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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6510 on: February 07, 2015, 04:00:16 PM »
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« Reply #6512 on: February 08, 2015, 05:02:19 AM »
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« Reply #6513 on: February 09, 2015, 05:44:54 AM »
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« Reply #6514 on: February 09, 2015, 05:51:53 AM »
I think I'll start planning on having more Reiki sessions to take care of myself.  I just need to save up for it as insurance doesn't pay for that.
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« Reply #6515 on: February 09, 2015, 10:19:24 AM »
So glad you found something that helps.

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« Reply #6516 on: February 09, 2015, 11:49:10 AM »
So glad you found something that helps.

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« Reply #6518 on: February 10, 2015, 04:26:01 AM »
Spoke to my niece and ex-sister-in-law on the phone for the first time last night.  VERY enlightening!  I gave my ex-sister-in-law some details of what life was like dealing with NWomb-Donor and we had to try and survive a Narcissistic Rage-aholic.  I didn't go into a lot of details as my young niece was listening in and I felt that my niece didn't need to know THAT about her Dad.  What little I shared prompted my ex-sister-in-law to comment:  "NOW all his warped behaviors MAKE SENSE!"  It felt as if I gave a missing piece of the puzzle and she could see the whole picture.
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« Reply #6519 on: February 10, 2015, 09:18:38 AM »
Just chatted a little more with my ex-sister-in-law and learned more about how NGCB behaved while he was in his second marriage.  He LIED to her regarding just about EVERYTHING!  I told her that the nut didn't fall far from the tree as the NWomb-Donor carefully taught him and groomed him to be just like her.  Yeah, she brainwashed him to blindly follow her example.  That's when I realized that any hope I had of him mellowing out and being willing to rebuild a healthy sibling relationship with me was nothing more than a pipe dream.  NWomb-Donor had permanently f**ked him up GOOD!  It just pisses me off at how he hurt other innocent people for his own self-gratification just like the NC**T did when she was alive!  DAMMIT!!!!

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« Reply #6520 on: February 11, 2015, 04:28:16 AM »
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« Reply #6522 on: February 13, 2015, 06:09:54 AM »
Was chatting with my ex-sister-in-law and niece online yesterday about our favorite subject....genealogy.  They have been struggling with a "brick wall" for years and shared that with me.  All they had to go on was a nickname and a possible surname that was unproven.  To complicate things more, the ancestor they were searching for has the traditional Spanish naming pattern which makes names even longer but all they had to go on was the ONE possible surname!

I asked them to give me whatever clues they've been able to find over the years, jotted them down, and started my own search in the resources that I've been using for years.  I found quite a few possibilities in the Census records, copied the links and sent them over to my ex-sister-in-law and asked her what she thought of them.  She typed back, "OH MY GOD!"  I asked her if I had hit the jackpot and she replied that I just found her Great-Uncle listed with his family while he was STILL A CHILD!  Her "brick wall" came tumbling down and she was able to find more of her ancestors!!!!

That kind of success feels so good!   :D
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« Reply #6523 on: February 14, 2015, 04:30:38 AM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6524 on: February 15, 2015, 04:08:18 AM »
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