Responsibilities and family

[lighter]

tayana:

It sounds like your son has anxiety over the move that is normal.  The tears and trying to get you to stay, that you perceive to be manipulative, do you think he's doing that on your mother's behalf or do you think he's just trying to skirt the trouble he sees coming and looking for a way to escape it?

I'm glad to hear he got to see his room and thinks it's cool.  Stay positive with him and get him thinking about what he'll be choosing for his new room.  Time for new bedding and paint color?  Time for a new lamp and 5 new books?  Time to paint a bookshelf to match that new bedding and let him lots of input.  Get him excited so he has less time to think about things that he shouldn't have to deal with in the first place.

Let him know you and Grandma have problems you will work through.  He has permission to love her and his Grandfather.  You are in control and you'll handle all this stuff.  He doesn't need to know more than that.  Give him information and help alay his fears where you can.  Keep his schedule as close to normal as possible.  Parent consistently and calmly.  Mom needs to always be Mom and handling things.

I've said all this before but, it's hard to think straight when anxiety grabs hold.  You'll be fine.  Stay strong.   

[tayana]

Thanks Ami and Janet, I need all the love I can get.

Lighter, we talked for a little bit, and I told him Grandma was going to be mad at me for a little while.  He seems fine about it today.  I think it was just anxiety catching up to him, and he can be very manipulative.  I'm going to have to work with him some, or he could turn out like my mother.  I don't want that.