Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

I wrote a script which I sent to my N mother. She read it and all she could say was there was a typo on page 111. When I asked if she liked it, her excuse for a non-response was that she did not know how to read a screenplay.   It did not win any contests, but received two honorable mentions. Its certainly readable if nothing else.

I hear ya!  The N's just don't care if it's not about them.

[sKePTiKal]

HA. I wonder what would happen if we wrote our N-momsters story from our point of view and they were forced to watch it? Change the setting & details, you know... but keep the facts the same. I wonder if they'd point out how awful the mom is... and then, sanctify themselves and their projections and motives? I'll bet their denial is so strong they'd say how it made them terribly uncomfortable to watch such things because THEY would NEVER do anything like that...

[BonesMS]

HA. I wonder what would happen if we wrote our N-momsters story from our point of view and they were forced to watch it? Change the setting & details, you know... but keep the facts the same. I wonder if they'd point out how awful the mom is... and then, sanctify themselves and their projections and motives? I'll bet their denial is so strong they'd say how it made them terribly uncomfortable to watch such things because THEY would NEVER do anything like that...

True!  In a sense, this reminds me of the time the NQueen got busted in real life by my orthodontist.  (I WISH I had been a fly on the wall for that!)

[BonesMS]

Just needing to vent for a little bit.

Yesterday, I got not just one but TWO robo-calls from the Republican Party demanding the destruction of the Affordable Health Care Act...the Act that is HELPING people like me!  I posted a rant on my FB page about it along with a rant about the current War on Women by the Republican Party.  (Do I sound PISSED OFF?  Yeah!)  After posting my rant on my FB page, one of my cousins posted a comment on my page stating that if I didn't stop voicing what I thought, she would block me from her Newsfeed.  I responded that we can agree to disagree.  I then added to my rant that I would be willing to sit down and shut up if Rush Limbaugh and other misogynist women haters stopped acting like obnoxious twits!!!!

I have a voice and I'm gonna use it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[BonesMS]

here........................

[sKePTiKal]

awwww Bonesy... I do understand about the robocalls. My "intrusion" buttons go off every time.

The one that set me off, was from the EPA. (They surely won't call ME back!!! Recorded an earful.) I mean, my tax money shouldn't be going to call every single home looking for support - and in some cases more money. If your plan or cause requires you robocall the average american household looking for money or support - maybe you need a better plan. I've never belonged to any political party... and I'm not joining any in the foreseeable future either.

But I'm thinking of starting one: Real People for Common Sense and the Common Good. Every once in a while, I read or hear something that reassures me that at least someone in the government still remembers what this is.

[BonesMS]

awwww Bonesy... I do understand about the robocalls. My "intrusion" buttons go off every time.

The one that set me off, was from the EPA. (They surely won't call ME back!!! Recorded an earful.) I mean, my tax money shouldn't be going to call every single home looking for support - and in some cases more money. If your plan or cause requires you robocall the average american household looking for money or support - maybe you need a better plan. I've never belonged to any political party... and I'm not joining any in the foreseeable future either.

But I'm thinking of starting one: Real People for Common Sense and the Common Good. Every once in a while, I read or hear something that reassures me that at least someone in the government still remembers what this is.

Thanks, P.R.

I'm an Independent and prefer to remain that way.

I think what irked me the most about my cousin's comments is that I don't post criticisms about HER religion or political affiliation on HER FB page so what gives her the right to violate my boundaries and attempt to dictate what I SHOULD think, feel, believe, or be allowed to SPEAK?!?!?

The robo-calls from the Republican Party REALLY get my dander up as well as those RICH FAT CATS have NEVER cared about the little person!  All they see is DOLLAR SIGNS to ENRICH THEMSELVES EVEN MORE at MY expense!  GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GEEZ!!!!!

[BonesMS]

As I was reading about this N-supervisor in this article:

http://www.creators.com/advice/at-work-lindsey-novak/game-playing-traps-take-toll-on-subordinate.html

It made me think of a phrase that I've been hearing more frequently:

"You can't fix stupid!"

