Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Bones,

I hear lack of respect, entitlement, grandiosity................. = well you know what

I think Ns always violate others boundaries, its a game, even if the consequences are to their own detriment.  It's like the little kid putting their hand on the hot stove, they are told do not do this, it will hurt you but they go right ahead and do it and until they suffer enough they will continue to do it.  The difference with Ns is that they don't care about cost, they get some sort of buzz out of breaking the rules and who it hurts in the process well, hell, they are only objects.

axa

You're right, Axa!  That is an accurate description!

Bones

[Poppyseed]

Sounds like a perfect description, Axa!  Wish I didn't get sucked into the game so easily.  I feel like the movie Poltergiest  --"Go to the light, Carol Ann!"

[BonesMS]

I'm waiting to see how Mom's birthday party turns out this evening.  Should be interesting!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Mom did real well on her 90th birthday party.  Said "friend" was another story when she attempted to give all of us one fresh tomato each as "party favors".  The other guests and I looked at her as if she had lost her mind!

Bones

[Ami]

Dear Bones.
  I think that my Mother  has  ANOTHER  LIFE  AS  YOUR  FRIEND.

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones.
  I think that my Mother  has  ANOTHER  LIFE  AS  YOUR  FRIEND.

It makes me wonder where their brains are!!!!  Sheesh!!!!

Bones

[JanetLG]

Dear Bones.
  I think that my Mother  has  ANOTHER  LIFE  AS  YOUR  FRIEND.

It makes me wonder where their brains are!!!!  Sheesh!!!!

Bones

Up their bottoms.


Janet

[BonesMS]

So true!  So true!!

During the birthday dinner, said "friend" "accidentally" divulged the address of another sister after this particular sister had emphasized NOT to do so!!!  (This sister has her reasons that do not involve me.)  "Friend" immediately follows up with "You have instant amnesia!", then with "I ASSUME it's okay!"  All I did was roll my eyes.     I have a gut feeling that I'm going to be eventually getting a phone call, in the near future, about how this other sister tore her a new you-know-what because of her persistence in blathering mindlessly while listening to NOTHING!  Sheesh!!!

Bones

[changing]

Hi Miss Bones!

I thought we should plan a party for your friend- I could whip up an onion cherry liver cake with tofu raspberry-garlic frosting, and as for her gifts, we could wrap up a lovely rutabaga, some pretty rhubarb, and pour some carrot juice in a (flimsy) box! Atop the cake, using kippers, we can write "Bug off, Bug -a-loo!"

Hugs,

Changing

P.S. Block her calls to your cell during hotline duty!

Love,

C.

[JanetLG]

Changing,

You forgot about something for her to drink...what about 'cat's wee surprise'?

Janet

[changing]

Missy Janet-

You are, as always, the consumate hostess! The perfect touch! Thank you for the incredibly infernal suggestion!

Love from your friend,

Changing

[Ami]

NOW---  we are having an interesting discussion                                       Ami

[BonesMS]

Hi Miss Bones!

I thought we should plan a party for your friend- I could whip up an onion cherry liver cake with tofu raspberry-garlic frosting, and as for her gifts, we could wrap up a lovely rutabaga, some pretty rhubarb, and pour some carrot juice in a (flimsy) box! Atop the cake, using kippers, we can write "Bug off, Bug -a-loo!"

Hugs,

Changing

P.S. Block her calls to your cell during hotline duty!

Love,

C.

 

Thanks, Changing!

Also, I make it a point of just shutting the phone off completely while I'm on duty so that any calls automatically go to my voice mail where I can screen them.

Bones

[BonesMS]

The thought just occurred to me that when said "friend" thoughtlessly blathered her sister's address to everyone at the dinner table, she mindlessly violated that sister's boundary as well.  She also attempted to justify this violation by stating that this sister "chose not to attend the party"!  (The sister in question has a teenage son and his needs come first.  That is what mothers usually do if they are not Ns.)  Then she has the nerve to wonder why we all get irritated at her while she attempts to act unintelligent about what she just did and continues to have her head up her own bottom!  Sheesh!!!   

Bones

[BonesMS]

I think she's gotten the message as she has left me alone for now.

Bones