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clj:
hi can u elabourate a bit on what u said on the last paragraph? Yes that was a common one. what about um....(on a similar theme)' I brought you into this world!!!!' (i.e. and you disappoint me like this, after all ive done etc etc...).
'I didnt bring you up to be like this, do that' etc etc).
surf14:
At least they told you you were great although it was discordant. All the kids in my family heard was how destructive they were, rotten and selfish! Pretty embarrassing when you're only 8-10 and she's on the phone to your friends mother saying things like that! Surf
clj_writes:
clj--I am confused by your post--could you please clarify?
This is getting weird with a cj, a clj, and a clj_writes (me). Perhaps I should change my name selection!
You are right, Surf. I am grateful my parents weren't tearing me down all the time. They did try to boost me although a lot of their other behaviors were counterproductive. For many years I thought I had the perfect parents and upbringing, and that all the other kids got gypped. I was shocked when I started discovering how controlled I was and how it was impacting me as an adult.
My mother wants to BE me. I think she wants to do her life over and get it right this time. Hence the nickname "Smother Mother". She is also called "Drama Mama" at times. ;)
cj:
Sorry christy. um,,,i managed to type my name as clj for some reason lol. I just wondered if you could elabourate on the last paragraph, maybe examples? ..... When you say trust *those* people, do you mean your parents. Also what was considered 'unnaceptable'. (Or an example of....)
surf14:
Ha Ha; those are cute names! Your mother is a "binding" mother who could potentially smother you because of her attempts to bind you to her. At least you are aware of it so 'knowing the problem is 80% of the cure'. Does she get angry at you or guilt trip you when you attempt tp establish your own identity? or is she not the rageful type? if not you are very lucky. Surf
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