Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[sKePTiKal]

Hiya Bones!

I think what FW was getting at, is that you're allowed to have your own special treat (whatever suits you) and enjoy that bit of Christmas cheer... regardless of what does/doesn't happen according to plan or expectation. I don't know about y'all... but I'm finding myself just a tad emotionally needy the closer we get to that "Day". I've been trying to spread my Christmas over the whole time frame from Thanksgiving on... a little here; a little there and spread it out... instead of trying to compress everything into a really short, overtaxing timeframe whirlwind of too much food; too many people, way too many kids, and other people's "rules" about how the holidays are supposed to be.

The world is probably going to be a lot safer (and more pleasant) if I figure out what it is I need and fulfill that... and improvise as needed. Very little goes according to plan this time of year. I'm better off not fighting that and trying to just relax, take care of myself and enjoy myself... even if how I do that would be considered rather eccentric. Do silly things just for yourself to enjoy - it does help.

[BonesMS]

Hiya Bones!

I think what FW was getting at, is that you're allowed to have your own special treat (whatever suits you) and enjoy that bit of Christmas cheer... regardless of what does/doesn't happen according to plan or expectation. I don't know about y'all... but I'm finding myself just a tad emotionally needy the closer we get to that "Day". I've been trying to spread my Christmas over the whole time frame from Thanksgiving on... a little here; a little there and spread it out... instead of trying to compress everything into a really short, overtaxing timeframe whirlwind of too much food; too many people, way too many kids, and other people's "rules" about how the holidays are supposed to be.

The world is probably going to be a lot safer (and more pleasant) if I figure out what it is I need and fulfill that... and improvise as needed. Very little goes according to plan this time of year. I'm better off not fighting that and trying to just relax, take care of myself and enjoy myself... even if how I do that would be considered rather eccentric. Do silly things just for yourself to enjoy - it does help.

Thanks, P.R.

[BonesMS]

Just posting an observation here after watching a case on America's Court with Judge Ross.

I'm listening to the litigants in one case and the defendant is CLEARLY A NARCISSIST, insisting EVERYTHING MUST CIRCULATE AROUND HER!  The behaviors she admitted to were absolutely outrageous, (e.g. pulling down her pants and mooning guests at her sister's engagement party)!     She insisted she wanted to show off her new tattoo that happened to be on her butt!  (Give me a break!   )  At one point, the judge told the defendant that the engagement party and subsequent wedding of the plaintiff/sister IS/WAS NOT ABOUT THE DEFENDANT!  (Helloooo, Narcissist Defendant!)  The judge labeled the relationship between the litigants as "sibling rivalry" and awarded the plaintiff only half what she was suing for, given how much DAMAGE the Narcissist Defendant caused, which was at least $1,500 for starters.  (What planet is he living on or maybe he's never encountered Narcissistic Personality Disorder before.) 

Those of us who have dealt with Narcissists disrupting events in order to grab attention know what a pain in the butt the situation really is!

[BonesMS]

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Woke up at 6:00 AM feeling BLAH!!!!   

[sKePTiKal]

It's this weather system, Bones... windy, drizzly, low barometer...

I've been fighting sinus and head cold type stuff for a week now. It can't decide whether to settle in and make me "sick"... or just keep me on the edge of it. One day it's 70, then it's only 50... I don't know how to dress, except in layers I can peel off.

I should've gotten grapefruit juice yesterday. And tea. My immune system isn't as strong as it should be... so little fluctuations in the weather... little stresses even... are kinda magnified.

[BonesMS]

It's this weather system, Bones... windy, drizzly, low barometer...

I've been fighting sinus and head cold type stuff for a week now. It can't decide whether to settle in and make me "sick"... or just keep me on the edge of it. One day it's 70, then it's only 50... I don't know how to dress, except in layers I can peel off.

I should've gotten grapefruit juice yesterday. And tea. My immune system isn't as strong as it should be... so little fluctuations in the weather... little stresses even... are kinda magnified.

Yup.

That is EXACTLY what it feels like!

[BonesMS]

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This song is one of the MOST POWERFUL I have ever encountered:




http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7M9wkv8gwRo

[BonesMS]

This song has helped me in my growth.

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[BonesMS]

A little while ago, I received a FB posting from an N who was trying to start up her own brand of SOS, (Same Old Sh*t), that she has been doing for over 25 years.  I've come to recognize the pattern...she creates a situation, is warned about the consequences if she continues down that path, insists that it doesn't apply to her because she's "different", then whines that she's the "poor innocent victim" when the consequences bite her in the butt.  Rinse, repeat.  I recognize her attempts at fishing for Narcissistic Supply and I've made it a point to NOT say anything that she wants me to say.

[BonesMS]

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