[BonesMS]

Strange situation that I'm still trying to figure out...

Since the weather was so nice today, I decided to go take a walk around where I live then went over to the main building where the fitness room is.  As I walked through the building, I passed the office where a staff person for property management works and saw she was meeting with the handyman.  Rather than interrupt her meeting, I just waved "hello" and kept on walking to the fitness room.  Unfortunately, due to the timing of Mother Nature, before I could get on the equipment, I needed to make a short "pit stop" so I went into the ladies room to "take care of business".  As I'm sitting in there, I'm hearing one door after another slamming, then the property management employer opened the door to the bathroom to see where I was!     WTF?!?!?!?

She knows me, knows I occasionally walk around where I live!  What gives that she felt compelled to follow me to the bathroom?!?!?!?!?

GEEZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[BonesMS]

This "helicopter mom" sounds just like the way the N-Queen used to act with NGCB!!!  Covert incest, anyone?

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/helicopter-mom-needs-to-come-in-for-a-landing.html

[BonesMS]

I feel sorry for these kids to be stuck with a mother like THAT!!!   

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/demon-rum-and-demon-mum.html

[teartracks]

But I'm thinking of starting one: Real People for Common Sense and the Common Good. Every once in a while, I read or hear something that reassures me that at least someone in the government still remembers what this is.

Hi PR,

This is just my observation of why government is the way it is.  It is an entity without soul.  It doesn't matter how it is structured or how many people under it's auspices agree or disagree on how government handles issues.  It doesn't matter that some/perhaps many intuit a train wreck about to happen because of the stand government takes on issues.  They are mere specks on the wall in the big picture.   Government can't intuit anything - can't.  It has no soul. Therefore, I think all governments, regardless of what they are called sooner or later cannabalize themselves.  In this decade, I think we are seeing a firsthand demonstration of this happening to a number of governments worldwide including our own.  

BUT, if you form the Real People for Common Sense and the Common Good, I'll join!

Ah, what an exciting time to be alive!

tt

[BonesMS]

Some of the letters in Dear Margo have me scratching my head:

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/time-for-psychological-warfare.html

[sKePTiKal]

Hi tt -

Ya know, I think you're right about the no soul for government. As an entity, it's like a person who's been so enmeshed with an Nparent, that it doesn't even know it's own core identity. Or like a child feels in the midst of a contentious divorce; forced to pick sides... sigh. I'm so tired of sky is pink; sky is blue arguments. And blame games. And name-calling and devious "control" games. I think we can use the same lens of psychology to observe and understand what's going on in the "bigger picture" - up to a point. Exactly where that point is, might be fluid - very fluid. The danger is, of course, over-reacting or misreading or "reading into" and looking for ulterior motives.  We've talked entropy before... about how things just stop working because they're too complex. I'm recognizing plenty of this... it hasn't decreased at all... but on the other hand, it hasn't gotten too much worse either. I wonder if that's irrelevant because there is also a positive, creative, productive stream of energy moving along at the same time? Something that just doesn't get media attention because it's just a bunch of people doing what they always do - living their lives the best they know how.

Anyway, for as long as I can remember, most people have not cared, felt it didn't really matter, or that it was completely futile to speak their minds about government issues. "The silent majority". "The little people". I'm feeling that it's time for me to find my voice on those topics. Not screaming, name-calling, or the rediculous extreme metaphors - or blaming - that we see so much of online & in the media. Just raising my hand, calmly saying what I think... planting an idea or making my point... and then going on my way.

Living my life the best way I know how... but not letting some things pass by without addressing them. Calling it as I see it.
This scares the crap out of me but I'm doing it anyway!!

I'm gonna revive the old slogan, revised: "Act Locally, think Globally". Once my house is in order, only then can I help my neighbor, right?

[BonesMS]

Having sleep difficulties this morning...................