Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[Gaining Strength]

Referring to your post about "one of these weeks" care to share what's going on?

[BonesMS]

Referring to your post about "one of these weeks" care to share what's going on?

Thanks, G.S.

I'm having a combination of not sleeping well plus my asthma has been bothering me every time the landscapers come around.  Not fun.

[BonesMS]

Just got a message a short while ago, from my half-sister's grandson, informing me that his mother, my half-sister's daughter wants to know my street address, phone number, e-mail address, etc., etc.  I responded back that it's simply easier to contact me via e-mail.  I have no intention of giving her any more information than that.  The last time she and I saw each other face-to-face was immediately after NWomb-Donor died and I was treated as if I were less than human.  When her mother, my half-sister died, I was excluded.  Any attempts from me to communicate was met with hostility.  So WHY does she want to know where I live now?  My  trust was trashed years ago so I prefer to keep them all at arm's length.

I look back on what took place ...  in 1997 I was dealing with the deaths of an adopted sister and NWombDonor within a four month span.  Three years later, in 2000, my half-sister also dies so I'm dealing with a lot of loss from 1997 to 2000.  During that time frame and afterward, this particular bunch couldn't be bothered to treat me like I was human, let alone family.  I learned to live my life without them.  I don't trust any of them and I haven't forgotten how they made me feel when I was dealing with several deaths in the family at one time.  I don't like being kicked while I'm down.  They can just leave me alone.

What I find ironic is that years ago, this particular individual attempted to DENY that I was "legitimately" related because she DENIED that my father ever married NWombDonor.  (I have DOCUMENTED PROOF that they were married!  She tried to declare that those documents are forgeries and that I'm "too retarded" to know what I'm talking about!  I don't appreciate being called "illegitimate" and I DESPISE being called "retarded"!  I AM NEITHER!)  Now with the DNA test stating 99%, she CAN'T DENY the DNA!  When I sent the message back that the ONLY way she'll be permitted to contact me is through e-mail, I haven't heard a peep.  If my refusal to OBEY her has pissed her off ....  TOO EFFING BLOODY BAD!  After dumping on me and cursing my father to my face, I don't forget that kind of abuse!

Just as I expected, I have not heard a peep from that particular crowd since.  I've lived without them this long and I can continue to live without them.

[Gaining Strength]

Bones, I hate that they would stir things up and not follow through. I hear that you are not  surprised but how nice it would be if they would let sleeping dogs lie.

[BonesMS]

Bones, I hate that they would stir things up and not follow through. I hear that you are not  surprised but how nice it would be if they would let sleeping dogs lie.

Exactly!  They treated me as if I were a pile of crap for years so I don't need their crap now.

[Gaining Strength]

Nope, you don't need it and don't deserve it.

[BonesMS]

Nope, you don't need it and don't deserve it.

Thanks, G.S.

[Hopalong]

Oy, jeez.
With "family" like THAT, you need friends.

And you deserve them, ((((Bones))))

xo
Hops

[BonesMS]

Oy, jeez.
With "family" like THAT, you need friends.

And you deserve them, ((((Bones))))

xo
Hops

Thanks, (((Hops))).

[BonesMS]

Went to work in the community garden this morning and came home feeling aggravated.  One part of the garden is supposed to be Butterfly Friendly as the butterflies have been badly affected lately.  The "master gardener" was all set to start killing the caterpillars that she started to look for and I told her to live 'em alone!  Her response?  "But...the caterpillars are eating all the Butterfly Friendly plants and leaving nothing for the butterflies!"  I responded:  "WHERE do you think BUTTERFLIES COME FROM?  CATERPILLARS!"  She gave me this "Huh?" expression and I walked away.  I thought a "master gardener" should be familiar with the pollinators that help the plants in the garden!  I've RAISED butterflies from eggs, through the caterpillar and chrysalis stage, then released the butterflies into the environment.  I just don't get some people!!!!

[BonesMS]

It seems the older I get, the more N-Idiots pluck my last nerve!  Last night, at a Star Trek fan club meeting, we were discussing the scheduled appearance of Leonard Nimoy via Skype at the upcoming convention on Sunday.  Since Mr. Nimoy will be home in Los Angeles during the Skype, I'm presuming that his appearance will take place on Sunday afternoon, East Coast time.  The president of our club, who is an N, kept complaining about Mr. Nimoy's schedule and kept whining about "why can't he appear Friday evening or some time on Saturday?"  I pointed out to the N that beginning at sundown Friday evening until sundown on Saturday is SHABBAT ... Mr. Nimoy's SABBATH and that he is OBSERVANT of that SABBATH!  The N kept complaining that Mr. Nimoy's schedule was still "inconvenient".  I was grinding my teeth and counting long under my breath to fight the urge to go off on the fool!   

He was also whining about not being able to use his brother's car while his brother was out of town ... ignoring the fact that the LAST time he used his brother's car, he TRASHED it and stuck his brother with the expense of repairing what he TRASHED. And he wonders WHY his brother won't let him touch his car again?  N-Idiot went so far as to BLAME THE CAR for the damage instead of looking at his own behaviors!  (The brother has also gone incommunicado with N-Idiot which I don't think is a small coinky-dink!)

Something tells me that this club is slowly falling apart.  Attendance is getting smaller and smaller each month.  Even the president's own brother has stopped attending.  Last night's meeting was spent listening to the president whinge, non-stop, about how his brother won't do what HE wants.  He even went so far as to describe his brother as an extension of himself!     If that isn't pure N-ism, I don't know what is! 

[Gaining Strength]

The Ns are everywhere!

[BonesMS]

The Ns are everywhere!

Unfortunately, yes!

[BonesMS]

Well, I am rapidly reaching SMACKDOWN point with the N-president of our club!  Our club also has the ability to send e-mail blasts to each other so that everyone gets the same information at the same time.  I posted some possible suggestions for our next meeting, which also included a few details about a pool party they could also attend if they so wish.  One member asked when the pool party was scheduled and I responded to his question with additional information.  Then the N-president sticks his nose in with an e-mail to everybody proclaiming:  "WHAT HE REALLY MEANS ... BLAH, BLAH, BLAH!!!"  I responded back that this member did NOT need an interpreter and that he can easily speak for himself and follow up with additional e-mails asking for more clarification, if needed.  N-president keeps trucking with "BUT I KNOW EVERYTHING AND WHAT HE REALLY MEANS ... BLAH, BLAH, BLAH!"  My second response was a bit more blunt than my first, basically telling N-president to BACK OFF!  Then I asked the member to share his thoughts regarding the pool party he had asked me about. 

If N-president comes back a THIRD time with his crap, then the gloves are coming off and he's going to get a SMACK-DOWN!  MY PATIENCE IS GONE!

[BonesMS]

Found myself battling a panic attack when I went to the grocery store for supplies.  I HATE it when that happens!  There's no logical reason for the agoraphobia!