Low Blows - Calling People N here

[Plucky]

Penelope (I only today realised you are bean.  hi there),  I only wonder why you try to engage with RM.  I don't think anything good can be gotten from it.  In your place, I'd not put it on the back burner... I'd pitch it into the bin.

As for others, if you have conflict with someone here and you feel you are right.....why leave if you can still get something from or give something to the board?  Let the other person leave, if anything.    Let's stay together as a useful community, not flee and leave it to be dominated by those who tend to be unproductive.   Fleeing is not usually a good way to deal with anything, anyway, unless it is a mountain lion about to eat you.  I know this from extensive experience.   

Plucky

[penelope]

hiya plucky,

on edit:  oh never mind, you said "as for others"...

who me?  I've never thought about leaving this place.  No one could run me outa here except maybe my own conscious (for neglecting some of my other duties  ).

I've chosen to engage with reallyme in an attempt to let her know how it feels when she addresses me obliquely in the way she does.  I think it's a hobby or entertainment or something for her..it's very unpleasant for me to have to read things about me sometimes daily..that I'd rather not read.  I just wanted her to know how that felt.

So I was thinking about maybe just saying one of these the next time instead:

THAT HURT

or

BODY SLAM - OUCH
or

ow

or

Yow!

or something to that affect...what do you think?  how ya doing plucky? 

but that's a great question you've asked.  I probably won't be doing it again for a long while!!!

pb

[penelope]

pluck-

can you expound on your extensive experience?   

And I agree, let the unproductive ones flee.  Seeker, we can ignore RM.  come one, let's do it.

bean

[Plucky]

Hi Penelope,
my experience consists of fleeing relationships and friendships when conflict reared its head, as it always does.   If you had several lifetimes I could catalogue it for you.   Relatively lately I have learned how to stop and reframe, which is a new word I think you taught me on another thread, and work things through.  I've been tempted to leave this board a few times, over what I now see as very minor stuff, and only the fact that I have nowhere else to go forced me to rethink the situation.    I also look back at many good relationships of different types, which I left for flimsy reasons and now regret it.

I did sort of leave the board for a while, but that was solely due to the fact that I did not have time to be up here as much as I am.  It's kind of addictive.

Relating is like skiing.    When you get onto something steeper than what you're accustomed to, all your bad habits come out.  After that, you have either learned, or you go back to the bunny slope.

(If you meant experience with the mountain lions.....it's all theoretical.)
Plucky

[penelope]

 

reframing...reframing...heck, I gotta go back to my old threads!

you're funny plucky, I'm glad you're back (but not if it's an addiction, yuck!)

pb