Well, back to Moon's comment about Ns not being able to feel intimacy........I think I get that. My mom wants relationships on her terms................that is all nicey-nice, perfect (or at least the illusion of perfection......) I always felt like our kitchen was even false.................for instance, all the containers for flour, sugar and such never had those things in them........they might have a flower arrangement poking out of them. There is never any "intimate" conversation. If we get down to brass tacks, it usually gets into a defensive argument because we can't say what we really mean or really feel.................that is reserved for her to complain about others but never EVER say she does anything wrong (and she does - over and over......)
I just can't get over the feeling of really having no one.................
