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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5432 on: February 01, 2014, 04:58:27 AM »
I've finally given up on trying to make friends anymore.  I've tried going to Meet-ups, where we were supposed to have something in common, only to find myself alone in a crowd....again.  Any attempts at conversation is either met with "crickets" or grunts.  The same thing happens when dealing with either formal or informal gatherings of former high school classmates.....alone in a crowd.  It finally hit me that NONE of these people are friends and they have NO interest in becoming friends no matter what I've tried to do to be friendly.  My next high school reunion is coming up soon and I plan on organizing it again, as that is one of my skills, but I have NO plans on attending.  I've stopped attending the Meet-ups because (1) I can't afford to eat at the restaurant every week, and (2) I'm TIRED of sitting alone in a crowd week after week.  If I have to be alone in a crowd, I might as well save my money, save my gas, save my energy and stay home.  I'm tired of beating my head on a brick wall.  I'm done.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5435 on: February 03, 2014, 02:00:47 AM »
Bones, I am so sorry.
The loneliness you feel must be so hard.

I hope you can find some kind ear, somebody who sees that
Aspie doesn't mean ... don't need anyone.

I hear.

love to you,
Hops
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5436 on: February 03, 2014, 02:57:19 AM »
Bones, I am so sorry.
The loneliness you feel must be so hard.

I hope you can find some kind ear, somebody who sees that
Aspie doesn't mean ... don't need anyone.

I hear.

love to you,
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

Around here, it's hard being an Aspie. 
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5440 on: February 04, 2014, 07:19:34 AM »
I felt a real pang of loss; PSH's acting moved me deeply. I was glad to read Prudie's observations about callousness in her response to to the letter writer. I liked it that the person wrote in, that the situation was in an office rather than a marriage, and that the writer seemed open to learning whether there was something "off" about his/her response...

I thank my lucky stars I never became addicted to anything other than nicotine. I don't understand the "first choice" or threshold moment, when a person chooses to play with fire with drugs so addicting. But likewise, I don't understand how it feels to walk in his shoes --- his sensitivity literally poured off the screen at times, and I can't imagine how celebrity was for him.

Enough pressure can warp granite.

Thanks, Bones.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5441 on: February 04, 2014, 07:23:36 AM »
I felt a real pang of loss; PSH's acting moved me deeply. I was glad to read Prudie's observations about callousness in her response to to the letter writer. I liked it that the person wrote in, that the situation was in an office rather than a marriage, and that the writer seemed open to learning whether there was something "off" about his/her response...

I thank my lucky stars I never became addicted to anything other than nicotine. I don't understand the "first choice" or threshold moment, when a person chooses to play with fire with drugs so addicting. But likewise, I don't understand how it feels to walk in his shoes --- his sensitivity literally poured off the screen at times, and I can't imagine how celebrity was for him.

Enough pressure can warp granite.

Thanks, Bones.

Hops

You're welcome, Hops.

I could speak some regarding my own experiences with addiction and I'll leave that for another time.  My energy level is depleted right now.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5443 on: February 04, 2014, 07:38:49 AM »
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20140204

If some DUMB-ASS FOOL came into MY house and attempted to banish me from MY OWN HOME for HIS convenience, he would find his butt out in the snow so FAST that his head would spin!  MY HOUSE, MY RULES!!!!!!   :P
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« Reply #5444 on: February 04, 2014, 07:45:41 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/nervy-family-resents-new-parents-request-for-day-of-peace.html

Let me get this straight.....

A set of twins are born SEVERAL WEEKS EARLY......these twins had to stay in the NICU in order to SURVIVE....the parents are STRESSED, EXHAUSTED, and WORRIED given the fact that these PREMATURE TWINS ARE STILL FRAGILE and WILL BE FRAGILE FOR QUITE A WHILE!!!! 

But the QUEEN %$#@ of the UNIVERSE is THROWING A TANTRUM because the new parents of the FRAGILE PREEMIES DARED SAY WAIT ONE DAY....THE DAY THEY COME HOME FROM THE NICU?!?!?!?!?!?  And, this SELF-CENTERED, SELF-ABSORBED B*TCH CONTINUES to ABUSE them for the RESPONSIBLE decision they made FOR THEIR OWN FAMILY?!?!?!?!

This sounds PAINFULLY FAMILIAR!!!

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