Short version. When our friend came to move stuff out of the house next door, our old house 2 doors down from our new house..... friend found that 2 cabinets had been pretty badly damaged. He was almost in tears talking about how bad it was..... things had been ripped out from inside.... screws holes stripped. It truly looked like someone had had a bit of a rage attack. One very heavy cabinet lay on it's side and one had a shattered door. We're talking Henredon furniture.... $10,000.00 if you bought them brand new. I called my attorney and we were hastily trying to move things out..... terrible pressure and N did deliver that dumpster in front, just like he said he would. I didn't want him throwing out all my photo albums and baby treasures. Friend brought strange men over to help him move stuff... men from off of a street corner so.... I was trying to move my journals and keep eye on the girls but too too too much. I didn't trust the men and N was coming over soon, to see the girls he said. I was frantic bc friend was so upset and we were moving stuff as fast as we could and there were some other factors driving me nuts..... more pressures. My attorney was sending a courier over to get some of the evidence..... he was unhappy I had it on me when N on the way but I was dealing with it when friend called frantic so had to put it on back burner and then had to go get girls...... When N got to the house I was trying to pull out of the drive. He blocked me in and agressively came around my door. I put up the windows and asked him to move the truck. He said he wouldn't. I said I'd call the police and started doing that. He said he would but instead went and told the workers they were trespassing and should leave. I got the police and asked them to come. N went to the new house, where girls were and started playing with 4yo. It was bad. Poor her saw everything and he took her back over with him to see the police. I had called my 75 yo friend to come and keep the girls safe.... there was a fork lift running and I was so overwhelmed..... both girls should have stayed with her away from police, but didn't.
Let me explain what he said on his way over..... on the phone I asked him why he destroyed the cabinets and he said it was an accident but there was no way that he needed to be moving those around by himself and he made it clear from the start that he was making trouble when he demanded the girls Mother's Day weekend and immediately started moving in 2 doors away and saying he was going to throw all my stuff away and not give any time to get it out. Anyway..... whew.... he said I had enough time to move all the stuff and he'd "tricked you again you dumb bitch." I think that had something to do with saying it was ok to change locks, I spent over $500.00, and then he said he would get cops to make me give him a key. Terrible thing. He went on about threats with a sledgehammer and coming back with other people and tearing everything up. It was awful.... I felt like I did when he choked me out of the blue. The raging is something very new in our relationship. He's usually the quiet threat making type.
Anyway... one of the things making me nervouse was I had something on me that the attorney didn't want N to get.... evidence. I was trying to get out with it when he came home and as I was running to give it, and a box from the trunk, to the courier sitting in the other drive, N was following me fast. AAAHHHHHHHHHH! I was shaking and afraid N would grab the courier and take everything, which seems to be the way my luck is going.
Cops came and I told story.... N told story. 4yo on my hip. Very bad. I've sheltered them so much up to this point and now she'll go to school tomorrow and tell everyone about the police coming to her house yesterday. Can't stay focused, sorry. Police said they can't keep N away or out of either house. My attorney, once again, can do NOTHING. We plan for a temp hearing on Wed but..... opposing counsel's MIL is dying in hospital so there may be a problem or funeral. ::sigh:: SO frustrated and my neck is about to snap and my stomach is stinging like I'm in labor. N came over and talked for a while. Really scared me to look into his eyes and just let him talk again. I can't beleive I started laughing. I laughed and it was a bit off for me. Not typical but it struck me that I'm SO TRAPPED! I can't get OUT! This is really happening to me and this was the opposite thing I always thought I wanted. I waited to make this kind of commitment for THIRTY SEVEN YEARS! ::breathing deeply::
He said he'll be back over in a while. He said that I've lost all credibility with my attorney and that he wants to withdraw from my case... that there's something I need to know about the 80K he's supposed to return to me, very ominouse. He's going on and on about how he loves me and how I've hurt him. He teared up and said this is all my fault..... I should just settle and quit escalating everything.
OK.... I never can give the short version. Margo
