ezpz,
I am doing something that I have never done before. I am spending time alone and not looking to pursue a relationship until I feel stronger as a person. This is so alien to me. Normally I would look to jump into a new relationship right away to fill that void.
GREAT decision
. I can soooooooo relate to this. If one relationship ended, I would feel compelled and desperate to get into a new one. And I would grab the next man that came along--not caring if he was actually a good match for me, or even a good person--just wanting him to stay. That way I didn't feel worthless. If not for my therapist, I would probably have done it again. But I didn't, and forced myself to be alone until I was healthy enough and had the proper tools to objectively evaluate the men I was meeting.
Once I got there and started dating again, all those previous feelings of desperation and neediness were gone. I was able to take my time, move on from anyone who didn't feel right, and be totally OK with time I spent alone.
EZ, keep doing what you are doing, and you'll be fine. You'll know when the time is right to take a step back into the dating world. Your eyes and ears will be wide open and you'll know when you have found the right person.
Hugs,
Brigid
