Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

While I was sitting in another doctor's office this morning, I spotted this quote in Scientific American:

"Psychopathy, like autism, and many clinical disorders is a spectrum...Many of us are narcissistic, many of us are impulsive at some level.  Many of us do all sorts of things that are at least somewhat morally wrong.  We're somewhere on the spectrum."  This was stated by Harvard University evolutionary psychologist Marc Hauser, speaking at a July 2010 conference on "The New Science of Morality".

I noticed, with interest, the following sentence below the quote:

"Harvard later said it had found him guilty of scientific misconduct."

 

This guy sounds like a Psychopathic Narcissist who's attempting to justify his scientific misconduct!!!!!!

GEEZ!!!!!!

The thought scares me that there are, possibly, other professionals out there that think the way he does!!!   

Bones

[BonesMS]

Feeling out of sorts today.   

[BonesMS]

Just checking in.

[BonesMS]

Checking in.....couldn't sleep.

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones,

I've never done it, but sorely tempted, but I heard that Aldous Huxley and maybe his wife too used to get a shower then wrap themselves in a sheet without drying off, climbing in bed and it induced sleep.  Wouldn't it be a hoot if it worked?

They did some pretty weird things during their lives, so consider the source?

tt

Who knows?

Showers tend to wake me up even more.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've observed something that I'm not quite sure how to analyze it.

This time of year, Seasonal Affective Disorder starts to hit me REALLY HARD because the days are getting shorter.  I try to get outside, into sunlight, as much as possible but it doesn't always help.  Yesterday was one such opportunity where I did some work in two of the three community gardens near my home and still felt VERY DEPRESSED after I got home and put my harvest away.  I felt so drained that I went to bed at 7:30 PM and stayed there until about 4:00 AM this morning.

I woke up, still feeling depressed and, yes, I was having suicidal thoughts and suicidal ideation.  (There's been a history of suicides in my family so I know I'm at risk.)  Then I started snacking on what I picked out of the community gardens the day before....mainly different varieties of tomatoes, (I don't know what the variety names are), and, after several hours, I felt my depressed mood start to lift.  Could the garden-fresh vegetables be a factor in changing my mood?

Bones

[Hopalong]

((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))

If you're feeling suicidal you need to also tell someone in 3-D...
you must do that.

You deserve more help than tomatoes (but I'm glad they helped).

Okay?

love to you,
Hops

[BonesMS]

((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))

If you're feeling suicidal you need to also tell someone in 3-D...
you must do that.

You deserve more help than tomatoes (but I'm glad they helped).

Okay?

love to you,
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

[sKePTiKal]

Bones - the tomatos really could've helped! They are like round glowing juicy globes of well-being... from the sensual experience of munching into one... and the actual nutritional content (Vit C, Lycopene)... to the fact that this was your own harvest: you planned, planted, weeded & watered, and the tomato is the "fruit" of your investment of nurturing the plants... and in return, eating one is the tomato returning the favor... nurturing you.

At least, that's how I see growing veggies and herbs...

[BonesMS]

Bones - the tomatoes really could've helped! They are like round glowing juicy globes of well-being... from the sensual experience of munching into one... and the actual nutritional content (Vit C, Lycopene)... to the fact that this was your own harvest: you planned, planted, weeded & watered, and the tomato is the "fruit" of your investment of nurturing the plants... and in return, eating one is the tomato returning the favor... nurturing you.

At least, that's how I see growing veggies and herbs...

Thanks, P.R.

That makes sense!  I think the fresher they are, the more nutrition is packed into them.  That's probably why they are better than store-bought.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Which reminds me that I will need to start checking the garden across the street more frequently now that I'm seeing more tomatoes coming in.  They're about the size of my fist and still green but will probably start to ripen very soon.

One thing that got triggered while working in the Community Garden with others was being reminded, inadvertently, of how much I STILL DON'T KNOW regarding the preparation of different vegetables.  One person insisted I take a huge grocery bag of the Chard harvest, another wanted to give me a batch of freshly-harvested pumpkins and I felt embarrassed about admitting to anyone that I had NO idea what to do with them!  I kept having flashbacks to my childhood, trying to teach myself how to cook, using old cookbooks that I found around the house and having the crap beaten out of me for "messing up HER kitchen"!  When my Dad was alive, he used to have a vegetable garden in the backyard.  I found pictures of him puttering among the plants.  Guess who would prepare the harvest?  NOT NWomb-Donor!  That kind of work was BENEATH HER!  As soon as Dad died, that vegetable garden was one of the first things to go!  She didn't want to be bothered with it.  After that, we rarely had fresh vegetables if it required any kind of preparation.  Her concept of "cooking" was opening a tin can and dumping the contents into a pot and then cooking it down to NASTY mush!   

I HATE NOT KNOWING HOW TO DO SIMPLE COOKING WITH A VARIETY OF FRESH FRUITS AND VEGGIES!  I HATE FEELING SO STUPID!!!!

Bones

[Hopalong]

You're NOT stupid, Bones!

Lord, be nicer to yourself.

And how about that wonderful YouTube? Tune into some Food Network, or Cookin' Cheap shows, they're great helps.

You could find a lot of JOY in learning this! It's no difference than learning crochet.

xo
Hops

[BonesMS]

You're NOT stupid, Bones!

Lord, be nicer to yourself.

And how about that wonderful YouTube? Tune into some Food Network, or Cookin' Cheap shows, they're great helps.

You could find a lot of JOY in learning this! It's no difference than learning crochet.

xo
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

I know I need to stop beating myself up.  Lord know, NWomb-Donor did A LOT of that to me growing up!

[BonesMS]

I wish there were face-to-face 3-D resources in my geographic area for Survivors of N's.

[BonesMS]

Struggling with a business-related decision that I have to make and it's tying my stomach up in knots!