The longest dream (not nightmare) that I can't wake up from......

[Overcomer]

Hi all!!  Most of you know that I have been waiting and waiting and waiting for a job I originally interviewed for right around Thanksgiving.  I have had 4 interviews and I know a couple of the managers really want me..............but, with every conversation with this company I usually wait a couple of weeks between conversations.  I feel like I am on the longest voicemail quagmire or a dream that I cannot wake up from.  Have you ever had a dream and when it was just about to be resolved, the alarm rings and the outcome never happens?  Well, my life feels like that.  I check my voicemail hourly.  I check my email.  Over and over and over again.  I emailed the last person I interviewed with a week ago today........................and told her I couldn't wait until I met with the new DM and new RVP................no response...........

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Running in sand.  Running in mud.  TICK TOCK...........................................................................TICK TOCK....................................................................

Life on hold..................................................cannot make plans......................................................have stuff to do but can't do it.......................Drs. appointments, dermatology appointments, makeup parties, join the gym, get the hell out of work with nmom.........................................................never ending dream I cannot wake up from!

[Leah]

Hi (((Kell)))

Oh that's just awful for you ........... I check my voicemail hourly.  I check my email.  Over and over and over again

surprised you have any hair left ............ have you? 

You are literally on tenderhooks all the time ..... waiting and a wondering.

Suppose you could always join the gym ........ and wear out the treadmill !!

Seems an unusually long period of time regarding the company's decision making process ....  must have a procrastination problem !!

Thinking of you,

Leah

[isittoolate]

Hi kell

Just forget about it entirely--totally--for all time, and live!!

Then you will receive a call just as you have shaved your head!!

Izzy

[Stormchild]

Hi all!!  Most of you know that I have been waiting and waiting and waiting for a job I originally interviewed for right around Thanksgiving.  I have had 4 interviews and I know a couple of the managers really want me..............but, with every conversation with this company I usually wait a couple of weeks between conversations.  I feel like I am on the longest voicemail quagmire or a dream that I cannot wake up from.  Have you ever had a dream and when it was just about to be resolved, the alarm rings and the outcome never happens?  Well, my life feels like that.  I check my voicemail hourly.  I check my email.  Over and over and over again.  I emailed the last person I interviewed with a week ago today........................and told her I couldn't wait until I met with the new DM and new RVP................no response...........

.........................................................never ending dream I cannot wake up from!

Kell...

Thinking about Beth's thread, the one about being able to predict what people will do...

I think you may have enough information here to be able to predict what this organization will be like.

I bet they aren't very good at following through on anything they promise their people.

I bet people change jobs to get promotions because that is the only way anyone gets promotions.

I bet good people are 'held down' because the management doesn't want to 'make everyone else feel bad' by rewarding excellent performance.

Just sayin'.  Because... what you are seeing now is their COMPANY manners. This is how they act when they go a-courtin'.

If they're this inconsiderate now, what on earth can you expect when they think they've GOT you?

Just putting in 2 cents worth, and I wish it were more cheerful...

[kel]

You know?  I agree with this based on how long it is taking them.  But both of the interim managers told me how much they liked the company plus they both said the pay was great and the work/life mix is good.  That is why I am frustrated.  The two different impressions are oxymorons!

[Stormchild]

You know?  I agree with this based on how long it is taking them.  But both of the interim managers told me how much they liked the company plus they both said the pay was great and the work/life mix is good.  That is why I am frustrated.  The two different impressions are oxymorons!

Maybe not mutually exclusive.

The pay is great - for THEM.

The work/life balance is great - for THEM.

Where I work, the pay is great, and so is the work/life balance - for the pets and the princesses.

Then, there are those who actually DO the work there. Their pay, and their work/life balance, are quite another matter!

This kind of yin-yang split usually means that there are haves and have-nots, and if you're getting it up the yin-yang now, you may well be doomed to have-not status.

I'm not saying give up; I am saying, though: keep yer options open, and keep looking around.

((((((((((kell))))))))))

[seastorm]

It could be sign that they are poor communcators within the organization or..... their cousin Fred is on holiday and they can' t  make the decision until he comes back. Organizations have things going on that you can 't know at this time. They may be waiting for the funding they need to hire you. I say wait a couple of days and ask them when they expect to be hiring.
If you don't get this job, you can request that they give you feedback so that you can improve for the next job.
No matter what happens try to get into the here and now. Easier said than done. i think it is great that you have made the DESICION to get more distance between you and mom.

Sea storm

[Overcomer]

Thanks, Sea............I truly think that is what is happening.  With the reconfiguring of the regions and districts, the new managers have to visit all their stores.  So I'll bet they are waiting until these guys visit the store I am hoping to work for before they call me.  BUT she told me within a week and that was 8 days ago.............AND I emailed her and haven't even heard a peep back from her.  I tell you, if I don't get this job I am going to be so mad!

[Hopalong]

Kell, you're a champ.
You have been enduring and persisting so well in spite of this great tension.

Try to breathe your way through a happy Sunday.

One thing: tomorrow will come and tomorrow will go. Like every day after it.

You deserve a peaceful day.

hugs,
Hops

[kel]

I may deserve it but it eludes me.  the waiting is the hardest part.  I texted the DM and talked about him buying my store and asked him if he had heard from the new management.  No response.  Maybe the Winter Storm has something to do with the text not getting through?  I just do not know!  Spinning my wheels!

[Gaining Strength]

Kell - I hate what you and Bones have been going through.  It is so distressing and creates such dispair.  There really are no words for it.  I think about you both daily and am vigilant for word from each of you that something wonderful has come through at last.  Until either of you hears otherwise I am going to hold out hope.  I am hoping for THIS job to be it and to be good.  I won't give up until you do. 

I hope with you that you will hear something positive this week and that it will begin within the month of March at a salary that will be reasonable for you.  - Same for you Bone! - friend to you both - Gaining Strength

[Overcomer]

Yes, poor Bones and ME!!!!!   Why, oh why can't they just offer me the position?  It makes me think they really don't want me.......just the DM who wants to buy my store.......

[Stormchild]

Kell, I apologize. The answer to the question I'm about to ask may be upthread, but I haven't checked regularly, and so I may have missed it. I'm not indifferent to your situation at all, though.

If the District Manager who wants to buy your store is the only person at this company who wants to hire you, doesn't that set you up? If he buys your store, isn't he going to leave his company and come to run the store instead? If you leave the store to go to work for the company, won't you be going there JUST as the ONE person who seems to have a genuine interest in you, without games and garbage, is LEAVING -- to come to the place where you are right now?

I may be misunderstanding this, maybe his company wants to buy your store and you'd get to run it and work for him. But if not, if he wants to buy it from your mother, is it possible that if you sit tight, you could end up working for this man right where you are right now, without having to leave?

[kel]

Well it would seem ironic at least.  But in a way it almost seems like Gods will somehow that I applied there and he felt called to do what I do.  And he I dont leave the chances of us selling at all are slim.

[Overcomer]

So, you see, if I don't get the job at the store I want, then the chances of us selling are slimmer than if I do.................so if the DM doesn't hire me then it can't work out for him to buy the place.  So he would be smart to offer me the job.  But I don't want him to want me just because he might be able to get my store.  And he liked me before all this came about.

So I am hoping that these guys are just so busy that I am just one in many things on their "to do" lists............and that they will get to me as soon as possible.