HIya Tayana,
Glad you loved the post. I have to say......it sounds funny and it is funny but I was half....no three quarters serious!!
Your mother calls you at work. To rag on you.
Please think about this......when little sweet M grows up and is an adult....a man......and has an office he works at....can you see yourself calling him at work to
rag him out about anything?
Your mother does not act like a normal human being. She's like a two year old having mini tantrums and must have....demands issues be addressed....when she wants them to be....no matter what you or anyone else is doing. She phones. She rags. She gets her supply.
You give her what she wants.
((((((((((((sorry Tayana)))))))))))
Why do you explain a dang thing about the way you do laundry or anything else?
Why don't you ask her if she realizes that you're at work and you're busy?
Why don't you tell her you do not want her calling you at work any more, unless it's a dire emergency?
Why are you letting her behave like a spoiled brat?
She's an adult.
She can wait until you get home.
She won't die of a single thing until then, if she has to wait to address these issues.
When she calls: for example say:
"I'm at work and I'm busy. I won't discuss this issue now. Call me at home later please."
And hang up.
These are issues, which have absolutely nothing to do with her and are totally NOT her business.
These are issues, which she does not deserve answers to.
And she is interfering in your life by calling at work, possibly disturbing more than just you.
Once and if she does call you at home, instead of giving her the answers she is demanding about stuff that is none of her business why not say something like:
"This is not your concern. I am dealing with it. How was your day?"
And if she refuses to carry on an adult conversation without criticizing and picking and belittling you......
Say: "Ya know what? I gotta go. The pot is boiling. Talk to you later."
And hang up!!
She will not die, Tayana. And she will learn to behave reasonably or she will not have any conversations with you at all. That will be HER choice. You can be pleasant. You can be friendly and happy to hear from her....but the minute she starts to rag........
.......is the minute you need to end it.
Give her an opportunity to correct herself or don't talk. Hang up and just go do whatever you have to do that does not involve in giving her the supply she is demanding of you. It's just not healthy. You will be surprised at how much more energy you have, once you stop letting her drain you on a daily basis.
Seriously, she's like a vampire. I hope you will believe I'm trying to help (not putting you down in any way......just giving you questions to ask yourself and think about. No need to answer a single thing to me!)
Sela
