Hi Brigid
re the mouse being higher on the species list for me, I rate that simply because it has a limbic brain and the snake does not (interesting brain info here which cites snakes and mice
http://www.psycheducation.org/emotion/triune%20brain.htm ). As for what that might mean….? I was thinking in terms of relationships with animals and how we interact with them – and them with us. There is something deeply odd (feels ‘against nature’ but that’s a fuzzy meaningless thing to say!) to me about choosing a reptile over an animal with an emotional brain
Thanks for the air quality info. Yes I’ve worked in what I’d call sick buildings and the effects are similar for me to being on a plane! Everybody else's viruses (viri?) within days. But why do I nearly always get a sore throat/sniffle after a flight? Maybe it’s the pressure on the ear/nose/throat areas? I don’t know.
Hi PP
I didn’t mean to be objective (how impossible is that, here?), just to take away any guilt or negative emotion associated with the ‘should have dones’. Letting it go and making the best of now, kind of thing.
So, I didn't do such a good job. It's hard to find the positive in that.As you said, you were a kid yourself and although that wasn’t his fault, it wasn’t yours either you know? You did the best job that you could probably have done at that time and now you have the opportunity to know that, reflect on who you were then, let yourself accept that and move on today? I hope so, I think so, from all that you’ve said.
Hi Hops
a tattoo as a healing ritual between two peopleIt’s a bit way-out for me Hops, to be very honest, even between two love partners. For a mother and daughter, it says too much closeness to me (engulfment), but then I’m somewhat avoidant so I’d be running a mile. I don’t know, I’m thinking of sailors with hearts and ‘Mum’ or their girlfriend’s names tattooed on their arms, but then they were away at sea and maybe it was a symbol of their heterosexuality?? Overall the idea feels too intimate to me and is not about the relationship itself, but that’s me.
Re the sunflower, remembering the past with affection is fine but it would be romanticising and elevating one moment to unrealistic levels (for me, obviously). I have a problem with photographs too, with what they appear to represent and how they lie, or how they can allow us to lie to each other and ourselves. I have
no photographs of people I know on view! But then I’m an intro, so….
I admit it if it’s not obvious, I cannot respond objectively to a mother-daughter question like yours Hops without some modicum of projection and also wanting to put your relationship right in terms of how I feel
my relationship with my mother could have been ‘put right’, but I’m sure that’s very clear to you.
(((((((((((Moon))))))))))))
recognising and accepting and facing your fears? Isn’t that a long way from falling off the wagon? I think so. Have no fear here, you are loved Moon
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