
7. Emphasize morality as a way of being superior to other children, or of getting to heaven.
8. Don't make any serious commitments to God yourself, and be critical of the religious convictions of your child's grandparents.
9. Tell your child that his father is the boss, but in reality, allow your husband to be nothing but a figurehead.
10. Expect your child to be completely toilet-trained by the time he is twelve months old. Then, when he grows older, he can get even with you by being constipated much of the time.
11. Be a real miser with your money. Always save for the future, and don't let the future ever come.
12. Emphasize the letter of the law rather than the spirit of the law. Make your rules quite rigid, and never allow any exceptions.
13. Practice Victorian ethic. Shame your child for being a sexual being.
My Nh's family did these things. It wasn't isolated to a single person. For my mother it was her mother.
