From One of the People Asking For a Safe Spot on the Board

[JanetLG]

GS,

If you click on the blue box that says 'Profile' above here (4th from left) , then choose modify in the left hand margin, and then Personal Message Options, you can key in the email details of the people you want to block.


Janet

[Hopalong]

Hi GS,
Actually it's under Profile (one of the top navigation buttons).
Then you'll select:

Profile
Modify Profile
Personal Message Options
"Ignore List"

Hops

[Gaining Strength]

Thanks Hops and Janet

[Starfish]

  I have been an infrequent flier on this board, in addition to being new.
I have been so happy to see only nurturing and love from the posters, and that has given me hope.
and then I came on today and saw strife,and discord.  what happened?

I am sorry that you were subject to a nasty email.  That is the exact type of behavior that brought us here in the first place, no?

[gratitude28]

Thanks, Starfish, don't let a little odd day turn you off. The people here are very kind. I put this PM out there because I wanted the person to know I would not stand for it. As I said earlier, for too long in my life, I rolled over and tried to please everyone.
I am glad you are here. I have not read your story yet, but plan to very soon.
This is a good place and these are good people.
Love, Beth

[Overcomer]

Part of me says ALWAYS out a mean person-PM or on the open board.  Au was pretty specific today about leaving her alone and I think she was only mad at one specifically.  Beth told us the message but I do not know who sent it-tell us Beth!  I wanna know who sent it.  Why not?  They had the audacity to say it, why not out them?  Meanness should never be tolerated but a differing opinion SHOULD!  That is one of my biggest beefs with mom-if you do not agree with her you are the enemy!  Not here!

[Bella_French]

Dear gratitude,

I am really sorry to hear about the message you received. It disturbs me thinking that someone out there is abusing you in private. Is there anything else you would like us to do to help? Personally, I'd like to know who the member is, but I can respect your decision either way.

X Bella

[G101]

Beth, you were asked this:

Beth, can you please chime in here and tell people it wasn't me -- I'm hearing (maybe in my paranoia) silent accusations.

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In response you wrote this:

Sure, authentic. It was not she who wrote me the message.
Love, Beth

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The full stop between the name "Authentic"  and the next sentence which refers to "she" makes it seem like you're talking about two different people.

Can you please write a statement clearing my name of this deed.

If I have anything to say to anyone, I would say it right here on the board, as most of the people here who can't stand me will attest.

Thank you.

[gratitude28]

Authentic did not write the message.

Storm, that is rough. That goes way beyond this.

All of us need help here - even the person who sent me this letter. I am sorry she feels so strongly against me, but it does not upset me or scare me. I feel sorry that she is so unhappy.

If someone were to do this to you, new member or old member, I believe you need to deal with them calmly, by either reporting the person to Dr. G or allowing them to see their own words, as I did. Letting a person like this affect you is letting someone STILL control you. We need to keep this board for us, and for new people. We have our great new section with stories... we need a place here where people can ask questions and have mature answers.

Dealing with bullies, alas, is also one of life's lessons. It has been a hard one for me. But I feel like I am in a good place now.

There were two people who dod this to me before - and I was scared and upset. I have grown and learned. I did not do this for sensationalism. I did it to show the person I will not tolerate it and I hope it will help others as well.

I love this board and the people here.

Beth

[gratitude28]

Remeber a long time back (someof you will), bean and RM were pretty heated in their arguments with one another. The got rhough it, dealt with it like adults, and are both very important and helpful members here. It happens.

[G101]

I did write the message -- I am asking you to exonerate me from the innuendo that I wrote that response -- if you look back in history I wrote as Guest 101 when I first came back here.

I did not ever want to become a member because of what has just happened.

I remember Beth, you said that I would never have to prostrate myself to be heard again, because I said this has been my life long issue.

Beth, do I have to beg you to say:  Authentic did not write this message?

I am begging you -- if it makes you feel better -- to say Authentic did not send me this PM message.

[gratitude28]

Authentic did not send me this message. I wrote this post somewhere already this morning. Don't know why it isn't here.
If you look at the message above it states what you asked there.

[Overcomer]

She said it like three times.  We believe you Authentic!

[G101]

Maybe I didn't notice it because of the way it is said:

Cold, dismissive. Uncaring -- that is the way it reads  to me.

I guess I am looking for:  Oh, oops -- oh, sorry -- my bad -- don't worry hun -- it's okay

I am still doing it, aren't I -- even now.

Trying to get someone who won't  -- to show that they care, like my mother wouldn't.  It is almost embarrassing.

[JanetLG]

Authentic,

I really care about you. It was glaaringly obvious yesterday that you hadn't written that PM to gratitude, for anyone who had eyes to see (and ears to listen).

Would you please PM me?

Janet