From One of the People Asking For a Safe Spot on the Board

[JanetLG]

Authentic pulled it, ( she was the one who'd started the thread).


Janet

[CB123]

Beth,

I can't believe that someone would send you a PM like that, knowing that you would know who it came from.  Wouldnt they worry that you would out them?  I think, actually, that I would.  That's abuse--not just a difference of opinion.  I don't think abuse is entitled to privacy.  And people who abuse count on the darkness of silence to cover them.

If you don't feel comfortable outing them, can you send the PM to Dr. G?  Would that matter?

I'm so sorry, Beth.  

Love
CB

[JanetLG]

I don't think ANYONE should feel they have to leave because of harrassment.


And that's what we were discussing on the moderator thread - how we can get to a point of support for ALL people here who want to speak in safety.

I hope you don't leave, Authentic. You have too much to offer, to people who want to hear you.

Janet

[isittoolate]

hi Beth,

I have a post "asserting myself"-- and it has turned into me and my broken leg.  (Likely a 9 month deal) I don't begin many posts, and I try to respond to what I feel I might have some reasonable input, but I steer clear, pretty well, of N-mothers, N-husbands still present, and N-children.

My frames of reference are the N my daughter married and the N I got mixed up with and left 5 years ago.

I am in therapy to find out who I am!
Loive
YzzI

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[gratitude28]

Izzy,
Thanks for the flowers and sorry I haven't kept up!!! I will check it all out and see what the news is
Love, Beth

[Gaining Strength]

Gratitude - How deeply disappointed I am to know that anyone would send such a hateful PM.  I am truly disappointed that we seem to be going through yet another period of unkindness here.  It seems to come and go in waves.  I so long for a community that is supportive and encouraging of one another OR can just let those we disagree with alone. 

My heart aches that you have received that message. - your friend - Gaining Strength

(I'm also sad that someone here is so filled with such anger as to lash out rather than simply ignore.)

[Gaining Strength]

what is the moderator thread?

[teartracks]

Hi Beth,

I'm curious about your Subject line.  I can't tell if you're saying you want a Safe Spot on the board or if you're saying the UGLY PMer is advocating a Safe Spot.  I'm a little thick headed today.  Must be the vacuuming!  

tt

[gratitude28]

It was from the Moderator thread. One of the people who was saying we need a safe board was the one who sent me this. Kinda ironic, eh??

[teartracks]

Yes.  Ironic.  Crazymaking.  I guess an habitual  A - hole will be one no matter what or whom...

tt

[gratitude28]

Thanks for the giggle TT. 

[Gaining Strength]

Authentic - I missed all of that.  I have been reading very little lately because I have been looking for inspiration and encouragement.  I don't believe that meanness is ever allright and while I have learned to overlook posts that I find unhelpful the issue of meanness is yet another thing all together.

One of the problems with confronting such meanness is that the confrontation does not curtail it, it escalates it at least in this environment.  It is a very, very sticky situation.  On one occasion I saw something that I thought reprehensible (it was not meanness but dogmatic) I chose to respond to the recipient via a PM.  It was risky but I could not stand by and say nothing and yet I felt that posting re: the matter would have made things worse.

You are bringing up a very, very important but difficult matter.  In this case because the sender has not been identified we can all make comments and pontificate but the matter is not exploding before us.  I don't mind weighing in because I am commenting about the words and cannot be interpreted as commenting about a person.  When it is in the midst of a dialogue everything is taken personal and becomes explosive quickly.

It is  a terrible dilemma.

[Hopalong]

Hi Beth,
Did you know there is a BLOCK SENDER function in your PM Inbox?

(((((((())))))) 

Hops

[Gaining Strength]

I went to my e-mail box to check this.  Exactly where is it?

[gratitude28]

Thanks Hops. I never thought to do this as I have only ever received kind messages.
I appreciate the help.